Old Habits

25th July 2007

Me: You used my toothbrush.
Him: I did?
Me: Yes, you’ve done it three times this week.
Him: Oh.
Me: Mine is the blue one. Yours is the green one.
Him: Eh, it’s not like we’ve never made out. Same diff.
Me: Ugh! Uggggh. I’m not into finding my toothbrush mysteriously wet. Also, you don’t rinse off all the toothpaste and it’s gross. Also stop using my goddamn toothbrush, dude
Him: OK.

Two days later:

Me: You used my toothbrush again.
Him: Oh.
Me: Stop it.
Him: OK.

Three days later:

Me: Did you see I bought a purple toothbrush for me?
Him: I did!
Me: You are green! I am purple!
Him: I appreciate that.

A week later:

Me: AAAAHHHHHHHH!!! AHHHHHH! Stop using my toothbrush you big jerk! Stop it! Stop it!
Bryan: Shit.
Me: You just use whichever one is closest, don’t you?
Him: Yes.
Me: You don’t even check, do you?
Him: No.
Me: You’ve been doing this for several years and I’m just now noticing. Is that what’s going on here?
Him: Yes.
Me: Excuse me while I go scrape my tongue.

194 thoughts on “Old Habits

  1. KA

    We have the exact same problem.
    The other day….
    Him: Which one is my toothbrush?
    Me: Gross! How long have you NOT known that?

  2. Jay

    I’m guilty of this as well, but can proudly say I always use my own toothbrush if I’m sick. Otherwise, whatever. Once you’ve had someone’s junk in your mouth, is there really reason to be fearful of their mouth germs?

  3. Super Jen

    I laughed enough to snort a little. I think it was the “you big jerk” part that did it. I must do more research into the snort-insult link.

  4. Sasha

    Heh! Our version is, you put your razor right on top of my toothbrush, do you think I want to brush my teeth with bits of facial hair?!? My husband didn’t believe me that he did this until I hid his razor each time he did it.

  5. erika

    on the bright side — at least he brushes. so yay for being dentally responsible. maybe one day the hygienic etiquette will come…

  6. Phoenix

    Ewww gross.

    Do what my dentist does with pens, attach a large fake flower to it with duct tape. Or just hide it from him.

  7. Amber

    Ha, my husband and I have exactly the same problem, only in reverse. He keeps on buying himself green toothbrushes, though. How can he not know that the green things in the house are always MINE?

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  9. Brian

    Simple enough solution: Just make sure your toothbrush is always further away / less obvious than his.

    Oh, and: Ewww!

  10. Jan

    All previously mentioned logical why-not posts to the contrary, I must stand firm in my position: EW.

    Would he react at all, do you think, if HIS toothbrush was wet with mystery when he picked it up? You wouldn’t have to use it, just run it under the tap. You’d at least find out whether or not it grosses him out. Not sure why/whether that would be good to know, though.

  11. Taste Like Crazy

    Since the color coding thing obviously isn’t working, I think you’re going to have to take drastic action.

    I say get a Sonicare toothbrush and then he will have NO excuse. It will be abundantly clear that he’s grabbed the wrong one.

    If he does it after that then you will be well within your rights to punch him in the ear.

  12. samantha jo campen

    I have no tolerance for anything like this AT ALL. Actually, the thought of all this going on across the country makes me want to puke. Making-out is different than bristles that scrape plaque off of tooth enamel.

    Maggie, I am so sorry for you! Buy a VioLight toothbrush sanitizer. Maybe that will kill all the germ-switching grossness.

  13. cbl

    Just wait till the baby starts brushing his teeth. At my house there are 3 people who think my toothbrush can just be used by anyone. What in the hell do they do with their own toothbrushes?? I buy them. Probably one ever time mine is “YUCK” wet. Somewhere, with all the missing socks, is a pile of barely used toothbrushes.

  14. maria

    I feel so much better now! I am so guilty of using my husbands toothbrush. We even bought the travel VioLight toothbrush sanitizers so our brushes are in different containers…and I’ve still been caught using his brush instead of mine. I know its gross, but I can’t seem to stop myself.

  15. Julia

    I hide my toothbrush. my husband will use anyone’s toothbrush AND drink out of anyone’s glass. I have my toothbrush in a holder in the back of a drawer.

  16. karen

    Mine does this with bath towels. So I put my bath towel too far from the shower for him to reach.

  17. Yolanda

    Oh. My. God.

    That conversation was recorded at my house. almost word for word. Even the blue versus green toothbrush. Even replacing it with a purple one. Who knew this happened in other houses?

  18. Andrea

    I am totally the guilty one in the toothbrush wars. According to my husband, I am an aggressive tooth brusher and when I use his toothbrush, the bristles become “all mangled”. Hey! I like my teeth very very clean!

  19. nezzy

    hmmm, I must be the pefect man because I never let ANYONE but me use my toothbrush. Well, not that anyone is asking to use it…

    But my first thought was “maybe he’s color blind and he can’t tell which one is the green one”.

  20. Amber

    My boyfriend and I have this same problem! Except it’s even worse because he apparetnly likes to gnaw while he brushes. I discovered his toothbrush transgressions when a brand new brush of mine suddenly got all frayed around the edges. Ugh.

  21. r@d@r

    recently i was suspicious that my wife had been using my toothbrush to scrub those hard-to-reach spots around the baseboards, the base of the toilet, etc. she pleads innocence, but i’m watching her like a hawk.

  22. Michelle

    I am not generally grossed out by toothbrush sharing when I’m aware of it – I’ve even been on vacation with my best friend and we had to share razors, soap, toothbrush and deodorant.

    BUT what drives me batshit insane is when my husband uses my tweezers to dig things out of his nose and leaves them there with… stuff dried on them. It makes me want to kill him in his sleep.

  23. JewJewBee

    It’s really funny to see that some people actually have a problem sharing a toothbrush with a spouse… My husband and I actually bring only one toothbrush in our toiletry bag when we travel together (to save room for other “necessities” like the makeup I rarely wear)!

  24. Charise

    We have this problem too. My fiance says its not a big deal because we have our tongues in each other’s mouths all the time anyways. It doesn’t gross me out, it’s just that he absolutely destroys his brushes and that irritates me.

    Also, he’s prone to “borrowing” my deodorant and shave gel when he’s out, for weeks at a time, until I go to use it one morning and have no more left. More than once I’ve had to run to the store on my way to work and put deodorant on in the car. And pick up more for him too, of course! Boys, grrr!

  25. HDC

    Ahh marriage.

    I have sufficiently trained my guy to stop doing this (threats of physical violence didn’t work. I’ll let you guess what did). My next step was cutting half the handle off on his brush with my Dremel. After that it was keeping my brush soaking in rubbing alcohol as he’s too lazy to bother rinsing it off.

  26. Giggloki

    While using my toothbrush is not a deal breaker, it is just cause for some serious messing with the significant others life. What? You can’t find your keys, no honey, haven’t a clue where they could be.

  27. Falco98

    Reminds me of me and my ex, but gender-reversed.

    Me: The dog got in the trash because you left the trash bag sitting in the kitchen. Maybe next time you should shut it in the laundry room if you’re not taking it out right away.
    Her: Ok whatever.

    1 week later…
    Me: the dog got in the trash again.
    Her: so?
    Me: you didn’t put it anywhere out of her reach….
    Her: so?
    Me: sigh *picks up trash* put it in the laundry room next time, ok?

    2 weeks later:
    Me: the dog got in the trash again. Did you leave it out in the open again?
    Her: i don’t know?


    FWIW, i always use my own toothbrush :-P

  28. Expat Mom

    I just read this post to my hubby and he said, “Well, sounds like you´re lucky, I have never used your toothbrush.” HUH????

    We have had this problem since we started living together! I guess he hasn´t noticed that I hide my toothbrush. And my son is rapidly picking up his father´s bad habits. We need invisible toothbrushes for wives and moms.

  29. Diana

    My husband takes mine and sits down and does something on the computer and begins to chew on it an messes up all the bristles! I can buy hot pink one and he always seems to reach for the one that is not his.

  30. Aunt Raina

    You don’t really read all 158 comments, do you??? If so, that’s why you don’t have time to clean your refrigerator!

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  32. kristi b

    My husband doesn’t understand why I yelled at him about using my toothbrush. He knows mine spins and his is manual. He’s just lazy too. Go figure! Men!

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