Amy DuBois Barnett, “Take care of your own damn self.”
She was going through a rough patch in her early twenties when her mother died, and she had a revelation that no one was coming to save her.
“Whether we admit it or not, so many of us are waiting for someone to come along and fix our problems. No one can climb in your skin and live your life for you. My happiness and success are up to me alone. I own my life.”
Barnett said she had a psychological 180, that she stopped doubting herself and worrying about what others thought of her life.
“Create a life for yourself and then love and protect it as your most valuable asset. Don’t let anyone come in and change it, especially under the guise of taking care of you.”
Whoa. I did some hard thinking.
Letting go of the notion that someone will come along to shoulder your burdens is a big part of maturing. Do you think you’re there yet? And if so, how did you get there? Or, alternately, do you think it’s okay to hope for support in that way?
Photo from Black Enterprise.