An actual quote from my Baby Update newsletter, in a message to partners of pregnant women:
“Understand, too, that as her pregnancy progresses, she may feel unattractive at times. Even if you think that she is, don’t let on. Tell her she’s beautiful.”
Mighty Girl 
crap i knew he was lying!!!!!
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Lying is the glue that holds relationships together.
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“Even if you think she is…”
I plan to be honest….
It depends on what the definition of the word “is” is.
“But, Honey! I have precedent with the former president”!
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Yeah, right…
When I was pregnant with my baby boy, I was extremely jealous with my friend who was pregnant with a baby girl. She looked pretty in pink while I looked…well…like a trash in my grayish dress.
Is it true that a woman pregnant with a girl looks more beautiful than the one with a boy?
Too bad, I have no chance yet to pregnant with a baby girl to prove it.
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Not being able to have children myself, my perspective is perhaps somewhat distorted…
Whenever I see somebody who is pregnant, I am reminded how incredible nature can be at times – that we have this ability to create a whole new person, and it’s “built in” 🙂
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I don’t think it is just about ‘telling’ her…
Moms-to-be have an unusual halo of happiness that is soooo contagious!
Your bellies are the coolest bellies!!!
Moms-to-be rock! Especially my wife. =)
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I find it hilarious that it has to be said not to tell your pregnant wife you think she is unattractive.
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Good advice.
Unless your partner is me and I ask incessantly until you finally give in and say, “I’m sure you’ll bounce back.”
And then I will hate you forever. You should have listened to the advice.
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No, (4)Riana, there is no “Girl Glow”.
Two boys and a portfolio of tearsheets for two national catalogs, I can pretty much say that with confidence. I’m in the “barely had a football belly” catagory, but I felt like a beluga whale.
Preganant belly + Positive attitude = Beauty
Simple!
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“Or her surging hormones will force her to kill you.”
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As soon as that baby is born though, go ahead and tell her how unattractive she looks.
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As a woman who is 39 weeks pregnant at the moment, I must say…dishonest compliments are welcome at any time when it comes to appearance.
It’s not going to matter after it’s all over anyway – no one is going to be looking at you – that precious ball of a baby you just delivered will be the center of attention all the while you are losing that pregnancy weight. And once you DO lose that weight – no one will notice.
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I of course do not subscribe to most wives tales. But the old wife tale is that a woman with a girl is “less” attractive as the girl steals her mothers beauty. Good gracious how awful is that thought.
My thinking has always been that a pregnant woman looks as good as she feels. If she is happy and rested they look amazing.
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Oh my god, that is so awful!
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Every time I see advice like this I wonder how a guy that needs it would find himself in a situation to use it.
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…how a guy that needs it would find himself in a situation to use it.
See “Everybody Loves Raymond”. Gah! The situations they write in for that poor guy…
Any “read” guy not dragging his knuckles on the ground can avoid that. Raymond’s wife however, sometimes sets him up and that’s when I feel sorry for him.
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*real guy…..stupid soda-cold fingers….
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Hi. The unborn daughter sucks up the hormones of the mom so, scientifically, baby-girl-moms-to-be tend to loose their glow.
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The best thing I ever read from a book on babies was about breastfeeding.
I paraphrase:
Remember, Dads, that after Mother gives birth and is lactating that sex is quite different since breasts cannot differentiate between baby and lover.
It’s stayed with me for years. Good stuff to know.
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Ahh… Always fun to think about the possibility that your breasts will start spraying milk in hubby’s face right as you climax! Good times… Teeheehee…
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The sad truth is that most books written for expectant and new fathers are about on this level. “The weeks following the pregnancy will be trying on your wife, so help out around the house by washing a dish or two.
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… endquote.
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My word, what man worth being married to thinks his pregnant wife ISN’T attractive, such that you’d have to tell him not to let that information be known? WTF.
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OK, that got me laughing so hard a peed a little. “Also, telling her she’s pretty will keep her grandmother’s iron skillet from making a permanent dent in the side of your head”.
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