The best parts of We Are Never Meeting in Real Life by Samantha Irby:

“‘That’s a really nice bag,’ I said genuinely, taking a sip of my light bill. ‘Did you recently receive a settlement of some kind?’ She laughed heartily and poured her Obamacare deductible down her throat in one long swallow. ‘Girl, nah, I bought this with money I should have spent on my car payment.’ I clinked the ice in my checking account overdraft fees and nodded solemnly in agreement.”

“I do not like conspicuous men.”

“This is a luxury, you know, being spared the day-to-day deterioration of someone you love.”

“I spent too much time trying to mold myself to fit the romantic ideas of humans who proved themselves unworthy of the effort.”

“I once dated an asshole who, every single time I called, would immediately text, ‘Are you in a burning building?’ Um, no? If I were, and I still had the ability to breathe and read the numbers on my phone while choking to death on smoke, my first call would most certainly not be to a dude who says LIE-BARRY and is afraid to try artichokes.”

“I have never, in any of my interpersonal relationships, with women or men, proposed to sit down somewhere and have a talk. No one ever wants to sit you down and talk about something good, like how he or she should buy you more stuff; people want to trap you in an uncomfortable chair so they can go through the laundry list of your perceived crimes. And all you can do is sit there like a scolded child, nodding sadly in agreement that yes, you are the literal worst.”

I bought a pair of these handmade raffia shoes from Oscar and Shades on Etsy and they’re in heavy rotation. They were cheaper when I bought them, they’re $66 now, but I still think it’s worth it for a pair of handmade shoes. I’m sure they’re like $5 wherever they come from, so if you know, go ahead and send me back a pair on your next trip.

That said, they’re super comfy, pretty soft against your feet and don’t chafe anywhere. And because they’re like sandals, zero foot sweat, but still dapper AF. Recommend.

My friend Ami Baio made my favorite kind of game, the kind that makes for better conversations. It’s not in production yet, and I’ve already been hearing about it through the nerd grapevine.

Back the Kickstarter to secure a copy now, this has the vibe of a game that’s going to be hard to get, just as everyone around you can’t shut up about how fun it is.

Ami! Hooray for you!

The case for following Juila Galef on Twitter:

• Skeleton Flowers
• Cutest exchange on Reddit
• Instagram account full of places with sad names
• Actual voices of elderly people describing their lives as slaves in the 1800s
• Freaunch

In Paris, we pass a toddler in the stroller with her mother’s purse, an exuberant square of red lipstick around her mouth. She shoves her tiny fist outside, bouncing the unfurled lipstick tube like a drum major’s baton. Her mother’s eyes widen.

Fluffy lady

This brooch is incredible. Via Swiss Miss

The Problem with the What Else Mindset by Jocelyn Glei
“The only way to counteract the what else mindset is to regularly, proactively define what “enough” means to you.”

Monkeys and chimpanzees understand trade and stone tools. So tick-tock, you know?

I ordered a pair of these handmade shoes, and they’re so lovely.

I’ve been thinking about this Jawanza Kunjufu quote, “Some mothers raise their daughters but love their sons.” from How to Raise a Feminist Son via Say Yes

Also via Say Yes, this comic on how women tend to be the project managers at home, You Should’ve Asked. Mental and emotional workload is something my husband and I talk about, it such a useful concept for people in partnership to understand.

Congrats to Cam and Doug Bowman, who just launched Greater Ink, a T-shirt company that donates 25 percent of profits to organizations like the ACLU, Lawrence Hall of Science, and the United Way. I got Science Matters shirts for the boys, and a Resist shirt for myself.

And our design consultancy Tall West published some nerd work over on Medium, “All Thumbs, Why Reach Navigation Should Replace the Navbar in iOS Design.”

Also, what kind of palms are these, does anyone know?

A new someone to follow on Instagram! Joshua Werber‘s floral headpieces make me happy. Thanks, Ainsley!