Mighty Thirst: The Neighbor

Warming your hands against your mug is the entire reason for Fall. Take a thermos over next door and settle in for a little gossip.

The Neighbor

– 1/2 shot of Basil Hayden
– a splash of Grand Marnier
– top off with Constant Comment tea from Bigelow
– Agave nectar to taste
– Sprig of bruised rosemary to garnish

Here’s to pumpkin patches, elbow patches, and friends who bring you soup when you’re sick. What are you toasting this week?

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Mighty Closet: Molly Ditmore

I can’t think of Molly Ditmore without picturing her name as an exclamation. MOLLY!

The girl is intrepid.

This photo was taken at Burning Man — which I’ve never attended due to dust, and inhibition.

Molly is less inhibited than me, by a profound margin. But just as fond of costumes. And gin.

We schemed this Mighty Closet for a while because Molly wanted to be back in her favorite clothes after the birth Mabel, whose cheeks cannot be underestimated. I’m teaching her how to say “MOLLY!”

Gaaah! My eyes water with the restraint it takes not to bite her. Hold still you hubbity bundle of perfection! I want to kiss your squealy head!

Now where were we? Before becoming a full-time mama Molly was a couture pattern-maker and seamstress, and before that a writer, editor and PR hustler in Bay Area tech.

Tell us what you’re wearing, sis.

Mighty Closet Molly Ditmore Title Shot | Mighty Girl

Hi, I’m Molly. (ed: MOLLY!) This jumpsuit is one of my favorite things. It’s on the wavelength of a vintage picnic dress but more modern and urban. I packed it on a trip to New York and had visions of myself walking up Fifth Avenue.

Mighty Closet: Molly Ditmore | Mighty Girl

But I couldn’t wear it because no one was home to tie me in.

Mighty Closet: Molly Ditmore | Mighty Girl

It’s très chic for sitting in Dolores Park with a large hat or swanning around a pool party in Sonoma. San Francisco summer arrives in late September, so I’m putting this in heavy rotation. Kate Spade sunnies.

Mighty Closet Molly Ditmore Jumper Jewelry Detail | Mighty Girl

The metal necklace is from Fab.com. The silver dogwood ring is from Collage Gallery in Potrero Hill.

Mighty Closet: Molly Ditmore | Mighty Girl

I am a fan of bright shoes — bold colors look best against my pale legs. These blue suede sandals from J. Crew have a comfortably low heel.

Mighty Closet: Molly Ditmore | Mighty Girl

This is a great day-into-night look. I recently wore this to the playground and then to a Friday Nights at the DeYoung Museum event. For daytime, this is my standard uniform: a short black jacket with the T-shirt plus boots or Keds.

Mighty Closet Molly Ditmore Scarf Detail | Mighty Girl

I like a little detailing in my basics. This black Funky Monkey T-shirt with the cut-out shoulders is a nice surprise under a cardigan or jacket. I bought it at the dearly departed Shotwell boutique in downtown San Francisco.

The Hermés scarf was a birthday gift from my husband. The motif at the center is a man and woman wrapped in an embrace.

These scarves are huge and can be tricky to tie (unless you are French and it’s in your DNA). Tying it without looking in a mirror seems to work best for me. The silver cuff bracelet is a souvenir from Cambodia.

The lipstick is Kate Moss for Rimmel London No. 12. I never look at drugstore makeup but there was pretty Kate, luring me in.

Mighty Closet: Molly Ditmore | Mighty Girl

These United Nude Fold Deluxe shoes are made of elastic and have a suede heel. I bought mine at Paolo in Hayes Valley.

Mighty Closet: Molly Ditmore | Mighty Girl

This is Moxie, the family dog, blocking your view of my perfect-length J Brand jeans. Fine, Moxie, have at it:

Mighty Closet Molly Ditmore Pup | Mighty Girl

Scene stealer.

Mighty Closet Molly Ditmore Skirt and Top | Mighty Girl

This trompe l’oiel sweater reminds me of the famous Schiaparelli bowknot sweater. Short-sleeve sweaters are great in San Francisco’s nine-months-of-autumn climate. This one came from the cashmere department at Bloomingdale’s, probably the best place to buy an investment-type sweater. Fabric quality seems better than the stuff from lower-end shops (which is likely cat hair judging by the way my eyes react).

Mighty Closet Molly Ditmore Skirt and Top Bracelet Detail | Mighty Girl

I’ve owned this fit ‘n’ flare skirt for at least six years. Floating Shift typewriter key bracelet was purchased at Urban Air Market in Hayes Valley.

Mighty Closet Molly Ditmore Skirt and Top Shoe Detail | Mighty Girl

The Frye T-strap shoes are also oldies-but-goodies. They are brown suede with a metallic silver coating and they match everything in my closet. I can bike in them, walk in them and dance in them, so they’re as comfortable as 3-inch heels get.

Mighty Closet Molly Ditmore  Red Dress + Scene-Stealer | Mighty Girl

Moxie! Move it.

I made this dress as part of my final line at Apparel Arts’ pattern-making and fashion design program. It’s made from tropical wool which is a dream to sew. French cuffs on the short sleeves are a nod to my favorite womens’ uniforms: 1960s flight attendants and diner waitresses. It gets a lot of play on the ladies-who-lunch circuit.

Mighty Closet Molly Ditmore Red Dress Detail | Mighty Girl

This dress is obviously retro-inspired so to keep it modern I wear trendy accessories. The gold-tone House of Harlowe 5 Station Necklace from Bell Jar on Valencia Street was such a score. I thought the grey bits were enamel until I wore it and realized it’s inlaid leather.

Mighty Closet Molly Ditmore Baby with Purse | Mighty Girl

When I walked out in this Kate Spade dress Maggie said “You must have worn that a hundred times.” No, actually, it’s pretty new. “Well it was worth whatever you paid for it.” Total reinforcement! The moment I tried it on I knew it was a magic dress. Holidays, dinners, weddings… I plan on driving this sucker into the ground. It’s made from a heavy jersey knit fabric and the neckline is crochet.

Mighty Closet Molly Ditmore Necklace Detail | Mighty Girl

My grandmother’s pearls are special-occasion jewelry; this dress works equally well with something chunky and modern.

My mother carried this green patent-leather purse as part of her going-away suit from her wedding in 1967. The construction is sturdier than you see on handbags today.

Mighty Closet Molly Ditmore Baby Feeding Dog | Mighty Girl

I bought these pumps in Paris after crushing on them through a store window every day for two weeks. They are timeless and a bit weird. The brass hardware brings a tough element that balances out the girlie ensemble.

In other news, Mabel will not stop feeding the dog from her snack cup. It drives me nuts.

Mighty Closet Molly Ditmore Baby | Mighty Girl

But you try getting mad when she looks at you like this.

Come on kid, you’re killing me here.

Happiest shoot on record. In the future, I shall require that all Mighty Closet subjects rent redheaded babies and puppies before I come over. Big thanks to Molly (MOLLY!), and Mabel, and Moxie for making my afternoon.

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Mighty Summit 2012

• Attend a state dinner
• Take breakdancing lessons
• Learn to apply false eyelashes

The best thing about Mighty Summit is reading everyone’s Life Lists. It’s like speed dating for your brain.

Though reading everyone’s posts afterward is a close second:

“We stayed at Boon Hotel + Spa for the weekend. The air up there was just so clean. I felt like I could breathe deeper.” – Meg Biram of Mimi+Meg

• Have a sexy marriage
• Own 200 dresses
• Help someone through college

Reading someone’s goals gives me the same thrill I used to get when I first started reading personal websites in the early days of the Internet. You get to know about someone before you dive into knowing them for real. It gives you so many good places to start, so many chances to find their most sympathetic side.

“Each woman at Mighty Summit brought a life list. 100 or so things she wanted to accomplish over her lifetime. And on our last day together we picked five that we want to tackle in the next year. It sounds like it could be a little hippie-dippie woo-woo (and we all know I’m totally hippie-dippie woo-woo) but it was truly powerful.” – Kathleen Shannon of Braid Creative


“There is power in sharing your goals, in being vulnerable, and frankly, in being willing to fail. To really live out our dreams, we need to be prepared for the possibility that we won’t achieve them. It’s easy to make a list of things we can easily do (and there’s a need for that too), but to get to the heart of the matter, we need to dive in, leave fear behind, and say what we really, really want.” – Elizabeth Stark of Brooklyn Supper

• See North Korea
• Own a popcorn machine
• Take up barefoot running

It’s scary speaking your hopes out loud. I used to worry that I’d fail to achieve something I said I wanted. Or oddly, I worried that I would succeed, which means you can no longer define yourself by your struggle for a particular dream. What does it mean once you’ve written the book, had the kid, climbed the mountain? What next?

• Renovate a barn
• Drive a stick shift
• Be a junior member of the Explorer’s Club

Hoping for these things suggests that you deserve them. You never know how the people around you will react to that, or even how you will. I think that’s why so many people disdain this kind of emotional exercise. It’s easier to laugh at the idea of improving yourself, or your lot, than it is to face the terrifying vulnerability of claiming something better for yourself, and then attempting it.


“…as we went around the circle sharing dreams and goals of all scales of magnitude — the redwoods towering over us in an appropriately protective fashion — one by one, deep breaths were taken, souls were bared, vulnerabilities shared, help asked for. And 30 women became stronger by way of dipping their toes (sometimes their whole body) into a pool of vulnerability.” – Christine Koh of Boston Mamas


“The whole retreat was a perfect mix of socialization and thoughtful contemplation.” – Catie Nienaber of Cuffington

Talking about Life Lists is filling for me. It’s an exercise in trust, and an education in possibility.


“I left Might Summit with a better sense of self than I’ve had in quite some time. Goals clearly outlined, plans written down, proposals in the works.” – Kelly Beall of Design Crush

So what are you hoping for yourself? Who can help get you there? And if you had to choose, just five things to knock off your life list this year, what would they be?

Thanks, Rebels!

Thank You | Mighty Girl

A couple of weeks ago, I announced that team Mighty would donate $500 to Charity Water once 100 people had posted photos of themselves wearing white after Labor Day to the Tide Vivid White + Bright Rule Breakers of the Week Contest on Facebook.

Through your  efforts, we reached that goal, allowing us to pledge $500 toward our Camp Mighty Charity Water fundraising project this November.

Thank you so much to all of you who took the time to defy tradition, share your photos, and make a real difference for those in need.

Interested in working with us to help out even more? Learn more about this amazing organization that helps deliver safe, clean water to people around the world — and, support our Charity Water project for Camp Mighty.

Image courtesy Maile Wilson of Epiphanie Bags. I’m saying something like “You guys rule!”

Life List Uniforms: Attend the Kentucky Derby

This post is sponsored by eBay. From the new to the hard to find, when it’s on your mind, it’s on eBay.

If you’re wondering how I plan to pony up the cash to open a Swiss bank account, the answer is, ponies! Well technically, horses.

Attending the Kentucky Derby is on my Life List, and mama needs a new pair of shoes. Rousing Sermon, I have my eye on you from under this hot pink double-bow. Gold flats, you can say the same.

Life List Uniforms: Attend the Kentucky Derby | Mighty Girl

1. The Brass Age Bracelet | 2. Anthropologie Boucle Racerback Dress | 3. Maggie Mae Designs Hat | 4. Michael Kors Pint Ostrich Handbag (via eBay) | 5. Hello Horse iPhone Case | 6. Tory Burch Flats in Gold (via eBay) | 7. Foley and Corrina Clutch in Red (via eBay) | 8. Warby Parker Trilliny Sunglasses

Now, where can a girl get a julep?


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Mighty Summit Giveaway: Congratulations to Our Winners!

Mighty Summit | Mighty Girl

Last week, Laura Mayes and I announced the Mighty Summit giveaway, offering two lucky commenters the incredible gifts — Tieks! Epiphanie and Lands’ End Bags! Jewelry! Life-changing books! — enjoyed by Mighty Summit attendees earlier this month.

The results are in, and congratulations to our number 1357, Ursula! (Life List goal: Wear a fresh-picked Hibiscus flower in my hair, in Hawaii.) Laura announced our other winner on her Blog con Queso earlier today.

Congratulations you two, and thank you to all who participated!

Photo credit: Maile Wilson of Epiphanie Bags.

Hugs, Kisses, Big Naps

I haven’t slept very much in the last few weeks.

I hosted a W.A.S.P.-Off Challenge for Labor Day, and the fourth-annual Mighty Summit, attended the first-ever XOXO Festival, and now I’m in New York for the Social Good Summit, attending as one of the United Nations Social Good Fellows. (Which whaaaa? No big deal, just hangin’ with the UN, you guys. We should totes go dancing with the Secretary General later.)

So things have been going well, right? Very well. I’m feeling happy, and grateful, and in need of a three-day coma.

Woof. I have so much to tell you, team. Let’s meet here next week for some good, long chats. I’ll bring the Secretary General, you bring the beer.

Free Stuff! Mighty Summit Gift Giveaway

When we were pulling together gifts for the Mighty Summit, we set a few aside to give away.

If you’d like to enter to win one, please share an item from your Life List in the comments below. One winner will be chosen from comments on this site, the other from Mighty Summit co-founder Laura Mayes’s Blog Con Queso.

Now for the fine print: Please only leave one comment on each site, because it’s the nice thing to do, and also because multiple entries will be disqualified. I’ll use random.org to select the winner, and I’ll announce who won at the top of this post and in a separate post next Wednesday. You have to live in the United States or Canada to enter, because holy holy the shipping is ludicrous if you don’t. Fingers crossed for you.

Update: We have two winners, announced here and here. Thank you to all who participated!

Here’s what’s up for grabs:

Mighty Summit Giveaway | Mighty Girl

1. Ephiphanie Camera Bag by Maile Wilson (shown in top and side views)
These compartmentalized camera totes were designed by Summit photographer Maile Wilson, who used to wrap her DSLR in a towel and shove it in her purse. Sound familiar? Contest winners can choose form any of the designs and colors shown on the site. So you should probably get a yellow one.

2. Chevron Necklace by Feisty Elle
This delicate wood necklace is by San Francisco designer Leslie Yang of Feisty Elle, who makes light easy pieces that make you look pulled together in jeans and a T-shirt. We love this necklace because it resembles an arrow, which is a symbol of courage.

3. Tieks by Gavrieli
Gah! These are my favorite things. Tieks are beautifully made, non-skid flats that fold up to fit in your purse. Once you try them on, they’ll never leave your feet, and they stand up to years of daily wear. Contest winner can choose among the rainbow of fruit flavors available on the Tieks website.

4. Scarf by Mixed Bag Design
These soft scarves go with everything, and the Mixed Bag website allows you to hold fundraisers for causes close to your heart.

5. Bliss Beauty Soaps and Scrubs
In blood orange and white pepper. Do not eat them.

6. The Quintet Necklace by Lemonade Handmade
Another favorite thing that makes me sigh. Every year, Mighty Summit attendees make a list of five things they hope to accomplish in the coming year. This delicate, simple necklace symbolizes those goals. Tiny brass rings just within reach.

7. Daring Greatly, by Brené Brown
A book that encourages you to go be brave. We are pro bravery around here.

8. Let’s Pretend This Never Happened, by Jenny Lawson
Mighty Summit alum Jenny Lawson, a.k.a. The Bloggess, wrote this movingly funny book, which includes a chapter on the very first Mighty Summit, and photos of me slaughtering the author with a meat cleaver.

9. Happier at Home by Gretchen Rubin
Summit alum Gretchen Rubin is once again on the New York Times Bestseller list with her sequel to the Happiness Project, a tome about a year of seeking happiness at home.

10. Oh Happy Day Piñata
Jordan Ferney, the genius behind the website Oh Happy Day, made these teeny eeny piñatas by hand, and they are perfect. You’ll wish you had two so you could pit them against each other.

11. Lands End Canvas Tote
These extra-large natural zip-top tote bags by Lands End are awesome for trips to the pool or beach, picnics, and summering on your fleet of yachts.

12. Daring Greatly Action Book by Behance
Get started on your Life List goals! This notebook is designed to help you plan visually, too.