Mighty Life List
Oct 13 2010

Wedding Guest Comfort

Whenever Bryan or I started freaking out about wedding planning, we would remind each other that it was just a big party. Our main thing was that we wanted everyone to have fun. Real fun, not “wedding fun.”

Here are a few of the things we did to make things a little more comfortable for guests:

-Instead of inviting all the out of town guests to the rehearsal dinner, we had cocktails with everyone the night before at our hotel. Everyone had an extra night to get to know one another, which made for more spectacular hookups the following night.

-In the church waiting area, we had two cork boards. One was pinned with rosemary boutonnieres(rosemary symbolizes friendship), and one pinned with hankies.

-We served cake (technically cupcakes) right before our first dance, and had sparklers on hand, so guests would have something to do while we took to the dance floor.

-We had a box of cheapo spa flipflops for when the heels got to be too much. I wore these half the night, and they facilitated much kid chasing.

-I can’t say enough about having comfort boxes in the bathroom. Seven years later, I’m still getting comments on ours, which had spray deodorant (so several people could use the same bottle), band aids for blisters, dental floss, toothpaste and single use tooth brushes, moisturizer, fashion tape, pads and tampons, safety pins, hair bands, bobby pins and barrettes, and combs (…and condoms).

-We let the crasher crash. He pretended he was French, we pretended we believed him. Be our guest, not-French-Guy!

-We situated our kids’ table between two adult tables, and seated parents at the surrounding tables with their backs to the kids. This made for easy intervention in the instance of fits, but some adult interaction when the kids were behaving. Excellent.

-We set up a web site with tips on how to enjoy the city.

-Two months after the wedding, we went through our photos and printed up the best one of each guest to send it as a holiday card. They were so much fun to put together, like a personalized wedding favor, and we still see our wedding photos pinned to friends’ fridges.

-We had a birthday cupcake waiting for my bridesmaid Trisha, who had put aside her own special day for ours. Trisha is awesome like that.

9 Responses to “Wedding Guest Comfort”

  • Kathleen Says:

    These are great lessons Maggie, on how to be a gracious host. I’m throwing my Grandmother her 90th birthday. It’s a little like planning a wedding reception. I’m taking notes ma’am!

  • Kyran Says:

    Love the kid chasing picture. I always feel like a wedding that doesn’t include the very old and very young is an inauspicious beginning for a marriage.

  • Jen in KC Says:

    Wow, you are good. :) I love that you gave your bridesmaid a cupcake specifically for her birthday. I don’t know how many times I’ve been in/attended a wedding that was on my birthday (it’s in August). A little thing like that cupcake makes all the difference!

  • Jenna Says:

    noooooo sparklers! That is a risky wedding trend I would warn everybody against. My husband ended up with third degree burns and a late night trip to the ER when, as a very responsible (and I might add totally sober) best man he was trying to help out and had a big handful of sparklers lit (accidentally? on purpose?) all at once in his hand. Sparklers plus drinking guests don’t mix.

  • Trisha Marchetti Says:

    Some of my friends in Portland read your blog regularly. I admit that I’m a slacker and don’t have much time to read it myself. One of your fans forwarded me your post this morning… I felt like a celebrity. :) I hope you’re doing well. And happy anniversary.

  • sarah Says:

    I love that you treated the kids like kids, too!
    For the ceremony, we had goodie bags with quiet activities for the kids. If you expect them to sit still & be quiet, you better give them something to do. We had a beach wedding, so there were bubbles, goldfish crackers, a blow pop, some crayons and a coloring pad.

    And while we had a small cake, we also had ice cream novelties (choco-tacos, scooter crunch bars, toasted almonds, etc) for the guests. Kids & adults LOVED it.

  • Renee Says:

    We had coloring books and bubbles for the kids.

    The one thing I really wanted and now feel a tad bit of regret for not forking out the $200 (almost nothing in the big picture) for a caricaturist.

  • Greta Says:

    I LOVE that you included kids. We just went to a an out-of-town wedding where we had to scramble to find childcare because they requested an “adults-only” reception. After having attended, I couldn’t figure out why? The entire ceremony, setting, everything was all kid-friendly, and it would have been so easy (and inexpensive) to include the kids. Kudos to you for not only including them, but actually planning for them!

  • robyn Says:

    Been reading since before you were married… love that we’re finally getting more personal wedding detail and hints a la Maggie.

    But doesn’t it seem funny that Hank’s nowhere in here? :)