Five Love Languages

25th January 2016

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Have you ever taken the Five Love Languages Quiz? I’ve sent that link to dozens of friends.

The quiz is based on a book of the same name, which says there are five main ways we give and receive love:

1. Words of affirmation, compliments and the like.
2. Tokens of affection, gifts.
3. Acts of service, favors.
4. Quality time together.
5. Physical touch.

The idea is that everyone gives and receives love differently. For example, words of affirmation don’t mean much to me, but it’s easy for me to tell someone what I appreciate about them. Some people don’t care at all about gifts, but get teary-eyed when you clean out the closet for them.

Take the quiz, and tell me what you think. It for sure changed my approach when I have an impulse to do something nice for someone.

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2 thoughts on “Five Love Languages

  1. Sarah

    I am also high on service, my husband on physical. I am pretty certain that it would be the same for my parents. I am wondering if there is a gendered bias in love languages?
    Also, I am wondering how much it’s influenced by how you were shown love when you were little. Also, I should probably read up on it :-)

  2. Erica

    My parents read this book when we were younger and I feel like my family talked about it a lot as we grew up. I read the book myself while I was dating my husband some ten years ago. It’s such a great concept and has given me excellent perspective on showing people I care.

    I like to show love through words of affirmation though I like to receive love through quality time together. My husband likes to give through acts of service but likes to receive through physical touch. Funny how we’re all over the board but knowing what he likes helps me make sure I love him that way. Which usually means long, long back rubs. :)

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