A Brief Note About Pregnancy

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Maggie Mason is a hot mama, originally uploaded by superhero.

So. Remember sixteen months ago when I was super, duper pregnant? Barely, right? It seems like a looong time ago. Especially when Hank strolls into the room and says something like, “Mummy, I have a few questions about the mortgage crisis.”

Well ladies, this is how long it took me to take off all the baby weight. Sixteen months. I did not wear my jeans out of the hospital, I did not lose the “fat face” the minute I gave birth, I was not able to eat whatever I wanted just because I was breast feeding, and I could not climb back on a tread mill right after Hank was born. I needed quite a while to heal.

Are you listening? Sixteen months. For me, that’s how long it took. Sixteen months and quite a bit of help from Weight Watchers online. It’s not true for everybody, but it is true for lots of folks. So put down the issue of People magazine, and turn away from all the moms on E! who got their bodies back a month later. If you’re feeling bummed about your gut, get yourself some flattering dresses, and give yourself a little time.

Good job making that baby, girl.

134 thoughts on “A Brief Note About Pregnancy

  1. Thank you! My daughter is also 16 months old and while I’m back to my pre-pregnancy WEIGHT, I am NOT back to my pre-pregnancy SHAPE. Not that I had a super body pre-pregnancy, but nothing fits the way it used to, even though my actual weight is the same. Everything seems to have…shifted around, or something. It kind of sucks. Good thing she’s worth it.

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  2. Marcie says you taste like s’mores, so I flew over to find out if it’s true. I scratched and sniffed my computer screen and only ended up with smudges on it. I resemble the “shape” in your photo but don’t have an excuse for it.
    Think I’ll just go eat a box of s’mores.

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  3. What a fabulous photo. I hope you have that framed and hanging on a wall somewhere in your home!

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  4. Thank you! Had my baby less than two weeks ago and already wondering when I will be able to fit into my old jeans. Crazy right? Especially after a c-section. Thanks for the reality check.

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  5. Maggie, thanks so much for sharing that. I have a 9-month old and have been getting down on myself for not losing any weight yet (NOT ONE POUND!).

    The reality check is nice. I think I’ll box the maternity tops tomorrow and get something big enough to fit my breastfeeding boobs.

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  6. Thank you! Thank you, thank you, thank you.
    I had twins in November (2 1/2 mos. early… after 10 weeks bed rest… oh and it was a c-section). My body is not the same. I was really getting down about it. My massage therapist said to me today, “Hey, two humans came out of you. Give it some time.” And then… AND THEN… your marvelous post. Time to get real.
    Thank you!!

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  7. OK, this is me delurking to say, you are awesome. That photo is just so incredibly beautiful, and I wish more women could just chill right on out about any weight they gained whilst cooking a baby. New moms of the world, hear me! You just made a baby! In your body! That’s friggin’ amazing. Spend some time staring at your baby’s face whilst relaxing on the couch why doncha?!? You have most certainly earned it.

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  8. Thank you thank you thank you! My youngest is almost 3 months, and I have been feeling horribly guilty about still wearing all my elastic-waisted pants.

    My sister is headed down this weekend with some pieces for my “transitional wardrobe.”

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  9. Thank you! I’m expecting a baby in November, and expecting that I will need another two years to get rid of the weight.

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  10. Thank you! Thank you! I am due with my second a week from Sunday and have been lying awake at night worrying about my post baby body. I needed a slap of reality to chill the F out already. You’re my hero.

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  11. I think it must be a hormonal thing. With my son, it wasn’t until he was nearly one that the weight started to come off. With my daughter, who is now nearly 6 months, it has yet to come off as well. Slowly but surely. I still have 10lbs. to go.

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  12. I’m not pregnant nor have I ever been, but I loved this post! Heather is wonderful, of course, but sometimes I have to secretly curse her ectomorph body type and her skinny genes. I’m glad to hear WW worked for you (you look great in all your latest photos). I just signed up for the online version and I’m hoping it will work for me, too. You rock Maggie Mason.

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  13. This post made me so happy! I know it’s going to be awhile before I fit into my pre-pregnancy clothes, but in the meantime, it’s an excuse to buy new cute clothes! Yay for shopping!

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  14. thank you. because i am still working on mine and she is 13 months. thank you, thank you, thank you for that post. i almost cried from releif that i was not the only one.

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  15. You go girl!

    That’s an amazing pg picture. And for the record, when I saw you at the meet and greet, I wouldn’t have even thought you’d ever had a baby. You looked slim, trim and gorgeous!

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  16. Thank you for posting this! We all need it. I was ten pounds above my pre-pregnancy weight with my first when I got pregnant with my second. She is now 19 months old and I’m still struggling; I’ve yo-yo’d several times and though I’m now ten pounds down from my highest weight, I’m still almost as big as I was when I delivered her. But I keep changing my habits every day, I keep making progress, and I refuse to let myself be discouraged.

    More of us need to encourage each other and stop putting each other down for not getting the weight off and [insert most anything you’ve ever criticized another mom about]. Our circumstances may be very different, but if we stopped to really look, we’d be amazed at the similarities.

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  17. I lost mine within a week, but when I stopped breastfeeding, it came back – with friends. My baseline is now just bigger than it used to be. Ah well. Kinda feel like Mamas just need to be a little bigger. Safety padding. Energy storage in case of emergency. Anyway, I’d like to lose 20 lbs, but I would also like for it to be OK that I don’t, if I am otherwise healthy. Put down the People, indeed. Those people get paid to look great, and they have all the time & money to make it happen! I have to *WORK* all day!

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  18. Posts like this are exactly why I love you! In a purely platonic, non-stalkerish, respectful-stranger-reading-your-blog kind of way, of course.

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  19. Thank you SO much. My sister just had her second baby four weeks ago and I sent this post to her immediately. I am 21 weeks pregnant and am looking down at my already enormous belly and know I will save this post and re-read it and its comments many, many times.

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  20. And I am the sister to whom this post was sent by kgr. Is it the post-partum hormones making me emotional, or am I crying because it’s so nice to know that it’s okay that I’m not Heidi Klum modeling underwear two weeks after giving birth?
    Thank you.

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  21. Congratulations to you! And thank you for that great post. After three babies, I know what a struggle it is (it gets harder with each one….) I’m nineteen months post-partum, and am still fighting the battle! I’ve got a long ways to go, but at least I’m fighting!

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  22. Would it be inappropriate to say you look really hot in that pic? And not in some weird fetish kinda way, just a woman are sexy when they’re pregnant even if they don’t think they are kinda way.

    Whatever, you look hot in that picture.

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  23. Having not gone through the whole pregnancy yet, I can’t really relate, but great post nonetheless and a fabulous photo!

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  24. yay! so true. i found that i actually lost the pounds fairly quickly, but that my body was still not its old self. it took me a long time to lose the water weight (and i didn’t even think i swelled much). i’m 13 months post-partum now, and still working on it — i’m actually 5 pounds less than i was pre-pregnancy, but still bigger. go figure! it’s nice to know that we all struggle with these issues, and that time (and hard work) will resolve them.

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  25. Thank you! I *heart* you Maggie! I lost quite a bit of weight just giving birth to the twins 14 months, and I only have about 5 pounds to go, but my body will never be the same and I’m OK with that. How could it be the same after making two little people? Carry on with your awesome self!

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  26. Thanks Maggie. You’ve just given every postpartum mama out here the equivalent of a hug. I agree with the commenter said, “What is wrong with looking like you just had a baby, anyway?”

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  27. Almost 3 years after Andrea had the twins and I STILL haven’t lost all of MY baby weight. Andrea, on the other hand, looks great.

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  28. My children are 29 and 32 and I’m STill taking those few pounds of baby weight off! Keeping it real girls! Love it

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  29. Great post, Maggie. So many women feel bad. I am still not pre-baby weight, about 10 pounds off, and my daughter will be 2 in September. But dealing with a vicious thyroid problem post-partum has stalled my progress. Not to mention — your body changes! In ways you didn’t imagine!

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  30. Thank you for this post! I had my second child on 5/2/08 and I was feeling really down that a 6 1/2 lb baby came out of me (plus associated placenta, amniotic fluid, and excessive blood loss from c-section) yet I weigh the same as when I went into the hospital, not fair!

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  31. This is my first time here and I think it’s love at first read.
    My son is seven and a half months old and I was feeling quite discouraged that the stupid scale hadn’t moved since a few weeks after he was born. I had lost a lot, and was excited because all I kept hearing was “when you’re breastfeeding it’ll just melt right off”. But it’s been months now and it hasn’t changed. I just say now that I’m not losing any more weight, I’m losing shape. I don’t know know where it’s moving too, but it’s not gone.
    I stopped reading any magazines because I was so sick of reading “Get your body back!” or “How so-and-so got her body back”. This IS my body. It had a baby. This is what my body looks like after having a baby.
    I love you. I’m going to stay here forever.

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  32. what a fabulous picture mighty girl! i’m pregnant and feeling the need to embrace those form fitting ensembles. you’ve inspired me. thanks!
    …and yes, not all of us women want to work out for three hours a day – this is apparently the time slot gwyneth paltrow allows each day to maintain her post-babies figure!

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  33. Do you know that I’m just now realizing that regular sized people (as opposed to obese, like me) have to work at staying regular sized? I honestly thought that you guys just didn’t WANT to eat more, and LIKED being active. Wow.

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