So sick. I woke up with a fever and chills and the smell of death on the air. I wish this bed would stop touching me so I could sleep.
Anyway, when I was young and feeling heartbroken, I used to make breakup tapes with one side for feeling sorry for myself and one with happy music. Did you ever do this? While I’m incapacitated, please add links to songs to weep by and songs that make you dance around in your underwear.
When my skin isn’t peeling up at the edges, I shall make a mixtape.
For dancing around in underwear:
When my marriage to my first daughter’s dad was falling apart, (I am pregnant with daughter number two now!) I was so stressed and unhappy, and I’d put on Keith Urban’s Better Life and we’d dance around the living room like mad. She was only one or so, and now I can tell her we’ve definitely made it.
It wasn’t the life I thought I was going to have, it’s better.
You will get there too:)
Hugs!
For underwear dancing: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F19AUyvPre8
(Me and hubby’s band, plus video full of lots of happy kids!)
Plus, you get to watch Keith Urban, if scruffy man does it for you. It does for me… :) Feel better Ms. Maggie:)
Sad song: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UtkU5CGpBHQ&feature=fvst
Little Lion Man by Mumford and Sons. Not sad in your usual, slow weepy sound sort of way, but definitely melancholy.
Happy Song:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pc0mxOXbWIU&feature=related&oref=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2Fwatch%3Fv%3DUtkU5CGpBHQ%26feature%3Dfvst&has_verified=1
F You (the dirty version) by Cee Lo Green. A new standard, in my book. The F-bomb in every chorus just lifts me up. I find swearing to be incredibly satisfying, so this song makes me smile every time.
When my boyfriend left me I listened to Coldplay’s Parachutes cd over and over and over until my neighbor knocked and said “Please stop it.” To this day it summons the sadness and instantly depresses me.
On the B-Side: U2 – Beautiful Day, Dandy Warhols – Bohemian Like You, Neil Diamond – Porcupine Pie, Bob Marley – Three Little Birds.
Be well!
I totally understand.
Song to weep by: One Fine Day by John Darnielle of the Mountain Goats- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IwllQJ8loLo&playnext=1&list=PL92EAF140CCA47432
Song to dance to: Relax, Take it Easy by Mika: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RVmG_d3HKBA
:) Dog Days are Over- Florence & the Machine
:( Mad, Mad World – Gary Jules
Feel better!
Ooh! Another, Blue Skies, by JayMay!
For dancing: G. Love and the Special Sauce “Peace Love and Happiness” http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D0ixo5K2aTk
For wallowing:Mumford and Sons “Gave You All” http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=weJ7UOo2glo
Get well soon!
Wallow: Call It Off by Tegan and Sara (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-hC_p5oDMgc)
Dance: Animal by Neon Trees (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gM7Hlg75Mlo)
Sad: Where Does the Good Go – Tegan and Sara
Happy: Raise Your Glass – Pink
sad: delicate – damien rice
happy: walking on sunshine katrina & the waves
Wallow: Mumford & Sons, The Cave
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3KkUeRPjc-Y
Underwear dance: Bell X1, The Great Defector
“Don’t You Remember” from Adele’s new album – the most wallowing breakup song ever written.
And then you have to listen to Rosalita by Bruce Springsteen and Stevie Wonder’s “Signed, Sealed, Delivered” to get up off the floor.
Keep on keepin’ on.
I still make mix “mp3s” like this. These are my faves:
Sadz, courtesy of Kate Bush: http://bit.ly/h4HE8I
Dance around in your underwear with Basement Jaxx: http://bit.ly/f3bMAD
Wallowing music: Nick Drake
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y2jxjv0HkwM
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q2JjJPDz3EE
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_1YsFgDaEeo
take care.
sad one: “Hush, hush” by Heathers http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xhJ0qqqr5eY
happy, get-up-and-moving one: can’t beat Glee’s version of “Safety Dance” http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SG4WOUB3wB4
Happy/Upbeat:
Backstabber — Ke$ha
Got to Give it Up — Marvin Gaye
I Feel for You — Chaka Khan (I *am* a child of the 80’s)
Sad/Melancholy:
Black-Eyed Dog — Nick Drake
Crystal — Stevie Nicks
Thats the Way Love Goes — Janet Jackson
She’s Leaving Home — Beatles
Feel better!
ABC’s Lexicon of Love
http://www.youtube.com/view_play_list?p=34C4FACFA44A0704
A friend of mine read a biography of Frank Sinatra where allegedly he told Shirley McLaine that he wished someone would break her heart so he could beat them up for her. We both thought that was the sweetest thing anyone could say. Not that we wanted anyone beaten up we just wanted someone sympathetic who would validate our anger and heartbreak while helping us laugh at it at the same time. Lexicon of Love is all that in musical form. So you have someone to cry with and dance with and find catharsis with all in 73 minutes and Martin Fry looks good in a tux.
For the sad: “More Time” by Needtobreathe, or anything by Nick Drake because music by a clinically depressed musician who committed suicide is nothing if not saaaaad. “Which Will” and “Pink Moon” are my recommendations.
For the happy: “One Day” by Matisyahu, or if you just want to sing at the top of your lungs and laugh “Got Your Money” by Say Anything from the “Punk Goes Crunk” album.
Feel better!
Wallow song:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ftnjUpoCHAg
Latter Days by Over the Rhine
Then
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u80jv9j9AeA
Ray of Light, baby.
:) Dog Days Are Over – Florence & the Machine
Forget You – Gwyneth Paltrow’s Glee version
:( Slow Dancing in a Burning Room – John Mayer (I know, he’s a douche. But this song is one of the best break up songs EVER.)
Stay Or Leave – Dave Matthews (solo album) (This song is THE best break up song EVER.)
Hang in there. xoxo
I feel you on this one.
Though, what about angry, self righteous, I’m awesome anyways songs? I guess they’re happy?
My current angry one is: Rolling in the Deep, Adele
(Adele also has a bajillion great sad songs on her album 21)
For happy, nothing works like: Single ladies, Beyonce (tho the Pomplamoose cover is also AWESOME.)
My current sad song: Skinny Love, Bon Iver
I’ve been reeling from some particularly heartbreaking news this past week. Somewhere in the middle of this, Matthew Sweet’s cover of the song “This Moment” resurfaced from the ’90s and has been a real comfort. Sample lyric–“Here we are now. Soon it will be then. It’s nothing more, nothing less than the place that we are in.”
Hang in there, Maggie. Soon it will be then!
I just came out the other side of a divorce, and I hope you may not have to go that far, but mainly that whatever comes of this it will be the best for you and that you will, physically and emotionally, be better soon.
Sad:
Billy Joel, And So It Goes
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FHO6a2H-pqY
A Fine Frenzy, Almost Lover
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EDEEzS7OV2k
Bon Iver, For Emma Forever Ago
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T0yaQ20dpWI
Evanescence, My Immortal
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5anLPw0Efmo
Meyer Hawthorne, Wish it would rain
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JYHYAwvdHzY
Patty Loveless, You Dont Even Know Who I Am
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sLetXmmf27Q
Enough of that. Here’s to tomorrow.
Happy (or, at least, upbeat):
Cake, I will Survive
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=596qaxm-u4o
Fleetwood Mac, Go Your Own Way
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ul-cZyuYq4
Christina Aguilera, Nasty Naughty Boy
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DqpFMqfeltE
Jo Cocker, You Can Leave Your Hat On
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kmRaC8tSHww
And Im not sure where this on fits, but I love it.
NIN, Closer
Oh man, I’m the queen of this. I actually make mixes completely based on emotion.
Sad: Really any Sia song, but I’m partial to “Soon We’ll Be Found” (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t1x8DMfbYN4)
Happy: Frightened Rabbit’s “Living in Colour” (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1bjxQav-jRs) although the rest of that album (the Winter of Mixed Drinks) is superb for wallowing. Also, Nina Simone’s “Feelin Good” hits the spot a lot of the time.
:( = Joy division – love will tear us apart
:) = Journey – don’t stop believin
Here is on to dance around to! My younger sister and I used to play this as our sort of anthem any time we were feeling scorned! Get ready for some empowerment!
I can’t stop listening to The Head & The Heart. Like Mumford and Sons, they blend melancholy and hope. They give me that unsinkable feeling.
You can grab two free tracks by signing up for their mailing list:
http://www.theheadandtheheart.com/
1. [When You Got No One…] There’s No One to Let You Down
2. Down in the Valley [“I am on my way back to where I started…”]
I do wallow songs like no one’s business.
“Little Person” by Jon Brion: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vKQqxt7xd20
“Intuition” by Feist: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y9y9oQR_OOM
“The Part Where You Let Go” by Hem: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DUFlhP3FudA
“Nobody’s Off the Hook” by Rufus Wainwright: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7M6-IXKXzao
Crying songs:
“Everywhere” by Polaris (on Music from the Adventures of Pete and Pete)
“Grand Canyon” by The Magnetic Fields (on 69 Love Songs)
“Round Here” by Counting Crows (on August & Everything After)
“Here’s That Rainy Day” by Astrud Gilberto (on Verve Unmixed 2)
“I Bombed Korea” by Cake (on Prolonging The Magic)
“I just don’t think I’ll ever get over you” by Colin Hay (on the Garden State soundtrack)
Feeling better songs:
“Doctor Worm” by They Might Be Giants (
“I Live In New York City” by Sxip Shirey (on Sonic New York) (*possibly less effective if you don’t live in NYC? I don’t know . . .)
“Dynamite” by Taio Cruz (on Rokstarr) (I’m so sorry . . . I can’t help it . . .)
“All Day” by Girl Talk (on All Day)
“Sam Hall” by Johnny Cash (on American IV: The Man Comes Around)
“Let The Monkey Drive” by Sparks (on Exotic Creatures of the Deep)
(depending on your sense of humor, “Rock Me Amadeus” by Falco or anything on Kraftwerk’s album “The Mix” may also be strong choices)
Take nice care of yourself.
My break up song was always (and I’m so sorry for this)
Ace of Base: The Sign
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=96jFtzVa80A
Ask my university roommates who had to listen to it, again, and again.
Also, Sit Down by James
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bRD51qEJ8t4
Take care Maggie – your body is making you take a break.
This is kind of nerdy, but I’ve always liked Motorcycle Driveby by Third Eye Blind for a breakup song. It makes you feel both ways.
I would also suggest that you look to Camera Obscura for happy dance songs. WAY better than the top 40 stuff.
“French Navy” http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O3CkfvYMCWM
“Shine Like a New Pin” http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fOcwGmc81RI
oh no you dihn’t. I will be have to add these with commenter-Tourettes. no way I can remember them all at once.
my college roommate used to have a maudlin mix tape called “Depression At Its Finest” oh how I wish it were still around. I am pretty sure that Spandau Ballet “True” was on it. but much like child birth (or so I hear) you forget the physical pain and I can’t remember all the sad songs!
anyhow, please drug yourself into rest, the only cure there is, and when you wake here are some songs for your consideration. more to come from me I am sure. also, some are pure queso, but that still works when in a mania. :-)
Sad Times:
The Scientist, Coldplay http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EdBym7kv2IM
Fruits of My Labor, Lucinda Williams (or ANY LW for that matter) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4htPUK2q4ZU&feature=related
most of that Damien Rice “O” album, a real wrist slitter for sure
Happy Times:
Teenage Dream, Katy Perry
Give A Little Bit, Supertramp http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hGI6qQHFlPk
I was in Spain and London during a painful breakup in 2001 and these were my two songs
Oasis – Stop Crying Your Heart Out was my sad song and Yo No Soy Esa Mujer was my I’m over you one (One of the lines roughly translates to I won’t put the best of my soul at your feet I’m not that woman).
Sad: Every Breath you Take by The Police
Happy: Young Americans by David Bowie
A saddy: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Luirzce0UF8 (“Hope There’s Someone” by Antony & the Johnsons)
Another saddy: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pS614A5GzEw (“Good Woman” by Cat Power)
A happy: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YShRy81bKms (“Candylion” by Gruff Rhys)
An undies dancer: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J294A-R1Cjk (“Dancing On My Own” by Robyn)
Another one for undies dancing: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zLPbrSjiJI8 (Jimmy Adja from the film Disco Dancer)
Pretty much any Liz Phair that predates whitechocolatespaceegg should do the trick.
If you want to cry, then listen to Sufjan Steve’s Casimar Pulanski Day. Right before my the decision to end my first marriage, I listened to this on repeat, drank bourbon and cried in the bathroom for maybe 3 good hours.
Sad songs: La Maree Haute–Lhasa de Sela. Really, lots by Lhasa de Sela. Cry as you listen, and then cry some more when you remember that she passed away from breast cancer last year.
Sad/angry song: Come on Billy–PJ Harvey.
Happy songs: I recommend you get into K-Pop. It is impossible not to dance to 2NE1 (Lollipop or Fire are especially dancey, and Follow Me makes you feel like bad ass).
sad, then bright. listen to both, very loud.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QXYM6-X8c3o
a perfect sonnet, bright eyes
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x6IOdBCeias
forever longing the golden sunsets, the appleseed cast
so sad: Built to Spill’s ‘Things Fall Apart’
“it doesn’t matter if you’re good or smart – goddamn it, things fall apart”
happy: “Plane to PR” by Daddy Yankee. This song will turn you into an instant mamacita, shakin that ass!!
also, if you want a big ass 60s bouffant for when you’re better? check out my tutorial here
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k_1I13YYbsQ
big big hugs, berlin hair baby
Weepy songe of choice for me these days – Bruno Mars “Grenade”
The relative obscurity of this artist appealed to me and I’ve listened to her album more than once. This is definitely sad:
wait, maybe the appleseed cast isn’t that happy. still! that and ‘fishing the sky’ – lovely and loud, i like to get lose in the crashing and offbeat sounds.
So Sad: “Hold On” by Tom Waits
Happy Dance: Parov Stelar ‘Catgroove,’ as recently recommended by MimiSmarty Pants: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=twqM56f_cVo
…can’t help but smile while watching it!
The Go! Team – Huddle Formation, is fantastic for dancing in your underwear too.
Anything by Bon Iver will help too, I promise.
Sick of me:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ohGCCa-NEFE
and Sky Blue Sky:
Sad Songs:
I Can’t Make You Love Me – Bonnie Raitt
Don’t Dream It’s Over – Crowded House (I prefer Neil Finn’s acoustic version on the Princess Diana Tribute Album)
With or Without You – U2
All Out of Love – Air Supply (don’t judge me)
Where Does Love Go When It Dies – Def Leppard (seriously, don’t judge me)
Happy Songs
You’re So Damn Hot – OK Go
Extraordinary – Liz Phair
All Things Just Keep Getting Better – Widelife (yes, I LOVE my Queer Eye CD, why do you ask?)
Dancing Queen – ABBA
Animal – Def Leppard (please see above about the judging)
crying song: Ocean Of Noise by Arcade Fire
underwear dancing song: Flathead by The Fratellis
Also: drink a lot of rose’ wine, preferably in a really ridiculous glass. Or coffee cup. Cures everything.
Sad – “Dear Chicago, “In My Time of Need,” and “Blue Sky Blues” – Ryan Adams (really a lot of Ryan’s catalog – he’s the master of sorrow)
Happy – Hard to find, but The Housemartins’ “Happy Hour,”
Maggie! I’m sorry to hear that you are feeling like this! I too am home sick today…I love making mix tape/CDs…here are some of my favourites:
Happy:
Freedom 90: George Michael (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=diYAc7gB-0A)
Gobbledigook: Sigur Rós (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KQDWlvh5gtU&feature=related)
The Only Living Boy in New York: Simon and Garfunkel (sort of melancholy, but happy for me! (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AGDt2skie84&feature=fvst)
House of Jealous Lovers: The Rapture (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6HP04nfUi4g)
Billie Jean: Michael Jackson (Motown 25th anniversary premiere in particular) (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nGrqOCrG_zc)
Wallowy:
Jóga: Björk (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BBju9Sdh94k&feature=related)
Why?: Annie Lennox (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1vP-bONWw38)
Kind of cheesey, but happy song = Natasha Beddingfield — Unwritten
Also. Beth is right! Ryan Adams for a wallow!
Come Pick Me Up: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kM0mjukDGRw
Phew!
“Beautiful World” by Colin Hay is (if not HAPPY) about contentment and makes me feel peaceful.
For a sad wallow, I’ve always enjoyed “Love Will Come To You” by the Indigo Girls. A very crying-while-singing song.
Good wallow, Maggie. I hope you eat some ice cream and do some yoga and have a good hair day and watch some Glee or Project Runway and wear an orange bracelet or turquoise shoes…when you feel better.
Because I am a big fan of yours I verified that my suggestions weren’t on your Listen to 1000 new songs life list item. (NERD ALERT, I KNOW)
For a good cry (but only listen to it ONCE)
Nothing like You and I by The perishers
For Not Stop moving and shaking
Heartbreaker by MSTRKRFT
Yes, I too made very considered mix tapes for myself and my friends with a definite emotional arc to them. (And yes, I emerged an adult with a mastery of no skill from my misspent youth.)
I hope you feel better soon, Maggie.
As for music, “Bonfires” by Rickie Lee Jones sounds like my saddest breakup compressed into 4 minutes.
sad song: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GdKbaGYImj0 (South Tacoma Way, by Neko Case)
and somehow in the category of both sad and dancable, there is This Year by the Mountain Goats: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eetIgGXH6DA
Sad
Tear in your hand – Tori Amos
Happy
Steal my Sunshine – Len
They Won’t Go When I Go – Stevie Wonder (SUPER SAD)
This Ship Was Built to Last – The Duke Spirit (makes you feel bad ass again)
Sad — “You Were Always on My Mind” by Willie Nelson
Underwear Dancing — “Higher and Higher” by Jackie Wilson
Dance girl, dance.
Fitz & The Tantrums, L.O.V. – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jZ_BZM0GrD0
Destiny’s Child, Survivor – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R_RVId9OkgI
Christina Aguilera, Fighter: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PstrAfoMKlc
Carolina Chocolate Drops, Hit ‘Em Up Style:
Sad: Accidental Babies by Damien Rice. Let Him Fly by the Dixie Chicks. “But you must always know how long to stay, and when to go.” Just typing that gave me chills.
Good: Fuck You by Cee Lo Green. I dare you not to shake your booty to that one.
I am on a Vanessa Paradis bender. Divine Idyll:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3R_6sP_6VWE
I love that she kept the gap in between her front teeth.
Sad: “Last Night I Dreamt That Somebody Loved Me” by Low or The Smiths.
Underwear Dancing: “Where’s Your Head At?” by Basement Jaxx.
Here is the song I dance to with my daughter on a Sunday morning in our jammies.
Gwen Stefani – Sweet Escape
Sad face – happy thoughts, hey. Hope you feel better soon!
For Dancing: Just a little bit – Kids of 88
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LUtN1NmdFmg
For Dancing: Go Do by Jonsi
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T6HjT4SQKJI
For Wallowing: Walk away – Ben Harper
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6FSkL9hMhpE
For Wallowing: Kandi – One Eskimo
Hmmm, for wallowing I love the Wailin’ Jennys, they’ve gotten me through the last year. Most recently I’ve gone for Beautiful Dawn and Heaven When We’re Home.
For Happy, an oldie by goodie: Here Comes The Sun by the Beatles.
So I haven’t listened to them enough to pick a specific song, but from one listen-through, it seems like every single song by Best Coast is about missing/wanting/loving someone.
Hmm, Frou Frou – Let Go
For a dance-y pick-me-up, try Multiply by Jamie Liddell – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fkqIsSTWSsc
Modest Mouse – Float On
New Pornographers – Electric Version
The Faint – Glass Dance
Richard Cheese – Milkshake :) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZBhZ8gCgfg0
I could keep going, but I’ll stop.
So many good suggestions.
Here are mine:
SAD Plane Jason Mraz http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1KmEijRUBq8
HAPPY Kick Drum Heart by Avett Brothers (can’t find an official video)
To wallow to (with a little hope throne in): 1000 Years by the Corin Tucker Band – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0tpwXc21wsc
To dance to: Seven Nation Army by the White Stripes (a perennial fave)
“why does my heart feel so bad?” – Moby
I listened to the Mountain Goats “Woke Up New” and “No Children” a lot during my Grief Year, which was what I called the immediate aftermath of the demise of my last relationship. Also “Drive on, Driver” by the Magnetic Fields. (Actually, most of Distortion.) And also “Hum Hallelujah”, Fall Out Boy, and “Bonnie Portmore” as sung by Lucinda Williams.
Songs for happy dancing: “Dragostei Din Tei” O-Zone; “Party at a Rich Dude’s House”, Ke$ha; “Desolation Row” and “Vampire Money” My Chemical Romance; “Feel So Numb”, Rob Zombie; and “Bullet” Steel Train, and anything by Gold Motel or Mark Ronson and the Business INTL.
Dancing in your underwear: “Something Good Can Work (The Twelves Remix)” – this makes for an EPIC dance party: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vB7nmTiIt38
Song that makes me cry EVERY TIME I HEAR IT for some stupid reason: “Top of the World” by the Dixie Chicks. When she sings, “I wished I’d have known you/Wished I’d have shown you/All of the things I/Was on the inside/I pretend to be sleeping/when you come in in the morning/To whisper goodbye/go to work in the rain/I don’t know why/I don’t know whyyyyy” and then the chorus following that verse – CRAP. I am about to start crying and I am sitting at my desk at work. No good. Stinkin’ song. I love it so.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yrNkuQUhh3A
(Disclaimer: I don’t love the video!)
One more dancing in your underwear song: “Americanarama” by Hollerado. SO GOOD! And the video is awesome.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Whv1tLqKZig
Feel better soon, okay? That’s actually not a request. Get on it.
Sad side: I can’t make you love me, Bonnie Raitt. This was poignant in a 2002 breakup, and I still tear up when I hear it as muzak.
Happy side: Mr. Brightside, The Killers. Lyrics aside, it always gets me up dancing.
sobfest:
let it die–feist (PURGE the sadness. My friends asked me to ‘stop listening to the wrist cutting song’ and told me to ‘let the song die’)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ob1CdTLDj10
love song-the cure
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hXCKLJGLENs
munich–editors
acoustic= extra emo http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yTkg5oVuj94
electric= extra angry http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eO7tVypeYAo
bag lady–erykah badu
http://www.dailymotion.com/video/xdcb54_erykah-badu-bag-lady_music
triumph:
tears dry on their own–amy winehouse (yup we had something…screw it, I’m picking myself up)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ojdbDYahiCQ
diamond dave–bird and the bee (focus on your celebrity crush)
http://www.funnyordie.com/videos/1fdb2bd765/diamond-dave
happy valentine’s day–outkast (with time it grows on you)
Maggie, I gotchu, girl.
Dance!:
“Make Me Smile” – Chicago (ohgodthehorns!)
“Friday On My Mind” – The Easybeats
“The Letter” – Joe Cocker’s cover (singit!)
“Danger High Voltage” – The Wildbunch – 2 Many DJ’s did a good mix with this too
Wallow:
“Leather and Lace” – Stevie Nicks & Don Henley
“Fade Into You” – Mazzy Star
“Sleep Walk” – Santo & Johnny (“RICHIE!!!!”)
I hope you feel better, Maggie. You’re too bright a light to waste anytime wallowing.
Okay, I actually snorted, out loud, at “I wish this bed would stop touching me so I could sleep.” That will keep me smiling all day so thank you.
That said, feel better soon!
And download Adele’s 21 immediately. I’m obsessed and can’t pick a single track to highlight – they’re all just so damn good.
If you understand French, this might make you feel better, hope so…
On s’est aimé comme on se quitte by Joe Dassin
The Sad:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4qv3w3_UmVE&playnext=1&list=PLB6CAC9D401BB5622
Devotchka – The Last Beat of my Heart
Sad/breakup song perfection. A cover of a Siouxsie and the Banshees song.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=skUJ-B6oVDQ
Coldplay – Fix You
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TzFnYcIqj6I
The Eurythmics – Here Comes the Rain Again
That might be real specific to me as a sad song.
The Happy:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Abk1jAONjw
Lady Gaga – Just Dance
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pZ9KfKx8PmM
Bran Van 3000 – Drinking in LA
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sZTpLvsYYHw&feature=artist
The Killers – All These Things That I’ve Done
I just found your blog recently and wanted to say how much I love your outlook on the world! Hope things start to look up soon…I’m rooting for you!
Joni Mitchell’s “River” (which, while people seem to play it most at Christmas, is an anytime song to me) is a great song for sad times. Kim Stockwood’s “She’s Not in Love” always makes me smile.
wallow side: Mountain Goats -Woke Up New http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1bSdRizGYb0
or Frazey Ford – Lost Together http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5hBqmovXPVA
undie dancing: Out Hud – It’s For You http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ttTYSinLhY8
or La Roux – Bullet Proof http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bMo5xY4EyZQ
Sad: I’m with MJ, “Hold On” by Tom Waits kills me.
Happy: There’s Hope, India Aire
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7NHjUEdiebE
Feel better soon!
Sad: “Fields of Gold” by Eva Cassidy – never fails to make me cry http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZGwDYBWEDSc
Dancing in your underwear: “Jump” by Girls Aloud – ALWAYS makes me dance! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rk7zhB_m4gc
Feel better!
This song takes out my insides: “Down to Zero” by Joan Armatrading. For when you are at rock bottom. She GETS it.
I can only find the live version online which doesn’t have her grief stricken piano (and is the best part), but if you like I will send you the song to your email as an attachment.
Happy song: Electric Avenue by Eddy Grant. Animal by Miike Snow.
Happy- “Walking on Sunshine”
Sad- Indigo Girls “Ghost”
A few songs to “rub it in” real good:
– How my heart behaves / Inside & out (Feist)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-E3P5DQSoQI
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tP3jKj6nOy8
– Hallelujah (by Leonard Cohen or performed by Jeff Buckley)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y8AWFf7EAc4
– I’m not yours (Angus & Julia)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DJoiZYydw4g
And to dance like nobody’s Business:
She Sells Sanctuary (The Cult)A classic of mine !
Kate Nash’s “Merry Happy” the title says it all
Very old sad : “Ne me quitte pas” by Nina Simone (originally Jacques Brel)
Old sad: “I Know It’s Over” by the Smiths
Recent sad : “River of Sorrow” by Antony and the Johnsons.
Happy happy joy, joy: anything by the Go!Team, “Time To Pretend” by MGMT,
Tragi-comic and funny lyrics: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=of-ABC-0KM8
chin up & feel better!
Sad: “Train in the Distance” by Paul Simon.
Happy: “September” by Earth, Wind and Fire.
Feel better.
I haven’t heard this song in years, and I just found it on youtube, and it still makes me cry:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UgDWRYUwaPg
Also this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R7f189Z0v0Y
Now for Happiness:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dHTPdbpogRE
And my favorite song since I was 13:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xTQF89JiEJc
Music is always my go to. Take care of yourself.
One that made me burst into tears the first time I heard it: “Anything for You” by Gloria Estefan.
Another one that didn’t make me sob but is heart-breaking: “Sometime Around Midnight” by The Airborne Toxic Event.
Happy/Dance Around the Room: “Let My Love Open the Door,” Pete Townshend (I’m chair-dancing right now just thinking about it), and “Istanbul (Not Constantinople)” by They Might Be Giants.
And here’s one that made me laugh out loud. It’s from a band called Rock Sugar and it’s a mash-up of “Like a Prayer” and “Shook Me All Night Long”(they go together surprisingly well) called “Shook Me Like a Prayer.” You can probably find it on Blip if you want to take a listen.
Feel better soon.
Weeping:
Down To You – Joni Mitchell (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xwMIkG0oY6s)
Dancing:
She Bangs The Drums – The Stone Roses (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wD6Pq0bSMPo)
So I just thought of a sad one, and you can pick the artist- Stevie Nicks or Dixie Chicks…
I prefer the Dixie Chicks version myself,
sad side: Skinny Love by Bon Iver
good side: I’m Alive by Kenny Chesney (I KNOW, but just listen to it)
For the sad side, how about ‘Whiskey Lullaby’ by Brad Paisley and Allison Kraus. That one always makes me cry.
For the happy undie dancing side, how about ‘Watermelon Crawl’ by Tracy Bird or ‘Cotton Pickin’ Time’ by Blake Shelton
This one could go either way, depending on how you’re feeling at that particular second:
http://www.reverbnation.com/play_now/song_1498746
(Full disclosure, it’s my brother’s band)
I am not a David Gray fan, but my dad played me this song after my mom died, and it is perfect. It is perfect for a good cry, and feeling better.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_qCWIWI1ClM
I hope you feel better soon.
Happy song:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rlOVEMHLAMc
Sad song:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iJe3osgk8Vc&feature=related
(no matter how often I listen to it, I always have to cry!)
I hope you’ll be feeling better soon!!
Sad:
Minneapolis – Lucinda Williams
Dear Chicago – Ryan Adams
Seasons in the Sun – Nirvana
Gets you moving:
American Girl – Tom Petty
Holiday – Vampire Weekend
No Sleep ’til Brooklyn – Beastie Boys
Happy: You and I by Ingrid Michaelson.
I don’t have a sad song because sad songs make me, er, sad.
I know it’s Over & There is a Light That Never Goes Out – The Smiths
Edge of the Deep Green Sea, Same Deep Water as You, Trust…all The Cure but that doesn’t count for me as I listen to them happy, sad, mad, etc.
Where the Road Meets the Sun – Katie Herzig Matthew Perryman
Exit Music (for a film) -Radiohead
Mazzy Star – Fade into You
i i ieeee – Tori Amos
I could keep going…so much passionate music.
Sad:
Waylon Jennings – Wurlizer Prize
Underwear Dancing:
The Von Bondies – C’mon C’mon
My suggestions are a little unconventional, but hey. So am I.
Sad: Good people by Jack Johnson — it’s kind of an upbeat tune but the lyrics are kind of depressing…
Cold Day in the Sun by the Foo Fighters
If you wanna go old school sad, how about “can’t live, if living is without you, I can’t breathe anymore” and my all-time favorite wallowing tune when I was in high-school/college is Phil Collins’ Against All Odds. (I mean come on: How can I just let you walk away, just let you leave without a trace
When I stand here taking every breath with you, ooh
You’re the only one who really knew me at all)
Happy songs:
Keep Walkin’ by Emily Maguire (although this is a transition song from said to happy)
Give my Life by Army of Lovers (the video is so not cool, but it’s a good song to shimmy to)
Here Comes the Sun/Good Day Sunshine by the Beatles
Get out the Map by Indigo Girls
Maggie: I sensed something was up when you posted the poem by Ellen Bass (which I love and have saved to use in bereavement cards and have already used). I second what everyone has said about you being a bright spirit, and brave to share this with us, and to wish you the best as you learn your new normal. Soldier on, my friend.
Sad songs: Anything from Elliott Smith’s first two records, and most of the stuff from his third record. “The Biggest Lie” and “Between the Bars” are two particularly weepy ones. Leonard Cohen will get you good and bummed nearly every time you need it. His first four records are especially mood-deflating (in the best way possible, of course). Finally, Weezer’s cover of “Unbreak My Heart” is the best electric guitar-based cover balled I’ve ever heard. (You know who knows how to pine? Rivers Cuomo knows how to pine.)
Happy songs: Every song on the first record of Queen’s Greatest Hits. Every damn song. The ’60s soul collection, “Beg, Scream, & Shout” will make you get up and dance like mad, and I say this as a non-dancer.
And as for something to listen to when you’re feeling a little in between, Seu Jorge’s covers of David Bowie songs are fantastic. So simple, yet filling. They’ll clear your mind of whatever is troubling you.
Man, I could make a list like this forever. I hope at least some of this helps you feel better.
Oh Maggie, I’m so sorry life is rough. And then some.
I know it’s cheesy as hell, but nothing is close your windows and crank up your stereo and wail along as Kelly Clarkson’s Since You’ve Been Gone.
Sad song (though oddly, also close my windows, crank up my stereo and sing along) “Change is Hard” by She and Him.
I say let yourself wallow when you need to. Glad there’s a Dance side planned as well :)
Wallow – Shelter (Ray Lamontagne’s Trouble)
You Were Mine (Dixie Chicks’ Wide Open Spaces)
Dance – Mercy (Duffy’s Rockferry)
Dance –
Thank you for everything you’ve done and continue to do.
Metafilter has complied a few good lists:
sad songs: http://ask.metafilter.com/11593/I-want-suggestions-for-really-depressing-breakup-songs
break up albums: http://ask.metafilter.com/138579/All-the-tracks-lead-you-to-heartbreak
upbeat break up songs: http://ask.metafilter.com/126778/Dont-let-the-door-hit-you-in-song
angry break up songs: http://ask.metafilter.com/157089/Angry-aggressive-breakup-songs-please
Here’s a tumblr about break up songs:
http://breakupsong.tumblr.com/
Upbeat/happy song:
Bulletproof by La Roux
I hope this helps. <3
One of the most beautiful wallowing songs out there, if you ask me, Left and Leaving by The Weakerthans: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IgJ6soX18R8
“Happy Hour” by the Housemartins. I cannot NOT dance around when I hear this song.
Replacement by She Wants Revenge
When I went through my divorce, I could only listen to a few CD’s over and over again. I needed to control what little I could. One favorite was Cowboy Mouth’s Are You With Me. Here is a link to a snippet of Love of My Life…definitely for dancing. (I substituted the “she” for “he” while singing along and thumping the steering wheel in my car.)
http://www.pandora.com/music/song/cowboy+mouth/love+of+my+life
Also good from this disc is How Do You Tell Someone. Up beats, but sad lyrics.
http://www.pandora.com/music/song/cowboy+mouth/how+do+you+tell+someone
Also good (for the anger stage) is Violet by Hole. I guess this is good for dancing, but I always found myself stomping. Does that count?
http://www.pandora.com/music/song/cowboy+mouth/how+do+you+tell+someone
Sad: Cheryl Wheeler, “But the Days and Nights Are Long” or “Right Way to Do the Wrong Thing.”
Happy: Cheryl Wheeler, “Potato”.
Whoever mentioned Lucinda Williams for sad nailed it, but she also has some kickass upbeat songs.
I also think that Sinead O’Connor’s whole I Do Not Want What I Haven’t Got album veers wildly between the sad and the dancing in underwear sides of the spectrum.
Wallowtastic:
The Killers: Everything Will Be Alright
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xJENtHOJUBs
DancyPants:
Yolanda Be Cool & Dcup – We No Speak Americano
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wavpWRK6IX8 (random video, but it’s the song)
My sad breakup song: “Thanks, That Was Fun” by the Barenaked Ladies
My happy songs: “Tightrope” by Janelle Monae
“LDN” by Lily Allen
Also, awesome hang-on-it’s-going-to-be-fine songs:
“I Will Survive” cover by Cake
“I Move On” from the Chicago movie soundtrack, sung by Renee Zellweger and Catherine Zeta-Jones)
For wallowing
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VS58F-8__3E&feature=related
For dancing
Woefully sad and regretful: Jeff Buckley’s Lover, You Should’ve Come Over
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2QsXa7BOf78&feature=fvwrel
So damn happy I could die (watch at least until 1:30 for excessive happy-making): Dave Matthews Band – Everyday
Happy: ‘Lovely Day’ by Bill Withers
‘Three Little Birds’ by Bob Marley
Sad: ‘Love is a Losing Game’ by Amy Winehouse
Anything by the Smiths (especially ‘Please Please Please Let Me Get What I want’)
you want miserable? oh, have I got miserable for you. no-one does sad like morrissey and the smiths – ahh, morrissey *sigh*.
heaven knows i’m miserable now (the smiths)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GPYOf-P4Hlo
“why do i smile, at people who i’d much rather kick in the eye?”
there is a light that never goes out (the smiths)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DRtW1MAZ32M
but, here are some songs that never fail to make me smile:
ask (the smiths)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CEpAtTe-oJY
this too shall pass (ok go)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UJKythlXAIY
country house (blur)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ci0fyRAw21Q
take care, sweet maggie.
oh, i forgot one very important sad song:
tender (blur)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WNy0ZRLrtis
xx
Sara Bareilles has been my Savior during my separation.
Wallowing…http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rEXhAMtbaec
More Wallowing….http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=srMBZiqNMaM
Empowering…http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eR7-AUmiNcA
For Strength….http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8FXLo3aCkuQ
My happy song…Kiss by Prince, such a fun beat!
Hope that helps :)
Please don’t listen to Johnny Cash’s cover of “Hurt” unless you’re really and truly willing to lie insensate and useless for a week.
There’s also Sea Change, which is Beck’s breakup -album- (imagine!). If you spend too much time with “Lost Cause,” you’re likely to double down for two weeks.
(that said, Get well soon!)
These two songs have accompanied some of my heartbreak:
Rosie Thomas -Farewell
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TKTrexucYOY
Kate Rusby – Who will sing me lullabies?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=No5FkAmTaJY
Pure disco cheese for the dancing in your knickers stuff:
Boney M – Rasputin
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kvDMlk3kSYg
Quincy Jones – Ai No Corrida
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VzAw3m6ufnA&feature=fvsr
More recent – Armand van Helden:
I forgot this one!!!!
http://zefrank.bandcamp.com/track/chillout
melancholy tune with happy lyrics: Don’t Be Blue by Justin Parson http://justinparson.bandcamp.com/track/dont-be-blue
Did exactly that after several breakups – made one sad CD and one happy CD. And each time I listened to either one, I felt just a teensy bit better. And then one day you realize that you remember what “okay” feels like, and they are just songs again.
Sad: “Sorrow” by The National
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w8-egj0y8Qs
Happy: “The Glamorous Life” by Sheila E
Sad: Call if Off – Tegan and Sara
Dance: Funky Cold Medina – Tone Loc
Get up and dance:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6UG4Rwvlqg8
Wallow:
Okay,
Here is my recommendations –
Sad:
This is my winter song to you by Ingrid Michaelson & Sara Bailles (?)
What he wrote by Laura Marling
Farewell by Rosie Thomas
Skinny Love by Bon Iver
Paris by Benton Paul
Maybe by Ingrid Michaelson
I will have to come back to you on the happy sounds.
“City of Blinding Lights” by U2 always brings me to my feet. It screams the happy for me.
Johnny Cash’s cover of “Hurt” makes me, well, hurt. You can feel his pain through the speakers.
A good mix of happy and sad is Maroon Five’s “Can’t Lie”. It’s a break up song that makes you want to dance.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gS7GVC6G9qU
“Smile” by the Jayhawks
This is a wallowing and a dancing song for me: Be Joyful by Rock Plaza Central http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ojiZ9EFMQM8
It’s not exactly happy but “Places You’ve Come to Fear the Most” by Dashboard Confessional has a brilliant screaming bit that really helps get out some frustration FOR SURE!
As for sad songs “Kissing You” by Des’ree is a bit of a punch to the solar plexus.
No song recommendation as of yet….but I’ve been there and it will stop hurting. Sending a hug your way. =)
I have an entire ipod playlist called ‘Sinking Under a Heavy Burden’ as a go-to for moments like this. Choice gems include:
Joni Mitchell – The Last Time I Saw Richard
Arcade Fire – Crown of Love (perfect teenage angst)
Cathy Davey – Sing For Your Supper http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GYPPUbGVQLs
The ‘I will get through this even though it sucks to all eternity’ song : Pink Martini – Hang On Little Tomato
And most importantly, the underwear dancing:
The Clash – Rock The Casbah
Dizzy Gillespie – Bang Bang (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DjA82yQU_Ss)
‘Cream’, by Prince, is my go-to song whenever my spirits need lifting or my confidence needs boosting. Do the lyrics sound just a little bit dirty at first listen? Yes, yes they do. But if you listen a little harder, you’ll realize it’s all about taking your place at the top- you sassy, vivacious, life-loving diva you! And anyway, a little double-entendre never hurt anyone.
Second runner up is Aretha Franklin’s ‘Spanish Harlem’. Turn it up, up, UP and dare your booty not to shake as she sings that first sassy string of ‘la la la la la la’…it’s impossible not to feel good when Aretha’s on the job.
If you must wallow in sadness, I find that Jeff Buckley is a suitable companion. Listen to his ‘Hallelujah’, and allow yourself to visit a dark and sorry place for ONLY as long as the song lasts. Then, more Prince!
OK:
Sad:
Tracy Chapman – The Promise
Snow Patrol – You Could Be Happy
Ray Charles – You Don’t Know Me
Ray is my go to man for sad and happy:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L-5LwRinkJ0
Annie Lennox – The Gift – from my broken engagement 10 years ago…cannot hear it and all of Diva without crying
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gjMBPR5H9x4
Suzanne Vega – The Queen and the Soldier
Dire Straits – Juliet
Lyle Lovett – North Dakota – oh my god but this song will make you cry – just beautiful:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xvTvnltNmfc
Johnny Cash – Ring of Fire
And Dan Wilson – Sugar – but you know that one already…
Happy
Snow Patrol – Just Say Yes
Katrina & the Waves – Walking on Sunshine
BoB – Magic:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cq-NShfefks
Ricky Martin – Shake Your Bon Bon
Pink – U and Ur Hand
Ray Charles – This Little Girl of Mine & I’ll Be Good to You with Quincy Jones
Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers – Yer So Bad
Def Leppard – Pour Some Sugar on Me
Beyonce – Why Don’t You Love Me
(title seems counter-intuitive, but its a badass song about empowerment)
Mary Chapin Carpenter – Shut Up and Kiss Me
Lyle Lovett – She’s Hot to Go
Barenaked Ladies – One Week and If I Had a Million Dollars
Blackeyed Peas – I Gotta Feeling
Rascal Flatts – Feels Like Today
Liz Phair – Extraordinary
I’ll come back with more of both.
Big big hugs to you! Hang in there!
‘Ciao!’ by Lush/Jarvis Cocker is a great breakup song when you’ve been wronged, but is probably not appropriate for your situation. It’s immensely cheerful (if rather bitter) and lyrically very clever too.
‘Foundations’ by Kate Nash is heartbreaking. And here’s two classic breakup songs: ‘Nothing Compares 2U’ by Sinead O’Connor and ‘That’s No Way To Say Goodbye’ by Leonard Cohen. Ouch.
‘The Bad Touch’ by Bloodhound Gang is impossible not to laugh/dance to. Sorry my list is more sad than happy.
For dancing: Sparkle! by the Candy Butchers
For weeping: Not as We by Alanis Morrissette
Also, Kelly Clarkson: YES! So true!
And It’s My Life (Talk Talk) : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kM0mjukDGRw
Sad:
The Weepies – World spins madly on
Mumford & Sons – White Blank Page
Lady Gaga – Speechless
Happy:
La Roux – Bulletproof
Yeah Yeah Yeahs – Zero
Noisettes – Wild Young Hearts
Pipettes – Pull Shapes
Sad:
My Backwards Walk by Frightened Rabbit
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aTXA_q12hKg
Happy:
Boogie Shoes by KC and the Sunshine Band
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ef8e_JENKNA&feature=player_embedded
(Yes, that’s a link to So You Think You Can Dance, this routine made me like that song.)
Sad/Dance:
The Story of Us by Taylor Swift
Oh oh oh, one more! ‘The Water’ by Johnny Flynn is the kind of happy/sad song that always seems appropriate during those times when you know some serious spirit-cleansing (ultimately good!) is about to happen, which also means some serious aching (temporarily awful). It is a cathartic and absolutely lovely song.
Uplift!! – Hockey’s Song Away: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_g-Eok8n0WE
Rage – Nirvana’s smells like teen spirit or just about anything by Rage against the Machine – i used to turn it way up and jump around, landing as hard as i could. Nice ties back to angry teenage years too.
Happy – I have to say that everytime I hear the radio-friendly version of Ceelo’s F*** You, I dance around and get incredibly happy (I have not heard the original version yet, because Youtube makes you sign in to watch “questionable” videos). He refers to himself as being Atari to another person’s Xbox, and frankly, I would RATHER be Atari. But that is because I am old.
Old School Happy – just go ahead and buy yourself a Bee Gees album. I am listening to Stayin’ Alive at this very moment, and I couldn’t be happier. Whether you’re a brother or whether you’re a mother, you have to love that song.
Sad – Ani Difranco. Just pick a song. There is a tinge a sadness in even her upbeat songs. But I love her. “School Night” will break your heart, throw it on the floor and rub your nose in it.
Old school sad – Rose Colored Glasses by John Conlee. If you are looking for sad songs, you have to include some good old school country, and this is definitely of the honkey-tonking, truck driving school of country music. I heard this all through out growing up, and one night in my first apartment, my next door neighbor played it over and over again all night long.
sad: “promising light” by iron & wine
happy: “rock your body” by justin timberlake
feel better, maggie.
Neko Case, Twist the Knife:(heartbreaking stanza: “Carefully / quietly / you took what’s young from me / I didn’t deserve it / I gave it away”)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ULqtganlDGE
Neko Case, Don’t Forget Me:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V9KrotLtC-Y&feature=related
Loretta Lynn, This Old House:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sQko0Vf2g_s
Happy and/or hopeful:
The Mountain Goats, This Year:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eetIgGXH6DA
Foster the People, Pumped Up Kicks:
Heartbreak: No Regrets – Midge Ure
Dance around the house: Come on Eileen – Dexys Midnight Runners
Joy will return to your life… hang in there.
Little Girl Blue, Janis Joplin. She knows what’s in your soul, no matter what it is- she’s a genius that way. Feel better, Maggie, on every level! Sending love from North Carolina. You have inspired a bunch of my favorite people (including myself) to create life lists, and then set about helping each other achieve them. We’re cheering you on as you move to your next chapter.
For Wallowing…
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pB8Mu_rnbLc
or…
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bLyKEToqME0
For Dancing…
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w5Xd_RqCdaw
or…
Sad
Fire and Rain-James Taylor
These Days-St. Vincent (This is a cover. I’m not sure who sings the original.) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1vxQs84FMWQ
Happy
Chicken Fried-Zac Brown Band
Party in the U.S.A-Miley Cyrus
Uptight-Stevie Wonder
Sad But Sounds Happy
Where does the Good Go?-Tegan and Sara
The Execution of All Things-Rilo Kiley
Hope you feel better!
How about “This is the Last Day Of Our Acquaintance,” by Sinead? And “Groove is in the Heart,” Dee Lite.
I have been thinking about you and wish you lots and lots of happiness. And I hope you feel better soon.
for dancing:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uULM7TFvc8k
for wallowing:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bGxmF0gtBmY
hang in there. and remember…bourbon kills germs. :)
Maggie, music is the best therapy there is. Enjoy these.
For heartfelt tears:
Rusted Root, “Beautiful People” (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mSR0fZVmppc)
Two songs that are sad, but still make you dance and feel like a hero:
Rilo Kiley, “Better Son or Daughter” (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B0sy7y54XAE)
REM, “Bad Day” (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hyk-Vdd_Qrk)
Just plain for dancing:
T. Rex, “Get it On” (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bBin9qC5dKg)
I could only think of a sad one today.
Wallowing in tears: Patty Griffin, Nobody’s Cryin
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2f_GUtbW_ho
Wallowing in awesomeness: Paolo Nutini, New Shoes
Let me know when you get the cd done! I’m just two steps behind you, sister…
“Come Pick Me Up” Ryan Adams
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kM0mjukDGRw
Love ya.
For Weeping:
The Avett Brothers – Pretty Girl at the Airport
http://youtu.be/9MoCfC68WV8
Bird York – In the Deep
http://youtu.be/U_FRluQgYpI
Brandi Carlisle – What Can I Say
http://youtu.be/GxxMHFIxCP4
Iron and Wine – Passing Afternoon
http://youtu.be/36dIQfL5kFQ
For Dancing:
Andy Grammer – Keep Your Head Up
http://youtu.be/CmrOB_q3tjo
The Spinners – The Rubberband Man
http://youtu.be/CR2T1fXP9NI
Lo Fidelity Allstars – Battleflag (this one is explicit)
http://youtu.be/B99nd2iKGOw
Better days, Maggie. And enjoy the dancing!
When my partner and I broke up last year I could not stop listening and crying to The Mountain Goats’ “Woke Up New”:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1bSdRizGYb0
I also got my “who needs ’em anyway” vibe on by listening to the ENTIRE back catalogue of Ani DiFranco. She is one seriously righteous babe. Especially check out “Dilate” and “Untouchable Face”. Oh yeah.
I might accidentally keep sending you links. The wine is fine, this evening.
“I’m So Happy That I Can’t Stop Crying” Sting
I’ve always been a big Ani DiFranco fan for times of change. Had a spectacular meltdown in college for which the song “As Is” was my soundtrack. Also recommend Pictures of You by the Cure.
For dancing with your ladies “shameless” by Ani DiFranco is a good one. And my all time favorite, first song I pick on the jukebox, make me smile song is Bright Side of the Road by Van Morrison.
If you really want to cry, listen to Beck – Sea Change. It’ll definitely get you in the mood. Guess I don’t listen to much happy peppy music, cuz I can’t really think of anything….
Oh, just thought of the happy song! Talking Heads – This must be the place! This song always makes me happy and feel safe! Feel better, Miss Maggie!
For being weepy:
Adele- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s_Zs7XS3XUo
For bustin’ a move:
Ida Maria- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VkVy2FeqIyc
The Head & The Heart- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_fcPfaMpSeE&feature=player_embedded
For weeping (and it was my official Divorce Song)– The Reason Why by Rachael Yamagata
For mad dancing, Employee of the Month by The Anomalies. Hats and Glasses by the same band is also excellent and contains both cowbell and brass section.
“Get on the Road” by Tired Pony is one of those songs that makes me feel kinda achey and filled with longing, no matter what my mood is to begin with. But I always feel better by the end of it. Also recommended: singing along really loudly and pretending you’re doing Zooey Deschanel’s part. Take care, lady.
Gosh it’s so awesome to read everyone’s suggestions here. We are good people, Mighty Folks.
Mine are a little weird, but my tastes vary, so here goes:
Optimistic and spectacular though not necessarily “peppy”:
“Gabriel and the Vagabond” by Foy Vance. One of the lyrics (which might be my first tattoo: “She never was a fighter until he laid beside her and gently whispered, “Hope.”) Omg. Teary just thinking about it.
“You Are Not Alone” by Mavis Staples. Preach, Mavis, preach.
“Journey of The Featherless” by Cloud Cult. Got me through a whole hell of a lot.
“Postcards From Hell” by The Wood Brothers. If there were a band that I would recommend to everyone everywhere without doubt or hesitation, it would be The Wood Brothers. Ridiculously talented. Sick, really.
“Your New Man” by Mason Jennings (Lyric: “his name is probably Rodge, he probably drives a truck and his hands are probably big”)
Underwear dancing:
“Breathe, Stretch, Shake” by Mace
“To Be With You” by Mr. Big
“Complicated” by Poi Dog Pondering
“Pride (In the Name of Love) by Soweto Gospel Choir (omg. Swoon.)
“One More Time” by Daft Punk
“Heavy Metal Drummer” by Wilco
“Se Me Olvidó Otra Vez” by Maná (which is actually a break-up song, but it’s in Spanish and so peppy so just rock out with your badself)
“Ain’t Too Proud to Beg” by the Temptaions
Songs for wallowing:
anything by Crooked Fingers. Yowza.
“At Least That’s What You Said” by Wilco
“Open Fire” by The Sarah Mac Band (I once put this on a “fuck you” CD for an ex-boyfriend. Classy? No. Dramatic? Oh yes.)
“Hanging By a Thread” by Nickel Creek
“Holiday in Spain” and “Chelsea” by Counting Crows
“Bent” by Matt Nathanson
“Ain’t No Sunshine” by Eva Cassidy. KILLER voice, that Eva.
and a classic “Hallelujah” (Jeff Buckley version, obvi)
Wow. Way too long. Sorry about that… I was on a roll.
Lovin’ you, Maggie!
I second Built to Spill’s ‘Things Fall Apart.’
Another gut-wrenching lyric: Stay out of my nightmares, stay out of my dreams. You’re not even welcome in my memories.
I want to add that I am loving these comments. I’m also currently slogging through the disintegration of marriage and a soundtrack — both sad and happy — are requirements to get through these days.
Get yourself a copy of Lowest of the Low, Shakespeare My Butt, and crank up Henry Needs a New Pair of Shoes:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VEhDvNGanLM
For wallowing there’s always June Tabor’s No Man’s Land at:
Conor Oberst and Gillian Welch doing Lua – when I need some sad…
http://il.youtube.com/watch?v=KxO8CoOvr-I
Nancy Sinatra’s These Boots are Made for Walkin’ – always a classic when you’re feeling the power return!
Also, in a sort of weird combination of both: Superchunk’s Driveway to Driveway.
Feel better!
I only wish that I could say that this is rain in my eyes:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XNbE6ZUDsYg
Hope you feel better.
Dancing on the Ceiling, Dancing in the Moonlight…hope they help you get your groove on for short moments…and Stand, by Rascal Flatts to get your inspiration when you most need it. Best wishes and good thoughts to you!
Say what you will, but the soundtrack from City of Angels punches me in the gut. Every single song.
And every single song on the French Kiss soundtrack makes me feel like, well, Paris in the Springtime.
Yes, I have love for 90’s Meg Ryan.
You can do anything you want to do, Maggie. You’ve proved that over and over through this blog, inspiring (mostly) women to do anything that ~they~ want to do. You can do THIS, too.
Happy Song: I’m addicted to Keri Hilson right now (I know, right?). Her version of Turn my swag on is my anthem song right now: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k77Nqgx8p9E. I also enjoy Ben Fold’s You Don’t Know Me.
Sad Song: Ingrid Michaelson’s December Baby http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rpRIDaJrIFE was on replay during my last break up. It makes my chest clench even today.
Thinking of you often and sending hugs and love every time I do.
Wallow: I Just Don’t Know What to do With Myself (Dusty Springfield)
Dance: Rock’n’Roll High School (The Ramones)
Gabba Gabba Hey!
PS Don’t do the Wallow unless you’re feeling a bit less horrible. Wallow songs tend to make me look at the knife drawer longingly if I’m at all, er, “sensitive” ESPECIALLY not if PMS is in the wind. Just sayin’
The World Spins Madly On (The Weepies)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L4sa2HoXpsE
Also anything by Bright Eyes but especially:
“A Perfect Sonnet”. For angry tears and throwing things across the room.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QXYM6-X8c3o
and “Lua”. For general mourning/ crying in bed.
Forgot to mention, “I Move On” is to be danced to while wearing fishnet thigh-highs. (See comment 83.) Plan accordingly.
So, I suck at linking but I can write a list like nobody’s business.
Wallowing:
What Do you Want by Jerrod Niemann
Love You Til The End by The Pogues
It Must Have Been Love by Roxette
Book of Love by Peter Gabriel
Over It by Katherine McPhee
Let Him Fly by Jessica Simpson
Dancing Around:
F**k You by Cee Lo Green (this could go either way actually)
Boomshakalak from Dumb & Dumber soundtrack
Raise Your Glass by Pink
I tend to gravitate towards girl bands when I deal with breakups, so . . .
sad/bittersweet: “Good Things” by Sleater-Kinney. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cgr8e7da52o
Some of the best breakup lyrics ever (I think)
happy: “Keep On Livin'” by Le Tigre. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2_v1vU7DgOs
(the video quality is kinda crappy but the song is clear!)
This song has gotten me through my own hard times.
Oh! and Not Big by Lily Allen…it’s not very mature but it sure makes me chuckle.
Also, I wish I could “like” comments on here like you can on Facebook.
when i went through my divorce a few years ago, i sat on the kitchen floor, with a bottle of scotch, and listened to this on repeat: http://www.dailymotion.com/video/x77ri8_brandi-carlile-the-story-official-v_music
thankfully, this was also the time of my rookie roller derby season, so during our endurance practices, i would listen to this http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nZl165WDjDA as i skated my little heart out.
I’m so far down this list, I doubt you’ll get to me, but if you do, I HIGHLY recommend the following songs.
sad: Poison & Wine by The Civil Wars (currently free on Amazon)
Woods by Bon Iver
Keep Breathing by Ingrid Michaelson
A Boy, A Girl, and A Graveyard by Jeremy Messersmith
When the Night Comes by Dan Auerbach (though comforting)
A Slow Parade by AA Bondy
Happy: All the Pretty Girls by fun.
Clap Your Hands by Sia
Bonafied Lovin’ by Chromeo
Apollo Throwdown by The Go! Team
Colder Weather by Zac Brown Band is killing my mascara every single time since calling off my wedding.
But Good Morning Baltimore from the soundtrack to Hairspray makes me so darn happy in the cheesiest way possible.
Good for when you’re just about ready to be done wallowing: Untouchable Face by Ani DiFranco.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ipUdoUcNmKI&feature=relate
And for when you know you’re done wallowing and ready to dance, but may still have some anger to work out: Lose Yourself by the incomparable Marshall Mathers.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hO2wA0Te0wM
Hang in there, and thank you, as always, for sharing your life with us.
Get good and dah-runk and listen to Nina Simone’s “Lilac Wine.” Lordy, I have to be picked up off the floor after that every single time.
Then get happy and dance your ass off to “Sugarfoot” by Black Joe Lewis & The Honeybears.
Take care of yourself. I’m so sorry you are going through such a dark time. You will come out on the other side more than okay. It just takes time…
Virtual hugs.
Oh please share that mix tape with us? pretty please?
i’ll go through my itunes and select some for you!
sad songs:
Two by Ryan Adams
Turpentine by Brandi Carlile
and follow up with a good dance-in-your-underwear session:
P.Y.T. by Michael Jackson
All Good by Zeroleen
wishing you peace, Maggie
xo
Cammie
Maggie, I’m wishing you a speedy recovery. In so many ways.
My picks for sad are: Keepsake by State Radio, Blu by Zucchero (not the awful one with Sheryl Crow, but the original Italian one), and Glory Days by Bruce Springsteen.
My happy picks are (I can feel the eyes rolling) MmmmBop by Hanson, Right Round by Dead or Alive, and The Lonely Goatherd from The Sound of Music.
To dance to: Dog Days Are Over by Florence and the Machines
This is just a starter, but you can wallow in this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L3sjSnhZJk0
Sarah Maclachlan, Full of Grace
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ovLKUoMqPSg&feature=related
my roommate in college and i used to play this at full volume every morning when we woke up and danced on our beds
Okay, one more and then I promise to get happy tomorrow: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=26EP0ght2kI&feature=fvsr
Are you going to actually put it on a cassette tape? Because I think that part’s key. Or just skip to the part where you start dancing!
Happy:
Untouched by the Veronicas
I’ll Believe in Anything by Wolf Parade
Let’s Dance to Joy Division by The Wombats
Sad (sometimes these go both ways though):
Butterfly Nets by Bishop Allen
Home by Edward Sharpe & the Magnetic Zeroes
Home by Breathe Owl Breathe
I commented earlier, and ever since have been going through all the comments and finding some great songs! Totally loving this!
Here is another fun, dancing in your underwear song, Blame It on the Pop by DJ Earworm:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iNzrwh2Z2hQ
I love this one more than the 2010 mashup. More of his stuff can be found on youtube or his website, which is djearworm.com
And don’t forget Fat Boy Slim and The Rockafellar Skank.
Though it’s hardly a “panty dancing” song, I’ve always found strength in Diana Ross’s “It’s My Turn”. Oddly, it’s never really applied. Maybe there’s a reason it’s the song that immediately comes to mind now.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pJjf_s7EPbo
Love you.
Chelsea Hotel by Leonard Cohen is a big wallowing song for me. Loss and nostalgia, even for the bad times.
Sad (because the former love of my life said it described how much he loved me, which was romantic until he suddenly didn’t love me anymore and started loving some chick in Minnesota intsead): Tom Waits’ “Picture in a Frame”
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UKudBT6WbbE
Also sad (because I dated him in two rounds — once in college and once in our thirties…I first heard this song during the in between time and it haunted me): Sara Bareilles’ “Gravity”
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J0x7CN7NhS8
Underwear Dancing (because it’s so damn peppy I can’t help myself): Enrique Iglesias’ “I Like It”
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X9_n8jakvWU
And a long time (secret) underwear dancing song: Ricky Martin’s “The Cup of Life”
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bBcuN1TYiHs
xoxo.
Sad:
“Wise Up” Aimee Mann
“At This Point in My Life” – Tracy Chapman
“Going Out” – Sarah Harmer
“A Case of You” – KD Lang or Joni Mitchell
Upbeat:
“Home for a Rest” – Spirit of the West
“Freedom” – George Michael
“Body Movin'” – Beastie Boys feat. Fatboy Slim
“Everyday People” – Sly and the Family Stone
Dear Maggie,
I hope your family is doing okay and I’m thinking of you guys. Here are my ideas for what is sure to amount to an epic mix tape.
Sad Sad Songs:
Romeo and Juliet – The Killers
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=87cLyBR1JTo
Your Mother and I- Loudon Wainwright III
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K2P4hw1kos8
Gone Away- Lucy Schwartz
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5ZwNEwAfeu4
So Far Away- Carole King
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8UM249-WfP4
Falling Slowly – Glen Hansard & Marketa Irglova
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FkFB8f8bzbY
Clouds- Joni Mitchell
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bcrEqIpi6sg
Hallelujah- Rufus Wainwright (I always thought his version was the saddest)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LQK4YfiPj1Q
Happy Amazing Made of Awesome Music:
Valerie – Amy Winehouse (fast version)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cQVxFPxYyw0
It Takes Two- DJ EZ Rock & Rob Base
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5IBRbzf3Fws
Gloria- Laura Branigan
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=355Fk8drgZE
Relator- Pete Yorn & Scarlett Johansson
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RHGecjIgJ70
Alison- Jeremy Fisher (sorry, the studio version is MIA)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FxU2re13E4c
F**k You- Cee Lo Green
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pc0mxOXbWIU
One Week- Barenaked Ladies
Hi Maggie,
This doesn’t fall into the category of mix tape, but it’s very applicable!: the episode of This American Life called Break-Up (#339). The first act especially, where Phil Collins helps Starlee Kine write a break-up song, is amazing. I listened to it a bunch last year when my 6-year relationship was going through its tragic end, because I could just so thoroughly relate. One of my favorite lines: “Before the break-up, I had no idea how much break-up music was out there. For example, every song ever written. Or at least every third.”
Sad song: I second the folks who mentioned Bonnie Raitt’s “I can’t make you love me.” It STILL kills me!
Happy dancing song!: “Canned Heat” by Jamiroquai. Yooouuu know this boogie is for reeeaaal!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hGjC0wbUXzk
Very, very big hugs to you, Maggie.
Oops, I also meant to link to the This American Life episode! Here it is:
http://www.thisamericanlife.org/radio-archives/episode/339/break-up
Sad:
Sentimental Heart, She and Him
Samson, Regina Spektor
When Your Mind’s Made Up from Once
I’ll Be Seeing You, Billie Holiday
Dracula’s Lament by Jason Segel (too ridiculous to actually be sad, but it helps bridge the way to happy)
Happy:
Kick Drum Heart by the Avett Brothers (Someone already mentioned this one, but I had to second it.)
Baby..the Glee cover of Justin Bieber. Maybe more of a transitional song than strictly happy.
Angel of Harlem, U2
Firework, Katy Perry
I’m so sorry things are rough now, but you are all kinds of awesome.
The weep & sob story song: “Blue Bonnets” – K.C. Clifford (You can stream it on her website http://www.kcclifford.com/music, and then buy the song/album on iTunes or CDBaby)
The angry & sad break-up song: “Still Hurting” from the musical The Last Five Years (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J6G-pCykYl4)
The feel free and happy driving on a cool spring evening song: “Race You” – Elizabeth and the Catapult (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V-Ved2Jq4Yk)
The can’t sit still when you listen to it song: “I Don’t Feel Like Dancing” – Scissor Sisters (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4H5I6y1Qvz0)
Feel better soon, in all sorts of ways.
To Wallow:
The Promise, Tracy Chapman
Fix You, Coldplay
Scratch, Kendall Payne
You Were Mine, Dixie Chicks
Stay or Leave, Dave Matthews Band
To Dance:
No Man’s Woman, Sinead O’Connor
Livin’ On a Prayer, Bon Jovi
It’s Raining Men, Geri Halliwell
Perfect Time of Day, Howie Day
Rock DJ, Robbie Williams
And don’t forget the Joe Cocker classic, Get By With a Little Help From My Friends. Be well, friend.
I recently went through a break up after a 3.5 year relationship. Here are some songs that helped me
(on the happy side):
Dog Days Are Over — Florence + The Machine
Firework — Katy Perry
(on the happy or sad side — really worthwhile):
Hard Times Come Again No More — Edgar Meyer, James Taylor, Mark O’Connor & Yo-Yo Ma
Happy songs from my breakup mix cd:
Breakin’ Up by Rilo Kiley (the mostvupbeat break up song I’ve found)
Chin Up, Cheer Up by Ryan Adams
And I second (and 3rd and 4th, etc.) CeeLo Green F You
Sad
The Weepies, World Spins Madly On
I can’t not dance whenever I hear Hesta Prynn:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XreeB1Ljeew
Also, it’s not really super dancy, but something about Atomic Tom’s ‘Take Me Out’ unleashes the 80s child in me, and I wanna boogie.
The songs that make me weepy aren’t necessarily sad songs, so I defer to everyone else’s judgment on that one.
To dance I like the theme song to the Jefferson’s. When things were hardest here, I would sing it to my daughter.
That, and Bob Marley’s “Three Little Birds.”
Every little thing’s gonna be all right.
(feel better!)
‘Raise Your Glass’ by Pink. She is super cool, the beat is fantastic, and the lyrics perfect. It is a song designed for jumping & dancing & tossing your hair!
Hello my love! Feel better as soon as possible!
Two songs to dance to:
I Like It by Enrique Iglesias (I’ve been shaking it to this song all week!)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X9_n8jakvWU
Pon de Floor by Major Lazer
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bz6bF8HikIM
To cry:
Paperweight by Schuyler Fisk and Joshua Radin (Dear John soundtrack…so many tears.)
For wallowing: Cheers Darlin’ by Damien Rice – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YPPkFrPk6Zs
For undies-dancing: Manifesto by Cat Empire – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wGec6wN6p0A
The Light in the Piazza, from the Broadway musical of the same name.
I don’t know why, but this song makes me hopeful.
Sad: The Red House Painters, “All Mixed Up.” This is a remake of the Cars’ song but it’s barely recognizable. Really beautiful, really blue.
Happy: The Who’s “Slip Kid” (Happy for the beat and the music, the lyrics are irrelevant)
Lesson Learned-Alicia Keyes
You Oughta Know – Alanis Morrisette
flip side
Wait Til they see my Smile – Alicia Keyes
Ugh. My lists are called “For When You Sleep” and “For When You Dance”. Even when I’m not sad, Ryan Adams How Do You Keep Love Alive makes me weep. Also Coldplay The Scientist. And John Mayer (if you can get over the fact that it’s John Mayer) Slow Dancing in a Burning Room. But then switch it over to happy: Ryan Adams Gonna Make You Love Me, The Cure Just Like Heaven, Barenaked Ladies Be My Yoko Ono and anything by Cake.
Happy:
Ca plane pour moi – Plastic Bertrand
The Crystal Cat – Dan Deacon
Chores – Animal Collective
Daft Punk Is Playing At My House – LCD Soundsystem
Tell ‘Em – Sleigh Bells
Around Us – Jonsi
G Turns to D – Sloan
Hold Tight – Dave Dee, Dozy, Beaky, Mick & Tich
Grow Up – Chromeo
Chicken Payback – A Band of Bees
Early Warnings – Love Is All
Bangers & Mash – Radiohead
Northshore – Tegan and Sara
Swim – surfer Blood
Sad:
Say It To Me Now – Glen Hansard
Who’s Gonna Save My Soul – Gnarls Barkley
Reflections – Diana Ross
Islands in the Stream – Constantines and Feist
Sad song-Band of Horses’s Evening Kitchen
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fYnKHiTfehc
Happy song-Florence and the Machine’s Dog Days are Over
Sad: Somewhere Over the Rainbow — Israel Kamakawiwo’ole
Happy: Pinch Me — Barenaked Ladies
Here’s one for your happy side: Sara Bareilles “Uncharted”
As with all Bob Dylan, it’s really a toss up on wallow/happy. I’m going with wallow on this one.
Bob Dylan- Don’t Think Twice It’s Alright
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mMGKIGpD1tk
& this one.
Bon Iver- Skinny love
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UrMmr1oMPGA
But for happy, dance-in-your-underwear, heal and come back there’s:
Maxine Nightingale’s Right Back Where We Started From: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ckCwBAhz4oc
&
Murder By Death’s As Long As There Is Whiskey In the World (which is bittersweet, but fun): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lonz_cHJHNk
Is it possible NOT to sing along to “I Will Survive”? To me, that’s the ultimate break-up empowerment song. Sad, fist-pumping, and danceable.
i guess this qualifies as sad,
time has told me – nick drake.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cche-h83qNQ
(although all nick drake is good for the soul)
many hugs to you.
Here are my go-to break-up/start to recover songs.
“Starting Now” – Ingrid Michaelson
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b-__CuasqL4
“All The Way Down” – The Swell Season
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jT6G0u4sJkA
“Why Don’t You Love Me” – Beyonce
“Song For The Dumped” – Ben Folds Five
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XVk_e31dnlE
“Someday You Will Be Loved” – Death Cab For Cutie
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=neXaFUmiV3g
“World Spins Madly On” – The Weepies
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L4sa2HoXpsE
“The Cave” – Mumford & Sons
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3KkUeRPjc-Y
“Clap Your Hands” – Sia
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HLA0ofsu0Qg
“Kiss You Off” – Scissor Sisters
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bGvBuVH4cek
“This Too Shall Pass” – OK Go
Ah! It’s been so fun to come back continually and read all the new suggestions!
“These Days” is Nico’s original: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J1N8GtDkYfQ&feature=fvwrel. The St. Vincent cover is also spectacular. This is probably my favorite song ever.
And I definitely, definitely second the Nick Drake suggestions. All of them. Yes.
I hope you feel better soon Maggie, take care.
Here are my top choices for songs to weep by:
Pearl Jam – Parting Ways
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pTdmmVX9mKY
Jeff Buckley – Last Goodbye
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3MMXjunSx80
Ben Harper – Heart of Matters
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yiRrmjQdlUc
Band of Horses – No One’s Gonna Love You
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cuZo7pLnL7c
Now some happy dancing:
Pink – God is a DJ
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XuvF7HF_kLM
Glee Cast – Dog Days Are Over (all the voices together at the end, hugely uplifting! It will give you goosebumps)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZxLgE2UEWPc
Ben Harper – Fly One Time (a great anthem)
I know way too many sad songs, but a good one that is haunting and beautiful is The Walkmen’s “On the Water”…
My two favorite pick-me-up, rally-to-feel-better-about-life songs are Bob Marley’s “Three Little Birds” and Jimmy Eat World’s “The Middle”…
Hope you get to feeling like your old self soon – physically, and emotionally. :) All the best to you.
Only happy today!
Yesterday, I had stupid brain freeze but I thought about you last night and I have more suggestions.
The breakup album : Forever Blue by Chris Isaak
Happy music : anything you love & know by heart and can sing along to very loudly, even sober, my faves are Pixies songs or old Motown hits.
Take very good care of yourself and remember what Frank sang, the best is yet to come… :-)
weep: Let It Go – by Paco
dance: Take On Me – A-ha
Music has magical powers, this is such an excellent way to heal and work through all aspects of life. I don’t even know you personally, but I’ve been thinking of you a lot. Wishing you the best and rooting for you :)
My halfway between song is ‘Soulshine’ by Gov’t Mule.
Everytime We Touch, by Cascada, is one song that totally gets my head ROCKIN. It makes me want to stand on top of the table in a restaurant and get the whole crowd dancing.
On the sad side, I used to listen to Unbreak My Heart by Toni Braxton all the time when my first love broke up with me. (Poor neighbors having to hear it constantly!) (Ok now I’m embarrassed admitting I was so into that song in the late 90’s!)
Maggie, I’m sorry you’re going through this. Take care of yourself, and remember, time will heal. :) Sending many good vibes your way!
Most of my breaking up days were in the mid-90s when the music was grungy and sad by nature. After that, I decided to be the heart breaker and therefore don’t have much knowledge of the modern melancholy musical musings. I hear Cold Play is good. I always love a good old ballad I can belt out in the shower and bawl with.
And I think someone else posted that Pink is good for the dancing in the underwear. Definitely Pink. She wrote a lot about breaking up with her hubby and going out and still partying. That should definitely be your anthem when you are ready to rock again.
If you want a really good wallow, listen to William Fitzsimmon’s album The Sparrow and the Crow.
Here’s a taster: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rbr80q4Rq1o
Angry-sad
-Get Gone (Fiona Apple) nice and florid
-Silent All These Years (Tori Amos)
– Don’t Get Your Back Up (Sarah Harmer)
Sad-sad:
-For You (Barenaked Ladies)
– I Can’t Make You Love Me (Bonnie Raitt)
-Big Blue Sea (Bob Schneider)
-Buckets of Rain (Redbird cover – is a Bob Dylan song)
-Metal and Steel (Bob Schneider) . . . one of my all time favorite songs, period. About being strong in the face of horrible events.
Sad-but-gonna-make-it:
– Long Way to Get (Bob Schneider)
– Go On (Jack Johnson)
– All of My Days (Alexi Murdoch)
– The Hideout (Sarah Harmer)
– Sooner or Later (Michael Tolcher)
– We Are (Sweet Honey in the Rock)
– Amazing Grace (Ladysmith Black Mambazo & Paul Simon)
– Constant Craving (KD Lang) . . . the single line about someone brave marching beneath my skin is really powerful
-Breathe/2AM (Anna Nalick) – also makes us giggle because one of my daughters thought the lyric was “Scream . . . just scream . . . ” for a long time. Perhaps more useful advice, in fact.
Get up and dance:
– I Wish I was a Punk Rocker (Sandi Thom)
– O-o-h Child (Nina Simone version please)
– Absolutely (Nine Days)
– Weapon of Choice (Fatboy Slim)
– Feel Good Inc. (Gorillaz)
– Flathead (The Fratellis)
– Walkie Talkie Man (Steriogram)
(Yes, I have a thing for ipod commercials, LOL! Good songs though.)
Another vote for the new Pink song too, Raise Your Glass.
I still make these cd’s – most recently a set called “Up” and “Down”, and another called “Sunny” and “Cloudy”
HAPPY: Things Will Get Better – Bend Sinister
http://radio3.cbc.ca/play/band/Bend-Sinister/Things-Will-Get-Better
SAD: This I Know – Juliette & The Licks
I can’t believe I didn’t mention this the first time. Michael Jackson’s Off the Wall album, all of it, but in particular, “Off the Wall.”
a little New Order is always good for the soul and covers both ranges. weird/sad lyrics over that dancey-dance beat is rad. plus, teenage nostalgia!!
For fun
Kylie Minogue: Aphrodite http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JjwC_AxUHyg
Jennifer Lopez: Feelin’ So Good http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MA6_aLqataI
Nina Simone: Feelin’ Good (joe clausell remix)http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZXMJi-ziPUI
Kelis: Brave (acoustic) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oRgkfp_okMc
Telepopmusik: Breathe http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HDQw-RShRUQ
For wallowing:
Norah Jones: You’ve Ruined Me (my GOD – this song)http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gGzKZQEOm_Q
Adele: Set Fire To The Rain http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VK4TwstB2AM
Johnny Cash: Hurt http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o22eIJDtKho
R.E.M.: Half A World Away http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MLMnpB51vVM
Robyn: Dancing On My Own/Indestructible (acoustic)/With Every Heartbeat
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CcNo07Xp8aQ/http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qzxUEX3FTOI/http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4y_S1bvxtgg&feature=related
Erlend Oye: If I Ever Feel Better http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=esAj90KnCmQ
Multiply by Jamie Lidell. That song just makes me want to dance!!!
There’s no sadder breakup song than Gladys Knight’s “Neither One of Us” also what about Natalie Cole’s “Someone That I Used to Love”. Then chase those bad boys with “Rain” by Bishop Allen and pat yourself on the back for getting through another day. You will get through this. Promise.
I totally did that! In fact, even though it’s been ages since I’ve broken up, I still have the playlist on my computer. Do you want us to send you CDs? Mine including things like Cake’s “I will Survive” and “Single Girl” by this faboo band called the Clumsy Lovers (about a chick who is married and wishes she were a single girl again, and it reminds me about all the fabulous things that come with being single)
I posted these with links, but I guess the comment didnt get through moderation. I assure you they can all be found on youtube and itunes, etc.
For Weeping:
Pretty Girl at the Airport by The Avett Brothers
In the Deep by Bird York
(There were one or two others but I cant remember them now!)
For Dancing:
Keep Your Head Up by Andrew Grammer
The Rubberband Man by The Spinners
Battleflag by Lo Fidelity Allstars (explicit)
Chin up, Maggie! We’re pulling for you!
Poison and Wine by The Civil Wars. A bit weepy, but so confidence-building. And so “real relationship”. Plus, the video is lovely.
for wallowing, but with a glimmer of hope that things will look up:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WCerHllhNOI
[Radiohead: Lucky]
for rejoicing that things have looked up:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iWOyfLBYtuU
[Florence & the Machine: Dog Days Are Over]
wishes for things looking up physically (and emotionally, too).
reposting from yesterday without links… must have gotten stuck in moderation filter. saw that might have happened to others too! hope you’re feelin’ better today.
my college roommate used to have a maudlin mix tape called “Depression At Its Finest” oh how I wish it were still around. I am pretty sure that Spandau Ballet “True” was on it. but much like child birth (or so I hear) you forget the physical pain and I can’t remember all the sad songs!
anyhow, please drug yourself into rest, the only cure there is, and when you wake here are some songs for your consideration. more to come from me I am sure. also, some are pure queso, but that still works when in a mania. :-)
Sad Times:
The Scientist, Coldplay
Fruits of My Labor, Lucinda Williams (or ANY LW for that matter)
most of that Damien Rice “O” album, a real wrist slitter for sure
Happy Times:
Teenage Dream, Katy Perry
Give A Little Bit, Supertramp
Can I just say that I think of you every single day? I mean, I always read your blog daily, etc., but these days, you will just randomly pop into my head as I wonder how you are doing, and hoping you are making it through all of this okay. Just know, daily love is coming your way from the East Coast.
Shake your moneymaker? It may be a mainstream choice, and may even make you feel like a sham right now, but I can’t even imagine not tapping your toes to “Walking on Sunshine”. Old skate rink Michael Jackson does me good too.
I have loved Katy Perry’s Firework since you posted it here for your 1000 New Songs project. It makes me SO HAPPY every time I listen to it. Sometimes it even gives me happy tears. Even though you introduced me to this song, I wanted to remind you of it. Go dance in your underwear!
SAD:
Time for Me to Fly – REO Speedwagon
Sometimes Love Just Ain’t Enough – Don Henley
Ghost – Indigo Girls
Hello – Neil Diamond
UNDERWEAR HAPPY:
And We Danced – The Hooters
Send Me On My Way – Rusted Root
Who Needs Sleep – Barenaked Ladies
We Didn’t Start The Fire – Billy Joel
Wishing you more days of underwear dancing and less of sad crying! You are an inspiration, Maggie!
Sad: Billy Vera and the Beaters, At this moment
John Waite: Missing you
Happy: Wang Chung!
sad/melancholy:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cgqOSCgc8xc
(Damien Rice’s 9 Crimes)
happy/dancey:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l8G6tmASOFk (Orbital at Coachella 2010 – “Halcyon and On and On”…though a live recording at Coachella the audio is surprisingly awesome. I get goosebumps from the energy I know that crowd must have felt.)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KsE9iXoXB6s (Underworld’s Two Months Off)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OoA0cTC228M
(LCD Soundsystem’s Dance Yrself Clean)
Side A (sad):
Fair by Remy Zero
Tonight by Lykke Li
Side B (happy):
Yellow Ledbetter by Pearl Jam
Never Going Back Again by Fleetwood Mac
Also this one can be happy or sad for me, depending on the day:
Long as I Can See the Light by CCR
Weep:
Drop by Red House Painters
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VjYe6Stx3pE
Dance and be merry:
Ice Cream by Muscles
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3_eyfvYdAiU
(pardon the cheeseball videos…these were the links I found when I searched for the songs.)
great one to shed tears to:
Patty Griffin, Rain
the trippy parts of Tommy James – Crimson and Clover always make me insanely happy
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GpGEeneO-t0
I can’t help but dance to Bob Marley, Could You Be Loved
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7_puwOpH-EQ&feature=related
sad love song – Hedwig and the Angry Inch – Origin of Love
Depressing: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nss78gBZI48
Dance Inducing: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CJA69C6SlRk
I saw a couple of my favorites in the list above, so I made some amendments:
Happy+dancing:
Reverend Peyton’s Big Damn Band – “Clap your hands”
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Ra0DsbiNs0
“She’s got a girlfriend now” – Reel Big Fish
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YBNy3l3Me5o&feature=related
Gorillaz – “Dirty Harry”
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=05MtUnkh2Q0&feature=related (start listening at 0:45)
Mika – “Grace Kelly”
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EaEPCsQ4608
Spirit of the west – “Home for a rest”
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sPJD3qcIL7s
**ideal at socials, or with company for fabulous wild dancing**
Devil Makes Three – “For good again”
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Ra0DsbiNs0
Hall and Oates – “You make my dreams come true”
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8tJoIaXZ0rw
Feist – “Sea Lion Woman”
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1l7xfuu8ja8
Sad+Wallowing:
Neko Case – cover of “Don’t Forget Me”
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hCWhkP6ccZs
Neko Case – “I was your favorite”
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SyZJnX-BnPY
Actually…..anything Neko Case will suit. The lyrics and her voice are achingly beautiful.
Diana Krall – Covering Joni Mitchell’s “A Case of You”
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gwFYUZn-g6Y
Feist – “Let it die”
scatman by scatman john
its a HAPPY dance party song
This, this is to take you from the sad to the happy. The supremely talented and marvelous Amanda Palmer, and one of her new songs: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q9WZtxRWieM
I promise, it’s perfect. Lyrics to live by.
Oooh! I had been meaning to email you with this exact thing! The entire album is great – she wrote it while going through a break-up.
Lissie – Album is Catching a Tiger
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hF1WJ4dChRE
Got me through some rough days . . . is sad but happy at the same time. Make sense? Hugs.
Sad: Fox in the Snow – Belle and Sebastian
Vertebrae
Migrations – both by the AMAZING Christine Fellows
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dDPaFyA0loY
Happy: The Obvious Child – Paul Simon
Amusing: These Are the Good Old Days – DJ Socalled
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lLK_kkL2yjY
or better yet: You are Never Alone – Socalled
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8tS4OWiozmw
Hang in there. You’re going to be okay.
My previous comments with the youtube links got hung up in moderation, here it is again.
For the wallowing:
Parting Ways – Pearl Jam (original is great, lots of live ones out there that are amazing)
Heart of Matters – Ben Harper
No One’s Gonna Love You – Band of Horses
Last Goodbye – Jeff Buckley
For the happy dancing and maybe some defiant rocking:
God Is A DJ – Pink
Dog Days Are Over – Version by the cast of Glee. (There voices are all so powerful, the end will give you goosebumps.)
Boots Like These – Ben Harper (for shaking it. I challenge anyone not to move during this song, it’s impossible.)
Hope you are feeling better Maggie, take care.
Weeping: Love Will Come to You by Indigo Girls and most of the album Pilgrim by Eric Clapton.
Underwear dancing: Jump in the Line by Harry Belafonte and Golden Years by David Bowie.
Hope you feel your mighty self again soon!
sad song (although sad doesn’t to it justice – a rip your heart out song):
radiohead – high & dry
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GKkr29EGc-Y
happy song (although maybe not a dancing song – still a happy song):
mike doughty – i hear the bells
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=plDNCnCik6c
a break up song that you can dance to:
jeffrey lewis – broken broken broken heart
My previous comment is still awaiting moderation because of all the links.
Here are my song suggestions, minus links:
Wallow:
Neko Case, Twist the Knife(e.g., “Carefully / quietly / you took what’s young from me / I didn’t deserve it / I gave it away”)
Neko Case, Don’t Forget Me
Loretta Lynn, This Old House
Happy and/or hopeful:
The Mountain Goats, This Year
Foster the People, Pumped Up Kicks
Now every song I listen to I consider as a possible choice for your mixtape. The Police’s Regatta de Blanc has two good choices: I think Bring on the Night is a happy dance song that made me squirm in seat just now. And The Bed’s Too Big Without You is great for listening to sadly in the dark.
You must must must must listen to Salirò by Daniele Silvestri – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SH_xyi_EdMc
It’s in Italian, but give it a chance. Saliro means something like “I will rise again” and unless I’m totally misinterpreting it, its quite encouraging. Its sorta funky/disco-y, but it builds and builds and the last minute is awesome. The video is quite clever, too.
I’m so sorry to hear that you are having such a tough time.
For wallowing, the last track on Joanna Newsom’s most recent album, Does Not Suffice:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-LgQhfusf_E
All the clothes references in particular made me think of you. And I actually recommend the entirety of Joanna Newsom’s two most recent albums Ys and Have One On Me as they are both, in their own ways, some of the most gorgeous, heart-wrenching evocations of loss I can think of.
For skipping with joy, when you are ready, the most upbeat break up song I can think of (though Cee Lo is giving them a run for their money), the Violent Femmes’s I’m Free:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NAfbQ-Zi7ZI
This too shall pass….
Feel better, you.
Sam Rockwell, Dancing Machine:
Sad:
Sia – Breathe Me http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hSH7fblcGWM
Dixie Chicks – Travelin’ Soldier http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oVsLcuVmgL8
Sad but happy:
Johnny & June – It Ain’t Me Babe http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d2FJMliXkaU
There is also an amazing picture story of them on this link…they are the greatest love story ever.
I’m also a person who wallows with tv and movies, so here are a few good ones for that…
PS I Love You
Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind
And the entire series of Six Feet Under, the final scene is set to the above Sia song and is like a punch to the stomach, and leaves me sobbing uncontrollably every time…in a good way.
I’ve got an ipod playlist called “walkaways” that I used to listen to for a good wallow. Now I listen to it for good music (they’re not mutually exclusive). It includes:
Late Night Conversations – Josh Rouse
Dam – Matthew Ryan
Heartache – Lowell George
Goodbye – Steve Earle
No Regrets – Tom Rush
Traveling Again (Traveling I) – Dar Williams
This is Where – Richard Buckner
… it goes on and on, but luckily, unhappiness doesn’t have to.
hang in there, and like some of the others have said, take the opportunity to rest like your body is telling you to.
For a hopeful wallowing, because the miracle of love will come your way again. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yOGD1WkJJok&feature=relmfu
While I’m on the Eurythmics, this is a great dance around song. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o6f593X6rv8
Sad – Josh Ritter – The Curse http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KXBI2_zH9Js
Happy – The Drums – Let’s Go Surfing http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6OsTUnkqSi4
Can you make a third side of the cassette with “Eff You!” songs? Because I think that is key. Sometimes you might not be in the mood to wallow OR rejoice, and that’s when giving the big ole finger fills the bill. Cee Lo’s “F*** You” certainly goes on there. I also recommend Pink’s “Funhouse” (“This used to be a fun-house/but now it’s full of evil clowns…”) and Alanis Morrissette’s “You Owe Me Nothing In Return” (which, come ON, she cannot mean. Listen to it.) Also appropriate would be Gloria Gaynor’s “I Will Survive.”
If you still want to wallow, I give you Tori Amos, “China,” one of the most beautifully written, heartbreaking, terribly clever songs. Also, Ray LaMontagne’s “Empty” (just as it suggests).
Maybe it’s not the right time to dance in your undies to “It’s Raining Men” but trust me, you’ll be there again someday.
A cheerful breaking up song is Breakin’ Up by Rilo Kiley. This is the video I saw it with first and it is super cute:
I also am going through a separation. I listened to that song a lot for maybe two weeks.
My sad songs are never really that sad. So I would put that on the sad side and on the happy side maybe some Flo Rida with Apple Bottom Jeans (low).
I hope you feel better.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=soCHaz6wh_E
I find Useless Desires (Patty Griffin) does both for me – it’s about giving up on stuff you’ve been holding on to – it’s sad but when you do it you feel better.. if that makes any sense!
Best wishes x
I’m using such a list myself at the moment. Here it is:
Happy:
Lenka – The show
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=elsh3J5lJ6g
Sad:
Eels – End times
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jmOuMudZt0I
Good Charlotte – Dance floor anthem
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pHeP59PBQhc
Bon Iver – Skinny love
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UrMmr1oMPGA
Happy/Sad:
MGMT – Time to pretend
Sad: Iron & Wine “The Trapeze Swinger”, Neutral Milk Hotel “Oh Comely”, Jeff Buckley “Lover, You Should’ve Come Over”, Radiohead “Pyramid Song”
Happy: Sound Tribe Sector 9 “Satori”, Vampire Weekend “White Sky”, My Morning Jacket “Off the Record”
I’m having a hard time stopping there. This is making me want to make a mixtape!
My contribution to your Wallowing mixtape:
Sad: The Wrong Man was Convicted – Barenaked Ladies
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3A4z7iaXzMI
Happy: Chiquitita – Abba (twirl during this one)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fvm5d8idnsI
Much love coming to you from NJ!
Maggie~~ I’m sending a big hug your way! Hang in there.
My wallow song is Adele’s version of “Make You Feel My Love.” Beautiful and wistful.
Lately, my dance song is Tinie Tempah’s “Pass Out.” That beat just gets me.
Sad song: Iron and Wine – Passing Afternoon
Dancing song: Enrique Iglesias – I Like It
Oh I love this. Okay songs to cry to:
Michelle Featherstone’s …
Stay: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xEoOg5AKEOQ
Coffee and Cigarettes: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7iLoamKJrtc
Joni Mitchell’s Both Sides Now: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tKQSlH-LLTQ&feature=related
in between wallow and getting your energy up again:
Burn It Blue by Caetano Veloso & Lila Downs: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=25-JZp0CqsY
As for getting up and dancing … Otis Redding’s Try a Little Tenderness? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dael4sb42nI
Get up and dance!
Sing your life!
The Gufs “Holiday from You” album – it was written while two of the band members were going thru divorces. The songs on this album got me thru several break-ups, including one so bad I could barely breathe and I was barely functional enough to even play music. Highly recc.
Wow, I feel bad to be posting so late! Official kitchen dancin’ track!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VrMYiW0S54s
And i know you have Dizzee Rascal on your list.
-m
I’m sorry you feel awful. It’s really your body saying rest, take care of me, and stop. Listen to the sad, the eff you’s, and then re-build. It takes so very much time.
Sad Song – Ain’t No Sunshine by Bill Withers
Happy Song – Walking on Sunshine by Katrina and The Waves
Hang in there, Maggie!
::hug::
Wallowing songs:
Sparrow SIMON & GARFUNKEL
Mace spray THE JEZABELS
Hurt me THE JEZABELS
L.A. Song BETH HART
Pink bullets THE SHINS
Ruby nights BIC RUNGA
Birds BIC RUNGA
Ain’t no sunshine EVA CASSIDY
Autumn leaves EVA CASSIDY
One crowded hour AUGIE MARCH
No surprises RADIOHEAD
Reckoner RADIOHEAD
Knives out RADIOHEAD
River JONI MITCHELL
Good enough SARAH McLACHLAN
Full of grace SARAH (as per another reader’s suggestion above!)
Dirty little secret SARAH
This woman’s work KATE BUSH
The power of goodbye MADONNA
My immortal EVANESCENCE
Dream brother JEFF BUCKLEY
Grace JEFF
Last goodbye JEFF
So real JEFF
Forget her JEFF
Hallelujah JEFF
Breathe me SIA
Not as we ALANIS
Amsterdam COLDPLAY
Bedshaped KEANE
I will love again LARA FABIAN
Bittersweet symphony THE VERVE
Drugs don’t work THE VERVE
Today’s the day AIMEE MANN
I can’t break it to my heart DELTA GOODREM
Need you now LADY ANTEBELLUM
I don’t believe you PINK
Smoke NATALIE IMBRUGLIA
Three of my fave, heartachingly beautiful classical compositions:
Schubert’s Leise Flehen Meine Lieder (Standchen), D. 957, No. 4 (BALAZS SZOKOLAY’s version)
Satie: 3 Gnossiennes – Lent (KLARA KORMENDI)
Rodrigo’s Concierto de Aranjuez (2nd movement)
Aaaaaaaaand now for Dance in Your Underwear songs:
Wannabe SPICE GIRLS
Stop trying SIA
Let’s twist again CHUBBY CHECKER
Beat it MICHAEL
Do you love me THE CONTOURS
Land of 1000 dances WILSON PICKETT
Pop NSYNC
Stronger BRITNEY
Baby one more time BRITNEY
Bad romance LADY GAGA
Cherry cherry NEIL DIAMOND
Ooh! (Remembered more sad shit.)
Landslide FLEETWOOD MAC
Losing my religion REM
Everybody huts REM
Brick BEN FOLDS FIVE
That’s the way I’ve always heard it should be CARLY SIMON
Crying ROY ORBISON feat k.d. lang
Hurt JOHNNY CASH
This used to be my playground MADONNA
these songs put me in the mood for bittersweet contemplation… which can lead to the weeping…
-YYY’s Hysteric (acoustic)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ssewwKzI2Rk
-Cat Power”s The Greatest (awesome live version)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MJfQXS1hKDo
the only song that makes me want to dance (very very hard to do) and think sex
-YYY’s Phenomena
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=73OolR3Bzsk&feature=related
(first song)
my musical tastes seemed to have stopped 5 years ago, but these have been really hitting the spot for me lately.
really appreciate these posts – learning to deal with the complexities of grief through the amazing wisdom of the internets
Happy: “Dog Days Are Over” by Florence and the Machine.
Sad: “Breathe Me” by Sia. (This song is sad enough on its own merits, but it also plays in the series finale of “Six Feet Under”, the greatest show of all time, and every time I hear it I sob and sob.)
I’m wishing you health and happiness, Maggie.
Lordy, most of these suggestions make me realize how old I must be getting!
Another blast from the past that may fit neither category, but gave me strength when I needed it.
This Is It — Kenny Loggins
Happy: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wpNk860pTO4
Somewhere between wallowing and happy: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FFnj-Tto-J4
Wallowing: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ssdgFoHLwnk
Happy: “Heat” Wave with Alphabeat
Sad: “Hurt” Johnny Cash (but actually it gives me much hope)
Thank you for sharing so openly. It is inspiring.
This is good for dancing in underwear: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lvS902DLEVI
And with B&S, there’s a touch of sad even in their happy.
And their sad has a touch of happy: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o4XOlPvxrVs
Hope these makes your smile because they always makes me feel better.
New Shoes always make me happy…
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hmbUNF1Q4R8
For those days you want to be cocky…
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ry2td7q5ZMc
If you need a good cry…
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DSuPN-NnAPY
Theresa is a personal friend and I love this song more than I can express.
Take care of yourself.
sad: Adele – Don’t you Remember
happy: Jonsi – Go Do
Mumford & Sons, “Timshel”–“You are the mother, the mother of your little child/The one to whom you gave life/You have your choices, and these are what make man great, his ladder to the stars/And you are not alone in this”
Noah and the Whale, “Blue Skies”–“This is the last song that I write while still in love with you/This is the last song that I write while you’re even on my mind/’Cause it’s hard to leave those feelings behind/Blue skies are coming, but I know that it’s hard”
Oh, how I love a good mix tape. These are offered with nothing but love and good vibes. xo
Happy Girl Anthems
El Camino, by Elizabeth Cook
So What? by P!nk
(This one got me through a tough layoff, which, when I think about it, was exactly like getting dumped by a boy).
Sorry Again, by Velocity Girl
(Recovery Theme Song of the Great Breakup of 1998)
Party Generation by Dar Williams
Ghandi by Sarah Hudson (trust me, this one is super fun)
Delirious, by Vistoso Bosses
With David Bowie, by Veruca Salt
Raspberry Beret, by Prince
I Get Wet, Andrew WK
Growing on Me, by The Darkness
Candy, by Iggy Pop and Kate Pierson
The Wreckoning, by Boomkat
It’s a Great Day to Be Alive, by Travis Tritt
Blue
Perfect World, by Liz Phair
Rip in Heaven, by ’til Tuesday
Faster, by Third Eye Blind
All of Out Love, by Declan (file under: guilty pleasure)
California Dreamin’, covered by the Shaw Blades
Home is Where Your Heart Is, by The Sounds
A Sorta Fairytale, by Tori Amos
Fall Apart Again, by Brandi Carlisle
Cry, by Faith Hill (Oh, how I sang the shit out of this one, alone in my car on many a commute.)
Road Not Taken, by Bruce Hornsby
The World Spins Madly On by The Weepies (Last summer, I heard from the male half of the Great Breakup of 1998. He’s engaged. I listened to this on repeat for weeks.)
Nothing Sacred, by Jonatha Brooke & the Story
Ghost, by the Indigo Girls
Vivir sin Aire, by Mana
Some Jingle Jangle Morning (When I’m Straight), by Mary Lou Lord
wallow:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kcMEx4OHLOs
dance!:
Sad:
Feel better soon <3
Corinne Bailey Rae- Till It Happens to You
Adele- Someone Like You
Robyn- Eclipse
Inspirational/Happy:
Adam Lambert- Aftermath
Beyonce- Irreplaceable
I hope you feel better soon. I thought heartbreak would end me a couple years ago, but somehow it didn’t. Turned out I was stronger than the heartbreak. I know you will be too. Sending love.
Sad: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CVZcAzXWciQ
Happy: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vFPajU-d-Ek
I just broke up with my boyfriend…and it is just so strange at times. I am sort of oscillating between feeling sad to feeling happy and open to a new life.
Anyway, I listen to the Swallow Song by Vashti Bunyan.
It is sad but then not. I think so.
Sad songs:
Baker, Baker – Tori Amos
Both Sides Now – Joni Mitchell
Strong Enough – Sheryl Crow
My Immortal (acoustic) – Evanessence (I know terrible, but the best wallowing song ever).
Happy
I 2nd “Dog Days are Over”
Breakaway – Kelly Clarkson
I’m Just a Girl – Gwen Steffani
Anything by Abba
Sad – Neko Case – I Wish I Was the Moon
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3fhur6g8_BM
Happy – Junior Senior – Move Your Feet
So my comment never made it through (probably bc of youtube links) – if it shows up, sorry for the repost …
Wallow:
Stay – Michelle Featherstone
Coffee and Cigarettes – Michelle Featherstone
Both Sides Now – Joni Mitchell
In between wallow and dancing – a song for getting up your spirits:
Burn It Blue – Caetano Veloso and Lila Downs
Starting to dance:
Try a Little Tenderness – Otis Redding
I wish you the best.
For wallowing: “Good Morning Heartache”, Billie Holiday
For dancing: “Jump”, The Pointer Sisters
I’m wishing you all the best, sweet, peaceful things, and wishing for them hard.
So many great songs already mentioned! Here are some of mine.
Sad:
Buy Now Pay Later – the Whitlams
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m5D1ECXGmqM&feature=related
Breathe in Now – George
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2OeLejP5Xk0
Happy:
The only way is up – Yazz
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PeyOnNple4M
Slice of Heaven – Dave Dobbyn
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yQT0t2s1MoE
Walking on Sunshine – Katrina and the Waves
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iPUmE-tne5U
Hope you feel better soon. Take care.
When my boyfriend and I broke up, I started to feel better when I focused on the good things about it, like the fact that I suddenly had so much more free time to focus on my own hobbies. This song definitely exemplifies that mentality :)
Single by Natasha Bedingfield – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zTTF4Y_ytlg
i can’t stop listening to Florence + The Machine’s “Cosmic Love.” it perfectly describes being overwhelmed and at a standstill. plus, it supports my theory that all red-headed women are just plain awesome.
Here’s my selection for sad song. This guy plays guitar for Sarah McLachlan. Song is Broken One by Luke Doucet. Chin up Maggie there are alot of people rootin for you!
“Stay or Leave” by Dave Matthews and “Your Cloud” by Tori Amos are the most gut-wrenchingly on-the-mark break-up songs from my experience.
I didn’t do happy music on the other side, I did angry-girl music. There is little in this world I enjoy listening to when I’m in a holy-heck-foul mood than Shawn Colvin’s “Get Out of This House”.
Tom Waits (the old stuff) is also really good for dark days.
Hugs and peace to you, Maggie.
…listening to *more*…
:)
I’m sorry to say, Marvin Gaye “When Did I stop loving you, when did you stop loving me” is the breakup song of all time. IMHO.
I just broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years…
I don’t have any songs to list thats why im just clicking on a few to help me through the day…. but commenter 15. Kate has got me balling like a baby at my desk at work. Adele is killing me with her voice.