Oh, hey. I didn’t know you were coming over.

Have you ever watched that show In the Bedroom? It’s about a therapist, Laura Berman, who helps people repair their sex lives. She considers bedrooms a good barometer of what’s going on in a relationship, so the first thing she does is open the bedroom door. Then she says something like,

“So I notice there are no windows and everything in here is grey. Okay. Do you realize there’s a nest of opossums living in your partner’s side of the bed? How long has that been the case? … Since the baby was born? Mmmhmm. I see. And your side seems to be covered with your son’s action figures?… Oh. Those are your husband’s? Okay. How often would you say the two of you sleep in here together?”

I’m paraphrasing. Anyway, it got me thinking about what my bedroom is communicating. As you can see from the photo above, it’s a mess. Cluttered with suitcases I haven’t unpacked, clothes spilling out of my closet, boxes of unprocessed paperwork, and the lightbulb attached to the switch has been burnt out for months. Aside from the mess, there’s not much else in there. Nowhere to read or write, nowhere to get ready for my day — in general it’s spare, and it says two things about me:

1. I haven’t been spending much time on myself.
2. I used to live here with someone else.

Ugh. It’s time to make a comfortable bedroom that looks like it belongs to me. And I have a narrow window before a man whose opinion I care about arrives to veto pink walls. So I added it to my Life List on Go Mighty:

Make my bedroom the perfect place to be a girl.

And now, to my huge relief, Olay is kick-starting the project. They hired my impeccable friend Victoria Smith from SF Girl By Bay to help me redecorate just in time for Valentine’s Day. I’ll be keeping you posted on our progress, and asking for your advice in the coming months.

Go have a look at our plan on Go Mighty, and tell me what your bedroom is saying about you. Do you like what you hear?