Mighty Life List
Oct 13 2014

Safety Online for Women

The Unsafety Net: How Social Media Turned Against Women Excerpts from an in-depth article in The Atlantic on the failure of social media companies to address safety issues for women.

“In my five years on Twitter, I’ve been called ‘nigger’ so many times that it barely registers as an insult anymore,” explains attorney and legal analyst Imani Gandy. “Let’s just say that my ‘nigger cunt’ cup runneth over.”

In an increasing number of countries, rapists are now filming their rapes on cell phones so they can blackmail victims out of reporting the crimes.

A Facebook user posted a video documenting the gang rape of a woman by the side of a road in Malaysia. The six minutes of graphic footage were live for more than three weeks, during which Facebook moderators declined repeated requests for removal. It had been viewed hundreds of times before a reader of Soraya’s forwarded the video to [us] with a request for help. We notified a contact on Facebook’s Safety Advisory Board, and only then was the video taken offline.

When it comes to copyright and intellectual property interests, companies are highly responsive… But, says Jan Moolman, who coordinates the Association of Progressive Communications’s women’s rights division, “‘garden variety’ violence against women—clearly human rights violations—frequently get a lukewarm response until it becomes an issue of bad press.”

Soraya, Bates, and Jaclyn Friedman, the executive director of Women, Action, and Media, a media justice advocacy group, joined forces and launched a social media campaign designed to attract advertisers’ attention. The ultimate goal was to press Facebook to recognize explicit violence against women as a violation of its own prohibitions against hate speech, graphic violence, and harassment. Within a day of beginning the campaign, 160 organizations and corporations had co-signed a public letter, and in less than a week, more than 60,000 tweets were shared using the campaign’s #FBrape hashtag. Nissan was the first company to pull its advertising dollars from Facebook altogether.

Southworth calls [Facebook's] representatives “thoughtful, passionate, concerned, and straddling the line between free speech and safety.” But, sometimes, progress feels slow. “The teams who handle these cases are just swamped,” she explained.

Researchers and industry experts are beginning to consider the effects of that context. Ninety percent of tech employees are men. At the most senior levels, that number goes up to 96 percent. Eight-nine percent of startup leadership teams are all male.

It’s not hard to imagine how unconscious biases might affect systems architecture, including the ways companies handle moderation requests.

Oct 7 2014

Non-Fugly Storage Bins that Aren’t Plastic

I have an open shelf that needs storage, and was having trouble finding some not ugly, not plastic bins. I wanted these woven felt baskets, but they were out of the size I needed (and were a little pricey), so I ended up going with the top option below.

If you’re looking for storage solutions yourself, here’s what I picked plus some others I was considering:

Jute Bins with Rope Handles from The Container Store , $17-$25

Industrial Shelf Baskets from Restoration Hardware, $45

Felt Bins from The Land of Nod, $20

Other good options:

Metallic Woven Baskets $29-$119 Love these, and would have gone with them if they’d been anywhere near the right size.
Canvas Mega Sorter, $25 These are huge and have subdividers great for storing kids’ toys, art supplies, etc.
Crated Office Collection, $29-$59 These were the only wood option I liked.
Wire Mesh Storage, $39 These would be cool to hold staples like toilet paper or paper towels.
Modern Weave Oversize Storage Bin, $89 Huge and good for open storage because you can’t see through them.

Oct 1 2014

Seating Arrangements by Maggie Shipstead

Hey look, it’s a contemporary author who has me waiting for her next novel. That doesn’t happen often.

I recently read Maggie’s Astonish Me, and while we wait for her next book, I thought I’d post my favorite parts of her first book, Seating Arrangements:

How had she, Biddy, managed to raise someone so exposed and defenseless, a charred moth, a turtle without a shell, exactly the kind of woman she most feared to be?

“Hey, I’m not a member of this Great Gastby reenactment society you all have going on. I just think it’s possible to trick yourself into feeling better by pretending you feel better.”

While Winn believed that worthwhile young men must be carefree, he also believed that worthwhile grown men must bear up under the burden of respectability. He puzzled over when exactly the music should be stopped and the drunks sent home and the crepe paper swept from the floors to make room for cribs and Labradors. Is it now? he wondered as he set down his drink and turned from a conversation with a beautiful girl to vomit into the swimming pool of his friend Tyson Baker. When he heard some months later that Tyson Baker had died during a game of pond hockey, dropping through the ice like a lead weight, he thought, Is it now?

Underneath her wedding dress Biddy wore a white garter belt and stockings that he found unbearably sexy but did not tell her so, not wanting to embarrass her by making a fuss and also incorrectly assuming she had a whole trousseau of lingerie that she would, without prompting, trot out over their first year. Silence over stockings — the first regret of his marriage.

She was so entirely the kind of person he should be married to that he loved her, in part, out of gratitude for her very appropriateness.

Spending so much time with the Van Meters was like returning to a cherished childhood home and discovering that either her memory had been wrong or time had taken its toll, and the place was not magical or special at all but ordinary, flawed — a revelation doubly offensive because it made a certain swath of past happiness seem cheap, the product of ignorance.

Dominique peeled the label from her beer while Dicky Jr. talked, her head angled toward him to suggest she was listening.


Aubusson rug – floor covering, usually of considerable size, handwoven at the villages of Aubusson and Felletin, in the département of Creuse in central France. Workshops were established in 1743 to manufacture pile carpets primarily for the nobility, to whom the Savonnerie court production was not available. Aubusson carpets were, however, also made for the royal residences.

gliss – In music, a glissando is a glide from one pitch to another. It is an Italianized musical term derived from the French glisser, to glide. In some contexts it is distinguished from the continuous portamento. Some colloquial equivalents are slide, sweep, bend, or ‘smear’.

Sep 29 2014

Glitter Skull Decoration for Halloween

I wanted to make something creepy and festive for our front door this Halloween, and found these papier-maché masks at Paper Source for $4. So many possibilities!

If you’d like to make one like the above you’ll need:

Paper Skull Mask
Glitter in various shades
Glitter Glue
Modge Podge Glue
Paint Brush
Craft Wire or pipe cleaners
Tissue Paper cut into squares about the size of your palm
Bit of Ribbon
Glue gun

First choose the glitter you’ll use to coat your mask and mix it with Modge Podge at about a 1:1 ratio. You’ll need less than you think, and Modge Podge is the secret to using glitter without finding it on all future generations of children born to your family.

Paint the mask with a base layer of glitter. Once it’s dry, you can go back for touch ups. In person, the pink looks less Dawn of the Dead.

Your work environment should be pristine.

While you’re waiting for the first coat of glitter to dry, you can make the tissue paper flowers. I used the technique outlined in more detail here. Just stack five or six squares of tissue paper, accordion fold them like a fan, and secure the center with wire or pipe cleaner.

Then fluff the layers. The glitter dries pretty fast, so by now you should be ready to decorate.

I used a mixture of glue-with-glitter, glitter glue pens, and beads I had left over from a caviar manicure set. The latter looked kind of cool (you can see around the eyes), but they were a huge pain.

If I had it to do over, I’d go all pre-mixed glitter glue pens, which is what I used for the green dots over the eyes and temples. It goes on 3-D, but dries flat, and is super easy to direct. I did my decoration freehand, but here are a bunch of skull designs you can use for ideas.

If you’d like to hang it up, use the glue gun to glue a little loop of ribbon to the back at the top.

Now just hot glue your flowers on the crown and voila! Darth Maul meets Day of the Dead. Jedi! I have been waiting for you.

Sep 26 2014

Friday! Links

If you don’t have time to watch the whole thing, advance to 5:20 for Emma Stone’s version of “All I do is Win” by by DJ Khaled.

Now that, is a great idea.

Fascinating article about having a stroke at 33, via kottke.

Good idea for a DIY calendar journal, would be cool for a gratitude journal.

I think I’m going to try this instead of reupholstering a stained chair.

Department stores should have a section of clothing dedicated to clothes that make dancing more fun, like this fringe dress and this tassel necklace. I want to spin in that dress until I’m ill.

ASPIRATIONAL from Matthew Frost on Vimeo.

A short video on selfie culture via DesignSponge

Sep 26 2014

Give Him the Word that I’m Not a Rover

I woke to “Mr. Sandman” running through my head, but it was the Permanent Waves version from Family Ties, where Skippy butts in on the lyrics.

Mr. Sandman
Bring me a dream

That episode, Band on the Run, aired in 1987. It’s the one where Alex tries to manage Jennifer’s all-girl band. Christina Applegate rocked keyboard, Rain Phoenix on guitar, and I remember thinking Tina Yothers was such a good singer, you guys.

My favorite comment on this video was posted two months ago by morriganwest:

“Yeah…. Not a fan. Wanted to be, tried to be, and no. She should go back to acting she just doesn’t have it.”

Timely and incisive, Morrigan. Thank you for your input.

Sidenote, this is what the cools looked like in the late ’80s.

Jewel-tone satin, I can almost feel you fluttering in the breeze.

Sep 24 2014

Reporting for a Divided Nation

I came across this quote recently in The Week. It’s from From Why I Decided War Reporting Was No Longer Worth the Risk by Tom A. Peter for The New Republic.

I’ve often wondered about the risks that reporters, myself included, take in order to cover war. In the wake of [American Journalist James Foley's] death, these questions weigh on me more heavily than ever… Covering wars for a polarized nation has destroyed the civic mission I once found in journalism. Why risk it all to get the facts for people who increasingly seem only to seek out the information they want and brand the stories and facts that don’t conform to their opinions as biased or inaccurate?

I have a lot of respect for most professional journalists, but I can’t deny that I’d probably feel the same way if I were Peter.