Where’d I put my flask?

4th December 2008

Something unusual happened this morning. When Bryan left for work, Hank sobbed and clung to him. When I left, he barely looked up. I said bye. I kissed him. I hugged him. He just pushed me away and kept playing with his train.

Ladies and gentlemen, we have entered the fabled Daddy phase. For a while there, I didn’t believe it existed, this period where Hank would want Daddy to cuddle, Daddy to feed him, Daddy to read, Daddy to go to the park, Daddy to change his diaper. Not Mom-Mom, Daddy. DADDY. Hank! Said! Daddddeeeeeeee!

Road trip, anyone?

22 thoughts on “Where’d I put my flask?

  1. Daddy Scratches

    Wow, my wife would be jealous; our oldest is 5-and-a-half, and we’re still waiting for the “Daddy” phase to kick in. If he could return to the womb, I think he would.

    Fortunately, my 3-and-a-half-year-old daughter has been a bit of a Daddy’s Girl so far, so my bruised ego is healing.

  2. thematically fickle

    Oh, don’t you venture too far. The pendulum will swing back before you get over the mountain pass on the way to your girl’s retreat, where you should pamper yourself like never before. Because the re-entry? It will initially be filled with an outpouring of affection for you, making you think, “Hmmm, I should go away more often.” But the love and adoration of a toddler is fickle. The worship that greets you at the front door will shortly thereafter turn to disdain. He will punish you for being gone by not so much as letting you bring him his afternoon snack or do a puzzle with him on the floor. Trust me. ;)

  3. kelly

    how funny…i just posted about the same thing today. i keep being ejected forcibly from our home office (aka “the man pit.”) two-year-olds can be brutal, innit?

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  5. Ariel

    My daughter was a mommy’s girl until my fiancee moved in with us 18 months ago- and now she’s a daddy’s girl. Funny, as she doesn’t really give a fig about her biological dad. I guess having a ‘real’ dad who pays attention to her makes a difference. Don’t get me wrong…she still adores me, but…Her Brian Daddy rules the world.

  6. Brooke

    I currently nanny for a 2 year old boy and a 3 1/2 year old girl. Early this summer, Boy was shoulder deep in Anti-Daddy phase. God forbid, Daddy would get home before Mommy: the earth would open up, swallow us all in to hell with Boy screaming “NOOOOO DADDDDDDEEEEEEEEE” at the top of his lungs. All with a side of MASSIVE Alice In Wonderland-esque tears. You can imagine Daddy’s relief that Boy has done a 180 and now adores the ground his Pop walks on. Whew.

  7. Aimee Greeblemonkey

    Seeing as Bryan stayed home with Declan for the 1st two years and is way more fun in general, Declan has ALWAYS been Pro-Daddy. What I want to know is when MOMMY phase is gonna roll around???

  8. Michelle

    Woo hoo! Can’t wait.
    I have 1 yr old twin boys and they share a middle name, “Mamma’s Boy”.
    I will have one foot out the door at the first hint of adoration and preference for daddy

  9. Tonya

    Oh my god, how did you do it? Dash is 22 months old (about the same as Hank, yes?) and is still all about Mama. All the time. I dream of road trips.

  10. amanda

    It was the fourth month with my third daughter, “mama.” Couldn’t believe it. They are all carbon copies of him and the first 2 had “dada” as their first word. Now, at 7 months it is all “daddadadadadadad.” Ya take what you can get, no?

  11. auntjone

    Hmph. I must have missed that phase with son #1…OH WAIT…his dad was never freakin’ around so he probably didn’t know he had a dad until we got divorced and the man was forced to spend time with his child. I’m anticipating this phase with son #2 as his father (a different daddy, thank god) is very much a presence in his life.

  12. Moltomom

    My 3-year old goes in and out of phases like that. And I go in and out of phases of enjoying the short spans of freedom and feeling neglected!

  13. Wendy

    If it makes you feel any better, we couldn’t get my youngest son to say “Mommy” for forever. His first word was “dog”, second was “daddy” and in fact he said PTERODACTYL before he said “mommy”. Not kidding!

  14. ML

    My husband always gets the sweetest “Night-night Dada.” For once, I would like to hear a “Night-night Mama” instead of the whining, wailing and general protest when I leave my 23-mo son at night. I can’t wait for the Daddy phase to begin!

  15. Sara

    My son had that phase, too! It was so cute. It was a relief on one hand (he didn’t always insist on me), but on the other hand it was a little difficult to be replaced.
    It was sweet seeing him adore his dada, though!

    (He’s almost 13 years old now, well past the adorable stage.)

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