Wallow, the Soundtrack

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So sick. I woke up with a fever and chills and the smell of death on the air. I wish this bed would stop touching me so I could sleep.

Anyway, when I was young and feeling heartbroken, I used to make breakup tapes with one side for feeling sorry for myself and one with happy music. Did you ever do this? While I’m incapacitated, please add links to songs to weep by and songs that make you dance around in your underwear.

When my skin isn’t peeling up at the edges, I shall make a mixtape.

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  2. When my marriage to my first daughter’s dad was falling apart, (I am pregnant with daughter number two now!) I was so stressed and unhappy, and I’d put on Keith Urban’s Better Life and we’d dance around the living room like mad. She was only one or so, and now I can tell her we’ve definitely made it.
    It wasn’t the life I thought I was going to have, it’s better.
    You will get there too:)
    Hugs!

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  4. Plus, you get to watch Keith Urban, if scruffy man does it for you. It does for me… 🙂 Feel better Ms. Maggie:)

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  5. Sad song: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UtkU5CGpBHQ&feature=fvst

    Little Lion Man by Mumford and Sons. Not sad in your usual, slow weepy sound sort of way, but definitely melancholy.

    Happy Song:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pc0mxOXbWIU&feature=related&oref=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2Fwatch%3Fv%3DUtkU5CGpBHQ%26feature%3Dfvst&has_verified=1

    F You (the dirty version) by Cee Lo Green. A new standard, in my book. The F-bomb in every chorus just lifts me up. I find swearing to be incredibly satisfying, so this song makes me smile every time.

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  6. When my boyfriend left me I listened to Coldplay’s Parachutes cd over and over and over until my neighbor knocked and said “Please stop it.” To this day it summons the sadness and instantly depresses me.

    On the B-Side: U2 – Beautiful Day, Dandy Warhols – Bohemian Like You, Neil Diamond – Porcupine Pie, Bob Marley – Three Little Birds.

    Be well!

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  15. “Don’t You Remember” from Adele’s new album – the most wallowing breakup song ever written.

    And then you have to listen to Rosalita by Bruce Springsteen and Stevie Wonder’s “Signed, Sealed, Delivered” to get up off the floor.

    Keep on keepin’ on.

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  19. Happy/Upbeat:
    Backstabber — Ke$ha
    Got to Give it Up — Marvin Gaye
    I Feel for You — Chaka Khan (I *am* a child of the 80’s)

    Sad/Melancholy:
    Black-Eyed Dog — Nick Drake
    Crystal — Stevie Nicks
    Thats the Way Love Goes — Janet Jackson
    She’s Leaving Home — Beatles

    Feel better!

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  20. ABC’s Lexicon of Love

    http://www.youtube.com/view_play_list?p=34C4FACFA44A0704

    A friend of mine read a biography of Frank Sinatra where allegedly he told Shirley McLaine that he wished someone would break her heart so he could beat them up for her. We both thought that was the sweetest thing anyone could say. Not that we wanted anyone beaten up we just wanted someone sympathetic who would validate our anger and heartbreak while helping us laugh at it at the same time. Lexicon of Love is all that in musical form. So you have someone to cry with and dance with and find catharsis with all in 73 minutes and Martin Fry looks good in a tux.

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  21. For the sad: “More Time” by Needtobreathe, or anything by Nick Drake because music by a clinically depressed musician who committed suicide is nothing if not saaaaad. “Which Will” and “Pink Moon” are my recommendations.

    For the happy: “One Day” by Matisyahu, or if you just want to sing at the top of your lungs and laugh “Got Your Money” by Say Anything from the “Punk Goes Crunk” album.

    Feel better!

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  23. 🙂 Dog Days Are Over – Florence & the Machine
    Forget You – Gwyneth Paltrow’s Glee version

    😦 Slow Dancing in a Burning Room – John Mayer (I know, he’s a douche. But this song is one of the best break up songs EVER.)
    Stay Or Leave – Dave Matthews (solo album) (This song is THE best break up song EVER.)

    Hang in there. xoxo

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  24. I feel you on this one.

    Though, what about angry, self righteous, I’m awesome anyways songs? I guess they’re happy?

    My current angry one is: Rolling in the Deep, Adele
    (Adele also has a bajillion great sad songs on her album 21)

    For happy, nothing works like: Single ladies, Beyonce (tho the Pomplamoose cover is also AWESOME.)

    My current sad song: Skinny Love, Bon Iver

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  25. I’ve been reeling from some particularly heartbreaking news this past week. Somewhere in the middle of this, Matthew Sweet’s cover of the song “This Moment” resurfaced from the ’90s and has been a real comfort. Sample lyric–“Here we are now. Soon it will be then. It’s nothing more, nothing less than the place that we are in.”

    Hang in there, Maggie. Soon it will be then!

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  26. I just came out the other side of a divorce, and I hope you may not have to go that far, but mainly that whatever comes of this it will be the best for you and that you will, physically and emotionally, be better soon.

    Sad:
    Billy Joel, And So It Goes

    A Fine Frenzy, Almost Lover

    Bon Iver, For Emma Forever Ago

    Evanescence, My Immortal

    Meyer Hawthorne, Wish it would rain

    Patty Loveless, You Dont Even Know Who I Am

    Enough of that. Here’s to tomorrow.

    Happy (or, at least, upbeat):

    Cake, I will Survive

    Fleetwood Mac, Go Your Own Way

    Christina Aguilera, Nasty Naughty Boy

    Jo Cocker, You Can Leave Your Hat On

    And Im not sure where this on fits, but I love it.
    NIN, Closer

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  27. Oh man, I’m the queen of this. I actually make mixes completely based on emotion.

    Sad: Really any Sia song, but I’m partial to “Soon We’ll Be Found” (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t1x8DMfbYN4)

    Happy: Frightened Rabbit’s “Living in Colour” (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1bjxQav-jRs) although the rest of that album (the Winter of Mixed Drinks) is superb for wallowing. Also, Nina Simone’s “Feelin Good” hits the spot a lot of the time.

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  29. Here is on to dance around to! My younger sister and I used to play this as our sort of anthem any time we were feeling scorned! Get ready for some empowerment!

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  30. I can’t stop listening to The Head & The Heart. Like Mumford and Sons, they blend melancholy and hope. They give me that unsinkable feeling.

    You can grab two free tracks by signing up for their mailing list:
    http://www.theheadandtheheart.com/

    1. [When You Got No One…] There’s No One to Let You Down

    2. Down in the Valley [“I am on my way back to where I started…”]

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  32. Crying songs:

    “Everywhere” by Polaris (on Music from the Adventures of Pete and Pete)
    “Grand Canyon” by The Magnetic Fields (on 69 Love Songs)
    “Round Here” by Counting Crows (on August & Everything After)
    “Here’s That Rainy Day” by Astrud Gilberto (on Verve Unmixed 2)
    “I Bombed Korea” by Cake (on Prolonging The Magic)
    “I just don’t think I’ll ever get over you” by Colin Hay (on the Garden State soundtrack)

    Feeling better songs:

    “Doctor Worm” by They Might Be Giants (
    “I Live In New York City” by Sxip Shirey (on Sonic New York) (*possibly less effective if you don’t live in NYC? I don’t know . . .)
    “Dynamite” by Taio Cruz (on Rokstarr) (I’m so sorry . . . I can’t help it . . .)
    “All Day” by Girl Talk (on All Day)
    “Sam Hall” by Johnny Cash (on American IV: The Man Comes Around)
    “Let The Monkey Drive” by Sparks (on Exotic Creatures of the Deep)
    (depending on your sense of humor, “Rock Me Amadeus” by Falco or anything on Kraftwerk’s album “The Mix” may also be strong choices)

    Take nice care of yourself.

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  33. My break up song was always (and I’m so sorry for this)

    Ace of Base: The Sign

    Ask my university roommates who had to listen to it, again, and again.

    Also, Sit Down by James

    Take care Maggie – your body is making you take a break.

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  34. This is kind of nerdy, but I’ve always liked Motorcycle Driveby by Third Eye Blind for a breakup song. It makes you feel both ways.

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  36. oh no you dihn’t. I will be have to add these with commenter-Tourettes. no way I can remember them all at once.

    my college roommate used to have a maudlin mix tape called “Depression At Its Finest” oh how I wish it were still around. I am pretty sure that Spandau Ballet “True” was on it. but much like child birth (or so I hear) you forget the physical pain and I can’t remember all the sad songs!

    anyhow, please drug yourself into rest, the only cure there is, and when you wake here are some songs for your consideration. more to come from me I am sure. also, some are pure queso, but that still works when in a mania. 🙂

    Sad Times:
    The Scientist, Coldplay http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EdBym7kv2IM
    Fruits of My Labor, Lucinda Williams (or ANY LW for that matter) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4htPUK2q4ZU&feature=related
    most of that Damien Rice “O” album, a real wrist slitter for sure

    Happy Times:
    Teenage Dream, Katy Perry
    Give A Little Bit, Supertramp http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hGI6qQHFlPk

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  37. I was in Spain and London during a painful breakup in 2001 and these were my two songs
    Oasis – Stop Crying Your Heart Out was my sad song and Yo No Soy Esa Mujer was my I’m over you one (One of the lines roughly translates to I won’t put the best of my soul at your feet I’m not that woman).

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  39. A saddy: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Luirzce0UF8 (“Hope There’s Someone” by Antony & the Johnsons)

    Another saddy: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pS614A5GzEw (“Good Woman” by Cat Power)

    A happy: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YShRy81bKms (“Candylion” by Gruff Rhys)

    An undies dancer: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J294A-R1Cjk (“Dancing On My Own” by Robyn)

    Another one for undies dancing: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zLPbrSjiJI8 (Jimmy Adja from the film Disco Dancer)

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  41. If you want to cry, then listen to Sufjan Steve’s Casimar Pulanski Day. Right before my the decision to end my first marriage, I listened to this on repeat, drank bourbon and cried in the bathroom for maybe 3 good hours.

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  42. Sad songs: La Maree Haute–Lhasa de Sela. Really, lots by Lhasa de Sela. Cry as you listen, and then cry some more when you remember that she passed away from breast cancer last year.
    Sad/angry song: Come on Billy–PJ Harvey.
    Happy songs: I recommend you get into K-Pop. It is impossible not to dance to 2NE1 (Lollipop or Fire are especially dancey, and Follow Me makes you feel like bad ass).

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  44. so sad: Built to Spill’s ‘Things Fall Apart’
    “it doesn’t matter if you’re good or smart – goddamn it, things fall apart”

    happy: “Plane to PR” by Daddy Yankee. This song will turn you into an instant mamacita, shakin that ass!!

    also, if you want a big ass 60s bouffant for when you’re better? check out my tutorial here

    big big hugs, berlin hair baby

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  47. wait, maybe the appleseed cast isn’t that happy. still! that and ‘fishing the sky’ – lovely and loud, i like to get lose in the crashing and offbeat sounds.

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