Mighty Life List
Sep 29 2015

Gender Neutral Diaper Bag


Brad wanted a cool diaper bag when Ozzy was born, but I wasn’t willing to give up the ease of a bag that hooks onto the stroller handle. We were using Hank’s old Skip Hop Diaper Duo bag, until we came across Topo Design’s Mini Mountain Bag.

It’s not built as a diaper bag, obviously, but we’ve been using it for a few months and it’s perfect. The strap has a clasp near the bag that makes it adjustable, so we’re able to tighten it most of the way and hang it across the stroller handles. It looks small, but it accommodates everything we need, even when we’re traveling.

Sep 28 2015

What Really Matters

This talk, What Really Matters at the End of Life, is lovely. What matters is sensory experiences — soft things, quiet, love, and the smell of baking cookies. Also, I’d bet, baby feathers on the top of newborns’ heads. There should be more newborns available in hospice wards.

Sep 25 2015

Vita Nova Taxidermy, Do Your Thing

Do you guys listen to the Reply All podcast? It’s great. But this one called Flower Child made me sad about injustice.

Marissa Hernandez is a 20 year old girl who makes taxidermy out of her bedroom. Her site is Vita Nova Taxidermy.

Her business disappeared overnight after an anonymous competitor posted a fraudulent report about her on a site called Rip Off Report, saying her stuff arrived with holes, she was stuffing kangaroos, etc. The reporter on the podcast checked into it, and none of it was true. In fact, when the reporter called, the person who posted the fraudulent review also tried to have it taken down to no avail.

Marissa can’t afford to have the review removed, and she thought she found her thing that she loves to do for a living, but now feels like she may need to do something else to make money. Frowny faces, and bad feelings.

Anyway, this post is me attempting to drive up another search engine result for her business and knock the Rip Off post off the front page at least. If you feel like linking to it, that would help. As far as I know? I should know more about how these things work.

Good luck, Marissa! Girl, do your thing.

Sep 23 2015

Ask Brad About His Kids Onstage!

How does he balance work and family life? Are all his kids by the same mother?

Brad is speaking at AdobeMAX, and I’ll be there too. Are you going? If so, hooray! We’ll see you there.

Brad has two labs, if you’d like to sign up. One is Monday at 5 p.m. If that’s full, the other is Weds at 1:30 p.m. He also made the Target Mobile app, so he’s doing a case study on that Tues at 8 a.m. I’ll arrange for donuts, because ooof. There should be around ten of us. I mean, come on.

Anyway, if you’re going, please come say hi. And remember to ask Brad how he finds time for it all.

Bradley. How do you do it?

Sep 23 2015

I Can Bring Home the Bacon, Why Are You So Interested in the Pan?

Margaret Stewart — who some of you many remember from the Mighty Closet feature I did with her one million years ago — has some solid suggestions for speakers, organizers, and interviewers about how to ease onstage sexism at conferences: What My Uterus Can Teach You About Being a Tech Leader. It’s a good read, have a look.

I’d also add, if you’re balancing genders in a speaker lineup, avoid having more than one woman at your conference speak to the issue of harassment (unless that’s the topic of your gathering of course). That interests me to a point, but taken too far, especially at tech conferences, it can be exhausting and disheartening. It puts women in the spotlight not for their accomplishments, but as the object of threats from a mostly male chorus.

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Sep 22 2015

Memories of My Melancholy Whores by Gabriel Garcia Marquez

I read Love in the Time of Cholera and One Hundred Years of Solitude also by Gabriel Garcia Marquez. I enjoyed and recommend those, particularly the former. And then there’s this.

Memories of My Melancholy Whores is a book about where and with whom an old man has dampened his genitals for the last 90 years. Let me spare you the trouble of reading it: Where has his penis been? Brothels. With whom has his penis held court? Prostitutes.

The man narrates, and a virginal, adolescent female protagonist functions only as a symbol. She is literally asleep through the entire novel. Wait. My mistake, there’s one scene where she silently curls into fetal position as the nonagenarian smashes objects around her in a jealous rage. Character development.

Two things I underlined:

“…by eleven the house was left in the bristling silence that follows great catastrophes.”

“I reorganized the library according to the order in which I had read the books.”

New word:

Concupiscence – strong sexual desire; lust. (Similar origin to the word “Cupid.”)

Internet, will you please give me some recommendations on fiction works by female authors and/or books with female protagonists you’ve enjoyed? Hemingway was next in queue, but I’m not sure I can do it.

Sep 17 2015

Gag Me With a Unicorn

The danger is real.