Mighty Life List
Oct 6 2010

Giveaway: Mighty Summit Necklace and Brooch

Today’s giveaway features two California jewelry artists.

Textured Drop Necklace By Feisty Elle

Every time I wear this piece by Leslie Yang, I get compliments. I’ve actually had people stop me in the street to ask where I got it. It’s made of bamboo, so it’s surprisingly lightweight. I don’t even notice I have it on, and I love how effortlessly it elevates an outfit.

Can You Hear Me Now Brooch by Mama’s Little Babies

Mama’s Little Baby brooches are so witty. This guy is my favorite, but I also feel affectionate toward the artichoke and Gunther, the World Famous Lion Tamer.

Cute, right? I know!

To enter, please leave a piece of advice for your younger self. And don’t forget to check back this week for more contests.

Fine print: Please only leave one comment, because it’s the nice thing to do, and also because multiple entries will be disqualified. I’ll use random.org to select the winner, and I’ll announce who won at the top of this post and in a separate post next Wednesday.

847 Responses to “Giveaway: Mighty Summit Necklace and Brooch”

  • Megan Says:

    Dear Younger Self- He isn’t your friend. He’s not the one. Let it go. You will marry someone so much better. He will marry someone just like you, but not quite as awesome.

  • Ashley Says:

    I’d tell my younger self to have more fun, I took things seriously from a young age.

  • Nell Says:

    Dear self:
    Don’t switch your major to art, you moron. Pharmacy pays better and then you’ll actually be able to afford all of your art supplies.


  • jes Says:

    To understand that others who are acting in a confusing or negative way might have something going on in their life that they aren’t sharing. In other words, be a little more understanding and realize that I might just not know it all.

  • Amy Says:

    Advice to younger self: don’t feed into the “I’m the first commenter” race because it’s silly.

    (Watch, someone else posted as I’m typing this and my cleverness will have been lost.)

  • shannon Says:

    I would tell myself to love and respect my mother. She died when I was 21.

  • Danielle Says:

    Don’t be so dramatic. Your life won’t end over this.

  • Meadow Says:

    Sometimes (most times) it is okay to be wrong. Even if you are not.

  • shokufeh Says:

    Dear younger-self-of-the-college-years, spend more time enjoying New York and less time studying. Do you really want your memories to be of reviewing your notes on a Friday night?

  • Catherine Says:

    Acknowledge your dreams and then hunt them down as hard as you can. Once you start, it’s amazing how far you will go. But the first step is to admit you want it.

  • Sheila Says:

    Hey, younger self: FLOSS LIKE THE WIND! And accept every invitation to dance.

  • Stephanie Says:

    Worry less about what others think, there are a lot of awesome things out there that your friends are close minded enough not to appreciate.

  • Kristen Says:

    When someone asks you to dance, say yes.

  • Lauren E. E. Says:

    Dear Younger Self: Do what you actually want to do, not what you think you should do. You love design. Don’t be a social worker.

  • Catie Says:

    Hey, thirteen year old me! Be nicer to mom! She’s really pretty rad and you’ll regret being such a snot for many, many years to come.

  • Sandra P. Says:

    Be a little carefree every once in a while.

  • Rengirl Says:

    Take this breakup as an opportunity to upgrade.

  • Jessica Says:

    Dear Younger Self,

    You win.

    Ten Years Later

  • Sally C. Says:

    Younger self: You’re not fat. Your parents can’t find out if you’re at a party all the way across the country. Also? The guy’s a jerk…move on.

  • Mia Says:

    Relax. Nothing is as bad as it seems You will be OK.

  • brandi Says:

    It’s okay that you don’t think like everyone around you seems to. It’s okay that the way you see the world is different from the way they do. That will serve you well as an adult. It’s okay to be the odd one out. Embrace it. Or, at least, stop trying to squelch it so much.

  • Laura Says:

    Hey you, don’t worry so much, its going to work out ok, even better than ok.

  • Nicole Says:

    Don’t be afraid to break the rules sometimes. You’ll regret all those crazy things you didn’t do far more than the ones you did.

  • Erica Lucci Says:

    Stay in undergrad more than 4 years. There’s no hurry to get out of school and into a job. Also, don’t be surprised how hard it is to make friends when you get out of college. College is a unique environment for making connections. Appreciate it while you’re there.

  • latenac Says:

    Learn to handle money better and don’t get those credit cards.

  • Mia Says:

    Relax. Nothing is as bad as it seems. You will be OK.

  • Sara Says:

    Dear Younger Sara:

    Put your clothes back on and go home.

    Older, Wiser Sara

  • abbey Says:

    Seek happiness and cling to it no matter what.

  • adrienne Says:

    Don’t cry over any boy until you’re at least 22. Those first ones were just practice!

  • JoAnna Says:

    Beautiful necklace!

    To Younger Me ~

    Don’t listen to what everyone tells you to do. Do what makes you happy.

    Love Older Me

  • theurbancowgirl Says:

    Dear Self,

    Love yourself in high school. You’re not as unpopular, fat, and uncool as you think you are.


  • Arrie Says:

    Don’t take out more student loans than you NEED. Learn what you NEED versus what you WANT.

  • April Says:

    Dear lovey,

    Self-importance rots the brain. Also, save some money, no matter how little.


  • Lindsay Says:

    Stop eating so much Taco Bell. Ahem.

  • Lisa Villiarimo Says:


  • Meghan Says:

    Don’t take yourself so seriously and take a few more risks. Also, don’t date that loser for 6 years.

  • Andrea Says:

    Relax. Things happen and you need to learn to be a bit more spontaneous.

  • Sarah Says:

    Dear 28-year-old Sarah,

    He was the one, but it was the wrong time.

    Here’s the thing: one day, you’ll be sitting on the beach when a blonde guy named Sven, who’s wearing a turquoise speedo and looks exactly like a guy named Sven should (abs and all), will literally emerge from the surf and walk right over to you. (You look good in that bikini, don’t worry.)

    This time, go on and take him up on that glass of wine. “Memoirs of a Geisha” can wait. Trust me.

    38-year-old Sarah

  • Joelle Says:

    Dear me:

    It’s not normal. Go see a doctor. Anyone who thinks less of you because you’re on happy pills shouldn’t be in your life.

    You’ll feel much better, I promise.

  • Maggie Says:

    Dear Maggie,
    Please take a class in computer science.
    Also, attention from boys is not really a valuable prize. Stop trying so hard.
    Margaret Edith

  • Natalie Says:

    You don’t need to ALWAYS be in a relationship for crying out loud. You are great company for yourself.
    There is SO much out in the world, your parents (although awesome) are pretty sheltered.
    Join the peace corps.

  • Marina Says:

    Dear Younger Self,

    Get over yourself. Despite how they laughed in grade 7 home ec, no one cares or will remember how you mispronounced pastry. Oh, and don’t be afraid to be more awesomer :)

    Older Self

  • Gin Says:

    Dear Younger Gin-
    Do not stress about not being able to keep as many plates spinning as your classmates – you will find out later that a lot of them were abusing Ritalin anyway. In ten years you will marvel out how much energy and Awesome you had.

  • Sarah @ Celiac in the City Says:

    Hey silly younger self… just because they offer you all those loans doesn’t mean you have to accept the full amount. You’re going to be paying for this for a long time.

  • Abby-Wan Kenobi Says:

    Don’t waste your love and attention on the people who keep letting you down. The ones who are showing up will still be showing up in 10 years and you won’t miss the others at all.

  • Kate Says:

    Stop spending my money!! I need it now and those shoes you are buying are ugly.

  • sugarleg Says:

    Dear Self,

    Do not marry him. There are way less painful ways to learn the lessons you need.

    Older, Wiser Self

  • Carly Says:

    dear younger self, don’t regret grad school as much as you are right now. You’ll realize soon that you don’t really want it, but it will have helped lead you to some incredible places and people.

  • Raven Says:

    Stop underestimating yourself. Don’t make decisions based on fear. Apply for that scholarship, take that trip, and be spontaneous.

  • Ashley Says:

    Just because he/she is your friend does NOT give him/her the right to take advantage of or otherwise mistreat you.

  • JennyWhite Says:

    Worry less, read more and be nice to your parents. And I would assure myself I was going to turn out awesome, so quit dieting and studying all that SAT junk. And don’t go out with Mark.

  • Amber Says:

    Younger Amber, Do not use that credit card. In fact, don’t even apply for one just because the guy at the table outside of the student union is cute.

  • Jessica Mae Says:

    Go to beauty school the first time you look into it. You love it and are good at it! Also, what you do doesn’t define what kind of person you are. All your fear of doing hair making you dumb are wrong. You are smart for following your passion.

    Also, marry Mark! He will become your safe place and help you heal. You will be happy with him.

    PS. Try to win the necklace from Mighty Girl. =)

  • Lauren Says:

    Socialize more. Take the risk to be friends with someone. It’s okay to look like a flirt. It’s okay to try trendy clothes. Tell the boy that you think he’s cute.

  • Laura B. Says:

    Dump that loser guy. You will still have friends. In fact most of his friends will choose you over him because he’s, you guessed it!, a loser!

  • karen Says:

    Dear Younger Self:
    Crash diets are NOT the answer.

    your fluffy (but happy) older self

  • Kathy Says:

    easy one-

    more sunscreen, less alcohol

  • whitney Says:

    Compromising can be radical, sticking to your guns can be fairly simple.

  • Jamie Says:

    Don’t marry him.

  • Alicia Says:

    Advice to my younger self: build up exercise habits now! It will never be easier to get healthy than it is right now…

  • Sarah G Says:

    Hey 2000 Self! Listen up….

    Just because your dad is terrified when you mention that you want to climb the Sydney Harbour Bridge DOESN’T MEAN you should skip it and hang out with him and your mom at a botanic garden all day.

    And while we’re talking, why don’t you stop being so self concious and just go kiss one or two of those Australian boys you think are so cute?!


  • Leslie Says:

    Note to younger self: Try to pay more attention in college. There is so much to learn there. Don’t spend so much time at the parties.

  • Emily Says:


  • DeeAnn Says:

    Dear younger self:

    Go outside more. Go for walks more. Be a kid longer.

  • Candice Says:

    Dear younger Candice,
    Stop worrying so much about your weight and how you look and enjoy yourself. You look awesome, always have no matter what size! I’m still trying to figure that out now. Go easy on you!

  • Helen Says:

    “There is not much less flattering than being transparent emotionally to you Southern boyfriends parents. Smile, nod and ‘yes ma’am’ your heart out just don’t you dare mention your feelings”

  • Kasey Says:

    Dear little me, here is a piece of advice. That guy that you think is the one? He is not. Life will surprise you. The one is right in front of you. Look closer.

  • Roxy Says:

    Dear self,

    When Dad asked if you’d like to learn to change the oil in your car, he just wanted to spend some extra time with you. Take him up on the offer while you still can.

  • CarolynC Says:

    Find something fun to get you active, and keep doing it!

  • libby Says:

    Dear me,
    worrying about boys in highschool is lame-o.
    I’m pretty sure you won’t listen to this though.


  • raych Says:

    Dear Younger Self: You will make bad boyfriend choices until you fluke out and marry the best of men. So stop agonizing, it turns out fine.

  • souphead Says:

    BE HEALTHY! You will pay for your lousy eating habits later in life.

  • SeattleSchmitt Says:

    Dear Younger Self: Don’t get married at 19 just because you can’t think of anything else you’d rather be doing with your life.

  • Nuala Sawyer Says:

    Cut your hair! Your migraines will happen less frequently, you will stop spending so much money on products, and you won’t have to braid your hair every night to stop it dreading. Short hair immediately made you feel more confident, happier, healthier, and gave you the courage to take risks. Do it earlier than age 14.

  • Emily Norton Says:

    Live alone for a really long time before you decide to get married. Be independent. Feel the loneliness. Embrace it. Mold a life for yourself first. Feel the pain. Finally, by god, make sure if you do get married you love him like mad. Like crazy, and he you. Divorce REALLY sucks. Trust me on this one.

  • Kathi Says:

    Shutcho’ mouth every now and then, girl! You don’t have to be the center of attention all the time.

  • jen Says:

    hey younger self,
    quit worrying so much. things will be fine, i promise. now, go have some fun!

  • Heather Says:

    To Younger Self: Give yourself a damn break. Being hard on yourself isn’t making you a better person, it’s making you a more stressed person.

  • Joanna Says:

    I will get the tattoo that came to me in my dream.

  • Ashley B. Says:

    Dear Wee Ashley,

    Maybe you should rethink that degree in newspaper journalism. Industry collapse in 3…2…1.

    Grown Up Ashley

  • kate Says:

    Dear Younger Self-

    Realize that the things you don’t like about him at age 23 are only going to be magnified at age 39.

    Love, your Older Self

  • Karen N Says:

    Hey you, listen to that voice of reason shouting in your ear. Trust your own thoughts. Be confident, and go boldly in the direction of your (true) dreams. This guy is not worth your time (you already know that, I’m just repeating because you don’t seem to believe that). Be kind to yourself. And try not to lose those knee-high moccasins; you will never find another pair.

  • Naomi Says:

    Don’t worry so much.

  • Sara Says:

    Even though you’ll make a ridiculously stupid, dumb, awful decision, that one moment will get you to where you are today. There is nothing to regret about that, so learn from this experience and be thankful that you’ve gotten to this place. xo, S

  • Trish T. Says:

    Advice to my younger self –
    Lighten up. It is good that you aren’t a doormat, but it isn’t good to be a barracuda.

  • Andrea Says:

    Hi Baby Girl,

    When someone offers help, accept it. There’s not prize for doing everything by yourself.

    Love, You, But Smarter

  • Rachelino Says:

    Brave through the social awkwardness and stick with the sciences or engineering while you at at Berkeley. You can always switch to something else later, but it’s really difficult to go the other way later…to get that technical experience or take those classes later, once you work for a living.

    Listen to your Dad on that one.

  • Celeste Says:

    People won’t change just because you want them to. Or because it’s good for them.

  • Mander Says:


    Remember that time your mom’s friend walked by you sunbathing in your bikini, and you rushed to cover up, and she said “Enjoy it. Someday you’ll realize what you have now was worth flaunting.” She was right. Stop waiting for your body to be perfect-er and enjoy what you’ve got.

  • Melanie Says:

    Dear younger self: don’t give up dancing for guitar lessons.

  • Jessica Says:

    Oh self: Don’t run off to New Mexico with an almost stranger. He’s not your Prince Charming.

  • Laura Milner Says:

    Hey there Yong Laura,

    DOn’t worry about what people think. Be the person you truly are and don’t let anyone change your beautiful spirit. You are strong and smart, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. You my friend are worth it.

  • K Says:

    Just because you really like reading does not mean you should major in it. Ditch the literature major and figure out something you will actually be able to use in life. And then plan for grad school immediately after graduation.

  • Desi Says:

    Dear Self;

    Stop stressing about your dark skin, curly hair, freckles and curves. One day, you will celebrate them.

    Love, Me.

  • Martha Says:

    That crazy friend who fills your life with drama and makes you kinda bummed? You can stop being friends with her. It won’t end the world. You will be so frigging pleased with yourself when you see how much happier you are.

  • Susan Says:

    Here is my advice for my younger self. Non-wired bras – not a good look for you. You may be 23 but your boobs look much older.

  • Emily Says:

    Dear 2007 Emily,

    When you move to San Diego with the love of your life, take a little time to get out of your love nest and, oh, I don’t know, GO TO THE FREAKING BEACH.

  • Kristin Steiner Says:

    Buy a bikini. You’re hot!

  • Claire Says:

    Oh my lord. Dear younger Self: when life feels really wrong to you, it probably is. You don’t have to stick to a prescribed path because that’s what you think you’re supposed to do. Stick with your gut. Love, older, semi-wiser Self

  • Jen T Says:

    Take a year off before you go to law school and live somewhere else!

  • Jeannie Says:

    Self…you’re gonna have a beautiful marriage and family…don’t rush into. Take some time to be a grown woman on your own.

  • Melanie Says:

    Starting eating humble pie a little earlier.

  • Stephanie Says:

    Eat more ice cream.

  • Ashley Says:


    I know you think Jameson Whiskey and drunkorexia is a good way to get over a breakup, but he was so not worth worth it. Stop being a masochist and date the nice guy already. He wins.

  • Elli Says:

    Dear younger self,
    Why don’t you work on cultivating some love for yourself rather than trying to cultivate some high school loverboy’s love for you? It’ll be SO much more worth your time.


  • Cara Says:

    Don’t cry over those boys… you will appreciate the one you end up with and get a kick out of the others on facebook years later!

  • Alissa Says:

    Dear younger self,
    Hang in there. It gets better. Sometimes. And you’re stronger than you think you are. So don’t worry about it.

  • Stacey Ball Says:

    Save some of your cash, you don’t need to spend everything.

  • lisa Says:

    you don’t have to act tough. people will still like you.

  • Jenna Says:

    Younger Self,
    Get yourself to therapy, it is awesome. Also, when you workout you feel better even though you don’t believe me. Spoiler Alert: You f-ing love kickboxing!
    Love – 2010 Self

  • Erica Says:

    You don’t have to work this hard at everything.

  • emily Says:

    Dear Young buck:

    Do it. Do everything. Don’t be so timid. You will come out the other side of all your adventures not regretting what you did, but what you left on the table. Be less hesitant, more bold, way more reckless. By the time you are 30, you will not want to party, you will not be willing to drop everything and GO, you will be too old for many things SO DO THEM NOW. xoxo, The Old Fart aka you.

  • Sarah Says:

    Dear younger self, please, please, PLEASE learn the art of thinking before you speak… and subtlety in speech. It will take a while, so you should get a move on!

  • Rachel Says:

    He’s lucky to have you and not the other way around. Really.

  • Alexis Says:

    Have fun! Enjoy where you are NOW and stop worrying so much!

  • jayme Says:

    Little me, ease up on the worry. Stay up late, indulge, and please quit shopping with our mother as you dress like a member of the AARP.

  • margosita Says:

    Keep writing.

  • Jen Says:

    Dear Younger Me:

    Don’t be so damn shy. Talking to people won’t kill you. You’re not a bad person – just get out there!


    Older me.

  • Layla Says:

    Take more chances.

  • laura.q Says:

    listen to your parents! they aren’t *that* out of touch with reality.

  • MomofDavid Says:

    Stop getting upset at insignificant things (getting less-than-stellar grades, getting fired from temp jobs, being sad when people who don’t like you)and take the time to look around and appreciate all of the great things life has to offer.

  • Candice Says:

    “Keep your legs closed, honey. He’s not worth it.”

  • Jen M. Says:

    Dear Self,

    Please stop worrying about the future. You will not be a failure. You will have a more amazing life and career than you have ever dreamed of.

  • Erika Says:

    Dear Self-
    STOP SMOKING! And don’t be reckless with your heart and body, even though you think it feels good at the time.
    Love you.

  • Jennifer Says:

    Dear J,

    No, it is NOT the same thing as someone handing you two thousand dollars when you get a new credit card.

    Love, J

  • Lorrie Says:

    Dear younger self,

    Those people for whom you’re working so hard to “maintain the friendship” aren’t really your friends! If it feels one-sided, it pretty much is one sided.

    Also! Other people are loads more fun! Just go talk. You’re really funny and smart, but people don’t know it because you’re hiding in the background all the time.

    Also also! Go play!

    All the love in the world,

  • Elly Says:

    Dear Younger Self. Eat that chocolate, kiss those boys, and skip those lectures. Life is more than studying and jobs and it’s okay to lax out and be a bit naughty every now and then. <3, Older Self xx

  • Kristen Says:

    I had lots of advice for my younger self, but I think the most important is to enjoy being young! Stop wishing to grow up, and appreciate yourself for who you are at this very moment.


  • margie stroman Says:

    Sometimes it’s not about you. It’s really about them.

  • Stacey M. Says:

    Don’t buy that STUPID truck! It’s a waste of money and not worth. Go on a fun trip instead!

  • little bird Says:

    honey, overalls NEVER look good.

  • Amihan Says:

    Dear Younger Self: Pack up and live in another country for a year, maybe three years, maybe more! Learn the language, explore, and savor it. San Francisco will be right where you left it, waiting for you to come home.

    Your Older Self

  • Megan Says:

    RELAX…. Nothing is as serious or important as it seems right now…

  • Andy Says:

    Advice to my younger self:

    RELAX! Stoic and judgmental don’t look good on you…go have some fun.

  • everydayamy Says:

    Don’t stress about everybody being cooler than you in high school. They’re at their peak right now. It only gets better for you from here on out.

  • Sarah Says:

    Dear Self,
    You’ll grow to like how you look, I promise. Remember to put on sunscreen and smile more. You’re pretty.

  • Lucia Says:

    Dear Younger Lucia,

    Don’t listen to the “shoulds” please. They will do you no favors.

    Older Lucia.

  • kathleen Says:

    dear self:

    being shy makes you appear snobby. you are wonderful with people- dive in!

  • Alaina Says:

    Dear Alaina,

    Lighten up and take the time to have more fun. You’ll feel better, and no one will take you less seriously for being a little less serious.


  • shannon Says:

    Don’t date those guys just because you think you’re supposed to. You were on the right track thinking it felt weird and will make so much sense when she comes along…

  • Catherine Says:

    Cathy my love,

    He’s a douchebag. So get out and actually go ENJOY college — drink, smoke bad things, skip classes — instead of staying inside and forcing yourself to try to be the type of chaste person he says he wants. Don’t change yourself for anyone, especially a guy who told you you “could be pretty if you worked out.” You ARE pretty, RIGHT NOW. Go out and have some fun.

    Also, your current boyfriend is really, really hot, he’s smart and considerate, and he unconditionally loves you. You win!!

    Older, Wiser Cathy

  • dgm Says:

    Listen to your gut, no matter what the others say. They don’t have the same gut.

  • Heather Says:

    Don’t listen to yourself when you repeatedly put down your voice. Listen instead to the people around you who think you are great. Work at it. Practice. Really, you can.

  • Spring Says:

    Culled from my letter to my 20-year-old self:

    You can undo any decisions you’ve made that no longer work for you.

    Don’t let people guilt you about commitment and stability. They’re probably laboring under a commitment they made that no longer works for them. They’re responsible for living their life; you’re responsible for living your life.

  • Jenn Says:

    Dear Jenn,

    While not enjoying sports is okay, it’s also okay to get up and move some times. It turns out that you run like Big Bird only because you don’t run very often. I promise. You can do this.

    Older You.

    P.S. That super short cut you’re considering for your Senior Pictures? Probably not your best idea. xoxo

  • Laura Jane Says:

    Laur, women would kill for those curves so stop whining about it, get a new bra and live loud. Also, stop apologizing so goddamn much. You’re doing just fine, doll.

  • Holly Says:

    Dear younger self: Fear is an emotion like any other, and it will not last forever.

  • Megan Kongaika Says:

    Dear Younger Self,
    Go hang out with your father. You’ll come to find out that he’s actually quite awesome.

  • Natalie Says:

    Stop yourself and ask, ‘what’s really going on with me right now?’ before (1) impulsively reaching out to other people or (2) being snappy with loved ones. You will then discover other options for dealing with your temporary stresses that are more effective!

  • Rachel (Hounds in the Kitchen) Says:

    Oh young one, don’t rush.

  • Anne Marie Says:

    Stop worrying so much about being alone. Future you ends up marrying the best husband ever. And in the meantime, you’re pretty good company so take yourself to dinner, go to the movies, and definitely eat the gelato!

  • Shelly Says:

    Dear younger self,
    Do not get married to your college boyfriend, do not move to Texas, eat some whole grains and wear some sunscreen for goodness sake! See you in 9 years. :)

  • Lindsay Says:

    I would tell myself to travel more and in general just take more risks.

  • samantha Says:

    Be kinder to yourself. You’re the only you you’ll ever have.

  • Chryse Says:

    Dear Me:

    Watch out for those blue haired boys. They will get you every time.

  • Jenn M Says:

    Dear me,

    Keep dancing. Go to class, have fun, read, sew, live your life, but for the love of everything beautiful in this world, keep dancing.

  • Ivy Says:

    Dear Little Ivy,

    You are so much stronger and braver than you think you are. It will just take you 15 years to figure that out, so don’t sweat it.

    All the things you hate about the way you look will turn out to be the things that make you unique and precious and (gasp!) beautiful. Promise.

    Also, if he’s acting like he’s not into you, HE’S REALLY NOT INTO YOU. Don’t waste any more time thinking about it. It doesn’t make you any less, just because he’s not giving you more.

    (Slightly) Big(ger) Ivy

  • alaina Says:

    be nicer to your sister, she’s the only one you’ve got… and she’s kind of amazing.

  • ladyloo Says:

    Dear 30 Year Old Self:

    The world is not conspiring to make you wretched. Take a little responsibility, and do what makes you happy.

    The 34 Year Old Happy Version of You

  • zoeo Says:

    dear third grade zoe, can you please save some of those ditto sheets? there are a few grammar lessons it’s worth repeating… all the other mistakes you make will make you/me who we are now. and we’re pretty much ok.

  • leah b Says:

    find out who you are and what you like. then just be yourself.

  • Cyn Says:

    Don’t move in with him! Dump him right now, no matter how much he guilt trips you.

  • Sam E. Says:

    Dear Younger Self,

    Enjoy that metabolism while it lasts.

    Old, Pear-shaped You.

  • Megan G. Says:

    This state of fear and doubt is not limited to life in your early 20s. I know that might seem unfair. You’ll find it unfair later, too. Take a breathe and wade in.

  • Sarah Says:

    Dear younger me,

    Don’t be so afraid of what everyone will think of you — get out there, smile more, and loosen up. But also stop procrastinating and apply yourself! You can make anything happen if you just put your mind to actually doing the work.

    Current me

  • Sarah M. Says:

    Get out of bed and go to class!

  • gillian Says:

    Dear Gill,

    Lighten up. The world will not actually be a better place for all your moralizing. You’ll just be boring and get left out of all the fun. Instead, stay out tonight, kiss that boy, and have a good time! The world will not end and you will have fun. I promise.

    Love ya

  • Rachel Knecht Says:

    You haven’t run out of time! There is so much time you’re rolling in it. So don’t ever think that it’s too late. It’s not. Also, learn French. Trust me on this one.

  • Sarah Says:

    Get good enough grades to go away to college–far away. Farther. Yeah, no, farther.

  • Jenny Says:

    The good stuff is worth waiting for. And listen to your mom!

  • Janice Says:

    Relax! Life is too short to care what people think.

  • Amy Jo Says:

    Go ahead and kiss Robbie in the coat room.

  • heather Says:

    Advice to a younger me: Your best friend, the one you laugh with so much? He’s going to become the one you live for and love. Be patient.

  • nicole Says:

    hey younger you!

    you are pretty awesome, but when that boy knocks on your door sophomore year of college, sleep with him. you have regretted that since 1993.

    oh, buy technology stock. you’ll thank me later.

    now go get some sweetheart,

    your older self.

  • Erin Faye Says:

    the teardrop necklace is beautiful!

    advice to my younger self: HAVE MORE FUN! Don’t worry so much and just live in the moment.

  • Shannon Says:

    Dear Younger Shannon,

    Before you get upset that you weren’t invited someplace, thin about if you really wanted to be there. Sometimes, home with a glass of wine and a great book is way better than the (seemingly more fun) alternative!

    Good luck,

    Current Shannon

  • Anne Says:

    Don’t EVER stop your running program, even if you are certain you’ll resume it when the weather gets a bit nicer. Without it you’ll look 5 months pregnant with a healthy food baby.

  • Hannah Says:

    Hello younger self- totally kiss some more boys, and by the way- your body is awesome! Enjoy…

  • Laura Says:

    To a younger me: Don’t stop piano lessons. You’ll want to play later.

  • Claudia Says:

    Dear Young Claudia,
    Please keep your great grandmas, grandmas and mother’s
    accessories and clothes for future usage!!

  • Jenn Says:

    Dear Self: When your employer offers to match your contribution on an RRSP, for goodness sake start an RRSP. And stop spending so much money on crap you don’t and put more money into savings because law school is expensive (then again, maybe rethink law school).

  • MontanaJen Says:

    Any time you spend with someone who makes you feel intellectually, spiritually, or physically inferior is time wasted.

    Any time you spend with someone who makes you want to be a better intellectual, spiritual, and physical person is time well spent.

    Your time is precious. Spend it with care.

    And dump Ben – he’s a serious douche.

  • Emily Says:

    Dear younger self: Save money so you never have to depend on anyone for your dreams. And oh, sometimes people are just mean or crazy or very caught up in their own crap and their actions really don’t have anything to do with you.

  • Emily Says:

    I would tell my younger self to have some patience. Everything you want will happen in it’s own time, or you’ll find it wasn’t so necessary afterall. So enjoy that walk or quiet Friday night. It’s quality time with you.

  • Chris C. Says:

    That necklace is lovely! I would tell my younger self to get more exercise and more sleep. Turns out, you don’t need Prozac or any of the other half-dozen anti-depressants you took in college (and their sucky side effects) to keep you happy and stable — just lots and lots of good cardio and 8+ hours of sleep a night :-)

  • Bethany Says:

    Lighten up and have more fun.

  • Cait Says:

    I’m 29 now. I wish I could tap into my older self for some wisdom. But for my younger self? I would tell her that she is right. The friends she has now are the best in the world and leaving doesn’t change that.

  • meghanb Says:

    Ask out that cute boy at Enterprize – he was flirty and even wore a costume to work on Halloween (just like you did). Beside, Jeff is an asshole that will break your heart.

    Don’t get that credit card.

    Wear shorter skirts & tight dresses.

  • Ashley V Says:

    Dear younger self: You are stronger than you think. This too shall pass.

  • Emira Says:

    Don’t be afraid to say no to responsibility and yes to fun. Frequently.

  • Emily W Says:

    Don’t spend so much time dreaming and limiting yourself–just DO things. You have more potential then you think. Have confidence.

  • Beth Says:

    Try pretending you aren’t shy or that you are comfortable in an unfamiliar situation. Sometimes this will translate into reality!

  • Courtney Says:

    You think this is hard? Just wait until you turn 30. Woah-boy is it a doozy!

  • Lindsay Masten Says:

    Dear Younger Self:

    Please let more people take your picture, you look amazing. No joke.

    Also, wear shorts! See above advice for why.

    Thank you,

    Slightly Older Self

  • Juliann Says:

    Dear 23 year old self,

    I’m so happy to see that you’ve stopped worrying so much about what other people think. But do me a favor, ok? Stop at three drinks. It’s usually enough.

    32 year old self

  • Cora D Says:

    Dear Younger Self: the only thing you need to do right now is believe in yourself more. That’s it – stop trying to fix and change and suppress – just believe in who you are. You kick ass in so many ways, which you’ll notice if you start appreciating your talents and faults. Love, Your Older Self

  • Kimberlie Says:

    Please rethink the tattoo. Sure, it looks cool at 18, but in another 10 years? Just think about it…pretty please?

  • Rebecca Says:

    Stop brushing your curly hair! It makes you look like a poodle.

  • CM Walsh Says:

    Don’t take everything so personally.

  • Kelly Says:

    Dear twenty-something me,

    1) Spend less time worrying about what everyone else thinks and more time worrying about what you think.
    2) You are terrible at settling for less than you want, so let’s stop trying, k? No, really. Stop it.
    3) Don’t leave the house on the lake. You will regret it for years.
    4) Drink less. No, less than that. Less. Even less. That’s more like it.
    5) Laugh more. A lot more.
    6) It gets harder. It gets easier. Tide comes in. Tide goes out. We call it life.

  • Nell Says:

    Make out with more guys, self!

  • Wendy Says:

    Dear younger version of me:

    Let go of your fears and dive into your life headfirst without looking, you will regret way more the things you did not do and places you did not go then the mistakes you might make. Embrace yourself, yes you are different and that is what makes you unique and special. That man who seemed “safe”, your best friend, he will turn out to be the most amazing husband ever. Finally, don’t wait until you are 32 with 4 kids to finish your college degree, follow your dreams now, trust me it will be much less stressful!

    An older, wiser version of yourself

  • Rachel Lew Says:

    To my 18-year-old self: There is nothing wrong with being sad or having problems, but it is also OK to ask for help and see a professional. It isn’t bad. You might just need a little help for a little while to get yourself back on track. You are fabulous. Also, not as fat as you think.

  • Ms. Huis Herself Says:

    Dear younger self,

    Take more chances, kiss more boys, be centered in who you are.

    Your older self

  • Laura Says:

    I love that necklace!

    Also, I’d tell my younger self to stop freaking out about the SATs. They go just fine.

  • Amanda Says:

    dear younger me,
    it is ok to dream big. it is ok to try something new/different/scary even if (especially if) it doesn’t work out perfectly. it is ok to ask for help. worry less and have more confidence. -me

  • Alicia Brown Says:

    Dear Younger Alicia,
    When your on again off again boyfriend of 6 years drunkly sleeps with his female best friend on “accident”, you LEAVE. You don’t stay. You do not make excuses and allowances. No matter the circumstances…you leave.
    Oh. And stick up for yourself sometimes will ya?

    With love,
    current Alicia

  • Diana Says:

    If I could, I would tell my younger self to listen to my mother! It turns out she wasn’t entirely full-of-it afterall… Who would’ve known?

  • Lisa Says:

    Dear 20-year old me,

    You’re not going to figure it out. Just relax and enjoy life.

  • Amanda Says:

    Be TRUE to yourself, don’t underestimate your uniqueness.

  • Sarah C. Says:

    Dear Younger Self,

    Stop worrying about what everyone else thinks of you. It doesn’t matter as much as what you think of you.


    Your old self

  • Elizabeth Says:

    If someone sets off alarm bells in your head, even quiet ones, and even if they seem super great and fun, listen and pay attention. It will inevitably become clear why.

  • Patsy Says:

    Younger me,

    Those kids in high school that you are so desperately trying to impress, turns out it will not matter in a year or two. You will find your wings in college. And that boy you start dating at 18, you will marry him. And it is awesome. So learn how to fight fair, stop being so melodramatic and storming out.

    Love me.

  • Lindsey @ I Run in Heels Says:

    Dear Younger Self,
    Some day a singer named John Mayer will sing a song “Say What You Need to Say” and it will inspire you to do just that. But I think you should start saying what you need to say right now. Things like “I like you,” “That really upsets me,” & “There’s so much more to me than you think.”

  • Dreadpiraterach Says:

    Dear younger self;
    It’s really ok you didn’t get into your first choice of university. Breathe. Take the year off and then try out the little known one. You’ll love it, I promise. And it will change your life..

  • tallgirlky Says:

    Don’t ever be ashamed of or hide your height! It will serve you well in time.

  • wendy Says:

    I’ve been thinking, and I’m not much for giving advice. I’m better at giving hugs. I’d like to give my younger self a hug.

  • Pictou Says:

    Dear Younger Self,

    Pay attention to how a man treats his mother. He’ll never treat you any better.

  • Calamity Jill Says:

    dearest little Calamity: check the pockets before throwing your jeans in the washer, don’t take yourself too seriously – or no one else will, use the damn sunblock, and travel outside of the country before you make any babies or sign any marriage certificates.

  • kim b. Says:

    Appreciate your body.

    Your stomach isn’t fat. Your skin is great, and even after staying up all night you look amazing. Don’t tug on your shirt so much. Don’t worry about what your butt looks like in those jeans. Do leave the lights on.
    This is the best you’ll ever look. Rock it. Own it. Love it.
    And maybe start getting into an exercise habit, ok?

  • elsie Says:

    dear high school senior self – GO TO CORNELL!! it really is OK for “nice Cuban girls” to leave home and go away to college! REALLY!!!! GO!!!!

  • Christa Bader Says:

    Stay away, far away, from him. And his mind games. And his “fragile ego”.

    And his brother.

  • Rachel Biggs Says:

    About marriage – Wait and listen to your heart – it is right!

  • HL Says:

    The piece of advice I would give to my younger self would be to live life more, take chances and take risks. I’d also tell myself that it’s really not that big of an emergency as it feels at that moment.

  • Devon Says:

    I’m still really young (22!) but here is what I would tell my 16-year-old-self:



    Your somewhat older self

  • Nicole Says:

    Wear more sunscreen! More more more!

  • Brooke Says:

    Oh, dear one. Please, please try harder. There is no one right answer. Love yourself. I can’t stop at just one piece of advice.

  • Kristen Says:

    Younger Kristen – you are beautiful exactly as you are. You might not be the skinniest or smartest of all your friends, but you light up a room and make people feel good about themselves. And that, my dear, is an invaluable tool.

  • NatC Says:

    Dear Younger Self,
    You don’t need to solve all of everyone else’s problems. Especially the big, unsolvable ones. Take a deep breath, WALK AWAY, and take care of yourself.
    ps. Tell your older self to remember this herself sometimes.

  • Katie Says:

    Kay-Kay, remember what Fa said about the credit cards being for emergencies only? Well, this right here is not an emergency. No, that isn’t either.

    And yes, I know that MRD is saying that you’ll pay for it together. Yes, I know MRD means well.

    But really hun, MRD is a lying mutha ucker, and pretty soon he’s going to smash your heart and leaving you holding the bag (or bills, as the case may be). So seriously. Put the card away. You’ll be so much happier five years from now.

    Love you,

    PS – The REAL catch is MWL. And don’t worry. He loves you regardless of the silly mistakes you’re making right now. Actually, he probably loves you a bit more because of them. I told you he’s a catch.

  • Ab Says:

    Wear your retainer! Tsk, tsk, tsk.

  • Jamie Says:

    Appreciate your body.

  • Brandy Says:

    Dear Self,

    Never marry a man you wouldn’t want your son to grow into.


  • Ana Says:

    Dear Younger Self~
    Quit analyzing and dissecting, and get some shit done that makes you happy already. Also, forgiveness is the key…always.

  • Brooke Says:

    When someone asks you to Homecoming your freshman year, for Pete’s sake say yes. Also, fish are actually really good to eat, you are so missing out by being such a picky eater! Peas are still gross, though, don’t worry about those.

  • Coralee Says:

    1. Your mother is wiser than you want to admit
    2. People are so caught up in their own little personal dramas that they notice very little of what is happening in the world immediately around them
    3. It will not matter 5 years from now; actually that is problably more like 5 weeks from now
    4.You go girl!

  • Becky Says:

    Younger Becky: learn to accept that failure, and admitting failure, are not necessarily bad things. You limit yourself when you won’t acknowledge them. Open up, relax, and have a little fun! Great things can happen.

  • Stephanova Says:

    You’re hot. Stop worrying about it.
    Also, stop trying to have a grown-up romantic relationship. You’re 20. You don’t have to do that yet so just have fun.

  • Andi Says:

    Don’t study accounting!!

  • Tracey Butterfield Says:

    Stop trying to fix everything and just breathe – some things DO take care of themselves.

  • Natalie Says:

    you are killing me with these giveaways lady. my advice to myself for sure: dump him before you go to college.

  • harmony Says:

    wear a bikini every chance you get!

  • Ariel Says:

    Do just a few more crazy things. It’s when you push yourself out of your comfort zone that the most memorable things in your life occur.

  • Katie Says:

    Advice to younger self: You are darling and funny, stop worrying about your big nose and big feet and enjoy being young and childless!

  • christina Says:

    Dear Younger Self:

    The time is now. Do it.

  • Annie Says:

    Dear Miss Annie:

    You hate non-profit and you’re really bad at it. Theater makes you miserable. Take the film production class at SVA MUCH EARLIER.

    Also, shelling out $100 for teeth cleaning will be much less expensive than dealing with 12 cavities. Seriously.

  • Lisa F Says:

    1. Don’t be so afraid of boys & those early crushes
    2. Don’t worry about what other people think
    3. Don’t get a perm
    4. Wear clothes that show off/fit your body type
    5. Continue playing the piano
    6. Continue running competitively
    7. Go to a smaller college
    8. Don’t lose yourself in relationships
    9. Study harder in college in classes that ‘really’ interest you

  • natasha Says:

    dear younger natasha,

    start shopping in the women’s section.

  • Sarah Says:

    major in physics. it’s more interesting than what you’re choosing.

  • Amanda Says:

    Dear Younger Amanda,

    Don’t stress so much; things have a way of working out.

  • Amanda Says:

    Dear younger self, you will lose so much time being obsessed with perfection. Let it go.

  • Hillbilly Betty Says:

    Dear Younger Self – You will not die a virgin. He will not be “the one”. Stop chasing.

  • mudrick Says:

    Everything doesn’t have to be perfect…let go!

  • Virginia C~ Says:

    Forget grad school, get a job before the market tanks.

  • Lisa Says:

    Date the tuba player, not the trumpet player.

  • Jessica Says:

    Dear Jessica,

    It is ok to be happy. And don’t forget to hug your mom a lot – she’ll be gone sooner than you know.

  • Erinn Says:

    dear 14 year old self trapped in a teeny little single-minded town: those different and totally weird feelings you have about girls? it’s normal, and it’s called being gay. unfortunately you won’t realize that this ‘condition’ actually has a name and that you are not alone until several years later. now aren’t you glad you listened to your intuition and didn’t go out with that creepy religious guy mom was pushing on you??? YOU’RE WELCOME.

    ps. make Tim Gunn your god now, and it will save you a lot of frustration later.

  • tish Says:

    …sometimes you have to do what is right for you even when everyone else thinks it is wrong…they don’t have to live your life…you can’t make decisions based on their comfort…

  • Fiona Allen Says:

    Dear Younger Self – Be kind to yourself, treat your body well and study yoga so you’ll be flexible and have a beautiful swan-
    like neck in which to display the beautiful necklace from Feisty Elle that you will win from Margaret

  • Cat Says:

    I know you’re busy and all, but college comes with a gym membership. You’ll land a sweet boy either way. (No, not that one. No spoilers, Younger Self.) But don’t wait until you can actually see yourself getting old with someone to start working on making sure you see old age.

  • Amy Says:

    As subtext, I am a obsess-about-order kind of person. Before going off to college and graduate school, before living with strangers, before embarking on real life and responsibility, I’d give myself the following advice…

    Embrace chaos. It’s the natural order of things, and it can be fun.

  • Lara K-W Says:

    Advice to younger self: Listen more. Talk less.

  • Amy M. Says:

    Finish college!

  • Laura Says:

    Don’t go to the bar The Library. It will save you a world of hurt and a lot of money in therapy. Also, eat more doughnuts while you have the metabolism.

  • Andrea Phillips Says:

    Dear Young Andrea: You don’t have to wait for anybody’s permission to do the things you want to do. Get out there and make stuff.

    Love, Me

  • Liz S. Says:

    My Very Dear Lizzie,

    Two things. First, there’s not supposed to be anything relativistic about how your boyfriend treats you – if YOU think he’s being selfish and hurtful, he IS being selfish and hurtful. There is no jury on this – your opinion is the only one that counts.
    Second, the thing you do to celebrate, where you buy a cake for no reason and ask the baker to write something great on it in icing? That’s the greatest. Keep doing that. You’ll lose interest in sheet cake soon enough, and celebrating small things is a great habit to get into.


  • Miss K Says:

    Spend more time with your friends. Spend less time with him.

  • freddy Says:

    That 6’5″ former Nazi sympathizer? Yeah, how about not starting to date him in the first place, smartie pants?

  • Michelle Says:

    Dear Younger Self: Be nicer to your body- you don’t want to go through this past year and you can avoid it!

  • Elisabeth Says:

    Hey, younger self! You’ve got great instincts and you’re a wonderful judge of character. Go easier on yourself and keep following your heart.

    (wow…I wonder if this is good advice for 10 years from now, as well?)

  • Karly Says:

    Love that necklace!

    Dear self,

    Although you may be flattered with the full-ride scholarship you got from the podunk college in the middle of a turkey farm, apply to more schools and please finish!!

  • Melissa Says:

    To my younger self: Treasure those moments with your parents because they will be gone too soon.

  • Jacinta Says:

    Dear you,
    It’s about to get more interesting, and your confidence will surprise you! Keep going!

  • Charisa Says:

    You count. And your feelings do matter.

  • cj Says:

    Hey you – yeah, you – the girl who doesn’t smile:
    Show your teeth. You have a beautiful smile and no one notices your teeth are crooked but you.

  • Krista Says:

    It’s okay to ask for help when you need it. It doesn’t show you’re broken, it shows you’re dedicated.

  • Greta Says:

    advice to younger self: take more risks! you’ll have more fun.

  • Venita Hale Says:

    Stop worrying that every decision, whether minor or major, will determine your soul’s final destination.

  • Charlie Says:

    Young Charlie,

    It’s okay just to be yourself. The people who don’t like the real you, aren’t your real friends.


  • Nicole Says:

    You WILL reach a time in your life where you won’t feel as though everyone has to like you. You’ll realize it’s just not the hassle and hard work to live up to their unrealistic expectations.

  • Crafty Dayeseye Says:

    Dear Younger ME,

    You cannot OWN anything, you are just a great caretaker, and, nothing and no one can OWN you, but they can take care of you!

    oh, you know who.

  • Bianca Says:

    Be more talkative, especially in front of strangers.

  • kate Says:

    Dear younger self,
    You will never be as young and thin as you are right now; wear a bikini while you can, dummy!! Oh, and don’t date that one guy. He doesn’t deserve you.

  • dani Says:

    Dear younger me-
    Star thinking about your future (you will have one). Those girls aren’t your frie ds and those boys don’t deserve you (or your body). Speak up in class. Do a semster abroad. Stop being so scared about what others think about you.
    A happier, more confident (and older) you.

  • kate Says:

    Oh my god, some of these are heartbreaking. I love this idea; it’s worthy of an entire post. Uh huh, stealing this idea.

  • Sassafras Mama Says:

    Don’t fear rejection so darned much (advice that is still handy today:).

  • Catriona Says:

    Dear self: Relax. Enjoy the journey more.

  • Nora Says:

    Dear me 18-22ish: Go for a walk, study more, and for Pete’s sake don’t drink so much. You’re too cute and life’s too short for you to spend so much time feeling nihilistic.

  • Tracy Says:

    You may think that your snotty friends are the only worthwhile people in the entire world. You are incorrect. You’re missing out on a lot of great relationships by ignoring everyone else.

  • Abby - Bright Yellow World Says:

    Dear Self,

    PUT DOWN THE SNICKER’S BAR. For one thing, it’s going to make you cry when you try and get rid of it ten years later, still sitting on your butt. For another, there is WAAAAY better chocolate in your future.


  • Vanessa Says:

    Dear Me,

    Stop being so afraid to speak up in class. Sooner or later, you will find out that participation is key to learning, and no one will be able to get you to shut up. This is a good thing.


  • hillary Says:

    what wonderful pieces of art.
    younger self, remember to PLAY, girl!

  • Jen Says:

    Dear younger self,
    Don’t worry so much. People really like you, and you are cooler than you think you are. In about 15 years, it won’t matter. You’ll have a great job, two kids and a wonderful husband. It really will work out OK. Actually, even better than you imagined.
    Love yourself… others do.



  • janie Says:

    Hey younger self, do more sit ups and push ups. You can eat as much ice cream as you would like but you will love the increased muscle tone later. Thanks.
    Your future ice cream loving older version.

    If this posts twice, please delete one, my internet is doing odd turning off randomly for 3 seconds things.

  • SarahThe Says:

    Dear Sarah at 17:

    Don’t be afraid of going to college. It doesn’t matter that you’re young. You’re strong. You can handle it. Go to the big school.


    Sarah at 27.

    P.S. Double major in Spanish AND Nursing. Don’t be afraid of Science. Chemistry was only hard the first time because Mr. Sanders was a terrible teacher, not because you’re bad at science.

  • Carrie Says:

    Honey – stick to your guns, keep smiling, be kind, be honest and take the opportunity to travel every single time that you get chance to do so. Even the briefest journey is worthwhile.

  • Amy M Says:

    Thank you for going after the literature classes that sounded interesting, instead of the ones that seemed important. Also, you are thin and your stomach is remarkably flat.

  • Sara Coffey Says:

    To me: Fake it till you make it! No one knows if you have no idea what you are doing!

  • Mandy Says:

    Just relax. Ditch school once. Do some fun, bad things.

  • Megan Says:

    Dear 15 year old Self: Calm down, it gonna be alright. Be kind to yourself.

  • Kat Says:

    Dear 19-year-old Kat,

    If you don’t actually like coffee, why are you drinking it? Quit smoking now while it is not so difficult, please. Go home and hug your mom. Right now. Do this as often as you can. The cancer’s going to come back and you will lose her long before you’re ready. Oh, and I know naked pictures seem like a great idea right now, but in ten years, you’re really gonna wish you hadn’t taken them. Don’t move to New York. It will all end badly. Just go visit and then come home, thus not spending every cent you have, and avoid sleeping with that Matt guy while you’re there. He’s even more of a douche than he seems.

    Love, 29-year-old Kat

    P.S. You’re queer.

  • Katie Kruger Says:

    Turns out you don’t have to wait till college to be the outspoken, nerdy, blunt awesome woman you turn out to be. Everyone around you will eventually be that person too so don’t be afraid.

  • Candie Says:

    Dear Self,
    Don’t be afraid to talk to people. They are far more supportive that you give them credit for and they are not out to get you. Learn to trust those around you.

  • Erica Says:

    Dear past self,

    Do not get a credit card. Don’t try to stay with your high school boyfriend when you go to college, it’s not any fun. Also, vodka, sprite and low fat raspberry frozen yogurt do not mix.

    future self

  • Kate @ Savour Fare Says:

    Just relax already! Go a little crazy! Have some fun in high school. You have the rest of your life to be responsible. Embrace your quirks. And stop tucking in your shirts.

  • amanda a. Says:

    Seriously, self, don’t be so freakin’ dramatic! It sucks now (duh!), but things work out no matter how crappy they seem at the moment. And, if they don’t work out… well, they work out anyway. :)

  • Katie Cook Says:

    For the love of God, stop worrying so much. Also, quit smoking, it’s disgusting and a waste of what little money you have.

  • Jess Says:

    Dear younger Jess,
    It turns out, wherever you live and whatever your job, you’re a pretty happy person who occasionally has moments of extreme anxiety and sadness. Once you realize that this is just your disposition, not your circumstances, you’ll be able to kick that dissatisfied feeling and enjoy your life even more!
    Love you,
    Older Jess

  • Maureen Says:

    Dear Younger Self,
    Math is important. Get more comfortable with it. Also, start saving for your retirement now.
    PS. You should see who we married!!!

  • Sara Says:

    Sweetie: You are very earnest now, and that can be a good thing. But it can also hinder you.

    Just do things that make you happy! You’ll surround yourself with people you admire and who challenge you. So your path is being built, connections being made. Trust the process. Getting older is awesome.

  • Danyelle Says:

    Just because people who are supposed to know what they are talking about tell you something, they won’t necessarily be right. Follow your gut.

  • jenna Says:

    Finish college, damnit.

  • Madison Says:

    Things will get infinitely better after high school, and no one’s opinion there actually mattered. No, really!

  • delia Says:

    seriously chica? just go for it. oh and smile

  • mollie Says:

    hey you! self! your hair is CURLY… stop brushing it all the time and it will stop frizzing out more and more. you’re just making matters worse right now.

  • Anna Says:

    Eat strawberries whenever possible. You’ll never regret any fruit that you ate.

  • Jenn Bo Says:

    This is what I’d tell myself:
    You’re smart and will do well no matter the obstacle, so don’t take school quite so seriously. Now, don’t run out and act like a hoodlum, but focus on having more fun. Also, don’t let your jealousy ruin your friendship with Lisa, it would be a mistake you regret.

  • Molly Says:

    Hey, young Molly: you don’t have to tolerate so much from that boyfriend! Contrary to what he wants you to believe, he won’t die if you tell him to take a hike!

  • Rebecca S Says:

    Younger self: Lay off on the frozen pizzas.

  • Kim Mangan Says:

    I would tell my younger self, that while your difficult teenage years only last so long, there are always people who never quite grow out of that phase.

  • Emily Says:

    You did a good thing when you stopped drinking soda. Your dentist applauded you! Also, accept that study abroad to Oxford. Lastly, spend more time with Mom before she dies.

  • Suz Says:

    Drink more champagne. You deserve it.

  • Leigh Says:

    Don’t bring that guy with the blue mohawk home to meet your family when your grandmother is visiting. You really don’t need to push back so hard. They are a supportive bunch, and will always let you be yourself.

  • wendy Says:

    suncreen! on your face!

  • tonya Says:

    Wee self:

    Please do not get so wrapped up in someone else’s life that you forget your own passions.

    Also, keep exercising, silly.


  • Addie Says:

    Don’t go home with that guy – nothing good will come of it.

  • Janet Says:

    Dear younger me,

    Don’t be in such a hurry to finish school and start working. Take risks.

    PS. You are not fat!

  • Cass Says:

    Young self:

    Don’t get such a big student loan. It really will take forever to pay back…

  • simone Says:

    Study graphic design. Finish college. Keep up the yoga.

  • rahree Says:

    Dear younger self,
    You can’t fix people – especially those who don’t want to be fixed. (And you’re included in that, missy.)

    Also? You TOTALLY should’ve hung onto mom’s suede coat, even with the rip on the pocket. You’ll miss it.

  • Chrissie Says:

    Show your parents and siblings how much you love them more regularly and listen to what they have to say. They’re not nearly as out of touch as you think they are.

  • Leslie B Says:

    Always always always go with your gut.

  • Earth Girl Says:

    Dear younger self,
    I understand that the decisions you make are the best decisions you could make at that time and place. It all works out more amazing than you can even imagine.

  • Katherine Dey Says:

    Dear mini-self,

    Read everything you can get your hands on, especially when someone more versed than you is around to discuss it with … The Heart of Darkness will make a lot more sense.

  • Carrie Says:

    Oh, honey – it’s not going to get better until you take the medication. Save yourself from losing years of what could have been the best times.

  • Jackie Says:

    To that younger girl that I still feel so close to…enjoy every hour of every day…they go by faster and faster as you get older. Savor every single one.

  • Kristy Says:

    Dear younger self: When you get the urge to tell that high school guidance counselor to blow it out her ass, DON’T SUPPRESS IT.

  • Jovi Says:

    Dear teen self: You know that awesome, quirky woman you always wish could become? In the future, that’s who you’ll be. In fact, you already are.

  • ccr in MA Says:

    Honey: relax. It’s going to work out. Relax. Breathe.

  • Kinsey Says:

    Drink more and sleep less. You won’t be able to pull that off once you get older.

  • Corin Boyko Says:

    The pressure is not from anyone besides you, and if it is, then it isn’t relevant.
    Go to the doctor. No, really, go to the doctor.

  • Jackie Says:

    Dear younger self…you don’t really need that, whatever it is you’re about to buy. Save your money now and you won’t regret it.

  • Candace Says:

    Take chances.

  • Lee Says:

    Just relax!

  • Kristin Says:

    Get in bed while it’s dark. Get out of bed while it’s morning. Be responsible so you can have more fun.

  • Sarah Says:

    Dear darling girl, younger self,
    It gets better, it gets so much better. You can’t even dream of the life you’re going to live, so stick it out. It gets better.
    Love, Me
    PS Stop relying on the whiskey, it doesn’t make you nearly as smart or funny or pretty as you think it does.

  • Amy Says:


    It’s OK to make out with Aaron Carlson.
    I promise.

  • Kate Says:

    Be braver. Don’t be so afraid of screwing things up. Do more things that scare you.

  • DiaryofWhy Says:

    You are not a small town girl (at least you won’t always be). Don’t go to that tiny liberal arts college of 1500 students–go somewhere else! The world is your oyster! And smile at people, once in a while.

  • Krysta Says:

    1. be nicer to yourself, 2. take that French class

  • Siobhan Says:

    Go give Granny a hug. Also, talk less and listen more.

  • Katie I. Says:

    hey younger self,

    Wow..you drink a lot. Those friends are for keeps.

  • Geralis Says:

    You are loved.

  • Allison Says:

    You don’t always need the last word.

  • Sheryl Says:

    Dear Younger Self:

    Love doesn’t mean compatibility. Run now, before it’s too late. Oh, and don’t drop out of college; mom and dad are paying and you have a young, fresh mind. When you’re 45 and a single mom, that tuition bill will really hurt and school will be a lot harder with all of the other things occupying your middle-age brain.

  • Amber Says:

    Dear younger self,

    be patient, you’ll get there. if you really can’t wait, start doing yoga.

  • Kelly Says:

    You don’t need to get engaged in order to move out of your parents house in with him, its not some kind of magical band of grown-up-ness. University is not just for rich kids. There are loans you can get. Go find out about them. And finally, get your dual citizenship papers, go to Ireland and work for your Uncle Seamus.

  • Maggie Says:

    To my younger self- have more fun, school is important yes, but so are your friends. You’ll need them later.

  • K. Bell Says:

    Dear younger self,
    Go far from home … you can always come back.


  • Katie Says:

    Stay in school and do that one-year graduate program. Going back to school later is hard.

  • MJ Says:

    Don’t be afraid of the body around that brain.

  • Meg B Says:

    Date more. Worry less.

  • Angeerah Says:

    Dear Silly Girl,
    Stop trying to be cooler, make everyone else happy, and for goodness sake, have more confidence in yourself!

  • Sophia Says:

    Relax … most of the things you are worrying about are not that big of a deal.

  • Clarissa Says:

    Platitudinous advice for my younger self: People think you’re cute….believe them. The only thing standing in your way is you.

    Also, please skip that overalls phase.

  • Natalie Says:

    He wasn’t for you, and you’ll be relieved about that later. I promise.

  • Rachel Says:

    dear younger self,

    thank you for going to yoga.


  • Melinda Says:

    Dear Young Me,
    Accept that boy’s offer to dance at the 6th grade dance and don’t be embarrassed of what you friends might say. You don’t know this yet but that boy won’t be around long. A few months after the dance he will die in a crash. Accept that dance so you don’t have to carry the regret with you the rest of your life.

  • Tabitha Says:

    Hey, younger self. Whassup girlfriend? About that thing. Well, when you think the big things will stop being big things just because you are married, you are wrong. Capital W wrong.

  • Ryan Elizabeth Says:

    Dear me my first year in college,

    Never, ever, ever start smoking, and always, always, always dance, sing and be silly, especially with your best friends.

  • janet brashear Says:

    Stop worrying about these little things that will mean nothing a week, a month and a year from now. It’s wasted energy.

  • Bextoronto Says:

    Dear Younger Me,

    Engineering is fun and all, but you’ll like baking better. Get on that!

    Older Me

  • mia Says:

    learn to stop hating yourself. you can’t be perfect – no one can , but you’re far from horrible.

  • Rebecca Says:

    To my 18 year old self, sneaking into bars:

    Beware the drinks with the fancy names. It really isn’t cool to vomit in the stairwells and shower stalls of your dorm.

  • Susan Says:

    Enjoy yourself. It’s okay to feel pretty and sexy. Ten (twenty?) years from now you will be wishing to have have the body and skin that you have now.

  • val Says:

    don’t take things so personally, college-aged self. and let your hair grow longer.

  • alanna Says:

    Dear Younger Self,

    Don’t waste so much time. It’s okay to try new things and take chances, but get out when it’s not working – it’s not giving up.
    4 years with BF #1
    Another 2 years with BF #2
    2 years with BF #2
    6 doomed-from-the-begginging months with BF #3
    2 more years with BF #2
    5 years at a job that kills your soul
    5 years of of misery in undergrad and then 5 years of not taking the last two classes you need to graduate.

    Years upon years of wishing, hoping, dreaming, but doing NOTHING about it.

    Plan a plan and go! Dream, Achieve, Live!

    Life can be so much better than you think.


  • Katie Says:

    Think about what you are wearing. You are cute. Now act like it. Same goes for how smart you are.

  • Haley J. Says:

    Dear Younger Self,

    Finish your music degree. And, if you can’t see your way to do that, then at least get your masters degree in English. That whole “taking a year off thing”…. bad idea. Dump your boyfriend the FIRST time he cheats on you, too.

  • Janet Says:

    Have more fun and stop worrying!

  • Tia Says:

    If you fail something, don’t hide it from people who care about you.

  • Anna Says:

    There is a time for sloth and a time for work; the latter will make you appreciate the former more.

    Take chances, have fun, don’t make all decisions based on how insecure you feel, because everyone else is pretty much faking that ease and enthusiasm, too.

  • Syd Says:

    Don’t have sex with someone who isn’t worthy of being the father of your children.

    Being a hottie, is not a good enough standard for sex. Aim higher.

  • Susan Says:

    Hi younger me,
    Don’t be afraid to speak up!!

  • Jennifer Says:

    Travel abroad right after college.

  • Kris Says:

    Hey little lady…listen up!

    Know this: All that glitters is not gold.

    Put down that negative 30 SPF Sun Tan Oil. Now.

    Pay more attention in that photography class. And the Spanish one too.

    Listen to your Dad’s advice regarding that African safari. You will regret it if you don’t.

  • Katherine Says:

    College isn’t for everyone – do something more adventurous and don’t have any regrets. (And because student loans for three degrees you didn’t finish is pretty lame.)

  • Manders Says:

    Dear teenage self: You are not dateless because you are ugly or nerdy or unwantable. You are dateless simply because you are not ready for it yet, and neither are those boys. A lot of them turn out to be losers, and if you had gone out with the ones who didn’t, it would have ended disastrously. But that one guy? Life turns him–and you–into a beautiful, grounded, honest, honorable person.

    But you are not ultimately defined by your relationship status. God knows and loves you, and that is enough.

    Love, mid-twenties self

  • mar Says:

    Don’t be lazy, stop looking for shortcuts. Patience, it is a quality you should work on – it pays back in spades!!!

    Also – moisturizer!

  • Jennifluff Says:

    Dear Jennifluff,

    Its better to fail than to never try because you are scared. That’s just dumb; you are smarter than that.

  • SarahStone Says:

    Dear Early twenties self: You really should wear more sunscreen.
    Love, Mid thirties self

  • Lisa May Says:

    Dear younger self:
    Two words: re. lax. Trust your gut, stop second guessing yourself so much. You’re funny when you allow yourself to be. Now go have fun.

  • Nichole Says:

    Dear 22ish,

    Put down the credit cards.


  • molly Says:

    Dear Young me,

    Don’t spend so much energy trying to find love. It will find you when your aren’t even expecting it.

    Don’t do shots after midnight…that’s never wise.

    You are smart and kind….act like it.

    Wear sunscreen!!!!

    who you will become.

  • Anne-Katherine S Says:

    I would tell my younger self that it’s okay to like things that not everyone likes. That’s what makes me me.

  • Michelle Says:

    Dear little Michelle,

    Please remember to focus on the bigger picture, and stop worrying about the small stuff.

  • Kelly H Says:

    younger self: quit making “I’ll never…” statements. They all come true in a few more years.

  • The Small Gal Says:

    Go give your Dad a kiss and tell him you love him.

  • Kate Says:

    Hey Younger Self – Ignore the people that freak you out and just hang out with the people who value you. You’ll have a lot more fun and be less insecure. Plus, it will save you years of struggling to figure that out!

  • christine Says:

    you have your whole life to make friends. finish college.

  • Toni Says:

    Dear younger me,

    Please eat healthier. Also, so far your liver is a champ.

  • Jenny Says:

    Stop over analyzing everything

  • abi Says:

    Dear Me At Nineteen,
    Don’t bother feeling guilty about dropping out of college. Ten years from now you’ll be back, armed with antidepressants and years of therapy, and it’ll be a much better experience for you. And while we’re on the subject, how about you go ahead and start with the therapy and Effexor *before* you have kids? Xoxo, me

  • guinevere Says:

    Spend all your money on travel before you have kids.

  • Rachel Says:

    Dear Younger Self,

    Stop seeking reassurance from external sources and trust in yourself. You are doing beautifully. Really.

    Older Self

    P.S. Seriously, don’t scratch that chicken pock – it will leave a small but irksome scar on your chin.

  • Libby Says:

    Other people’s happiness is not your responsibility.

  • Alex Says:

    Dear younger me,

    Stop giving a crap about what people think and do what you want. Life is so much more fun that way.

  • ana-maria Says:

    enjoy your body more, it will never look quite that good again

  • Laura Says:

    It truly is better not to peak in high school so don’t be so concerned with what the cool kids think. And listen to your gut and go to art school.

  • nat Says:

    Dear young Nat: Keep wearing weird stuff, and doing dumb things. Your old man may be right about most of the stuff he’s on about, but he’s wasting his breath trying to tell you now. It really only works if you figure it out on your own, which you do.
    Stuff turns out all right for you. Keep playing guitar.

  • Susan Says:

    Dear younger self,
    A career in the arts is not more noble than a career in science. Also, you’re hot. How can you not see that?

    Love, You.

  • Anne Says:

    Walk. Bike. Run. It’s so fun to use your body.

  • carona Says:

    Hey listen up! Don’t earn your degree in a field were you will “always have a job”…do something you love. When that guy says his family and friends will always come first believe him and find someone who will put you first. Those goals you have?…WRITE THEM DOWN! Work less and play more, get your fun on!

  • andi Says:

    your legs are fine!

  • beyond Says:

    dear younger self: use more sunscreen! really! and forgive people who hurt you, holding into grudges will just give you a tummy ache. and always keep dreaming like you are now; you will get there eventually, don’t worry.

  • Courtney Says:

    Hey there self,

    You end up going to a really great college. But it’s been 12 years since you graduated college and you’ve still got a lot of it to pay for, so why don’t you take it a little more seriously? Cool it with taking the science classes for non-majors, and using the pass/fail option for a grade.

    Also, that guy you date from ages 24 to 27? Just spare yourself a lot of grief and don’t pass him your number when you spy him on the Metro. He may be mighty hot, but he is so not worth it.

    But you’ve got a great husband now, so it all works out in the end.

  • Elaina Says:

    Dear young Elaina: Don’t let anyone else define you. Learn to say no. You’ll laugh about it later, I promise. Smile. It all goes by so quickly.

  • WKS Says:

    Younger self, nobody will ask about your high school GPA. Really. Party more.

  • Meredith Says:

    Dear younger self, you are beautiful! That voice telling you that you’re not? Tell it to go suck eggs.

    you at 35.

  • Stephanie Says:

    Trust your gut, and take yourself less seriously.

  • AnnGeeDee Says:

    Dear Younger Self: In 10 years, you won’t even care what these people are doing.

  • Lisa Says:

    Go to a state school and grad school – and yes, you will marry Stan – hook up with him earlier, will ya?

  • Gretchen Alice Says:

    Oh, Gretchen honey, don’t worry so much about your grades. It’s gonna be okay.

  • Raechel Says:

    Planning for the future is great, but take the time to truly enjoy the present as well.

  • darah Says:

    adulthood is not nearly as boring as you thought it would be. i promise.

  • Sromeo Says:

    Dear younger self:

    You applied to 6 colleges in Boston. You applied to 1 college in New York City. You did not end up in Boston, and looking back, you are so glad for it. Don’t sweat turning down the “Boston dream.” In retrospect it would have been a horrible idea.

  • Pamela Says:

    Spend more time smiling instead of scrunching up your nose in self-doubt. In 20 years your first wrinkles are going to be in between your eyes, right on the bridge of your nose. You don’t want your wrinkles to be telling that kind of story.

    Oh how I am hoping for that beautiful necklace!

  • Desiree Says:

    Yes, you *can* do all of those things, but more importantly, when will you!? It’s okay to be underprepared, you’ll learn as you go along. And everyone is rooting for you.

  • Becky Says:

    Love yourself more. Care less what others think. Spend more time on the phone with your parents just because you can.

  • Tiffany Says:

    Save that allowance! Soon, your family won’t be able to afford giving you money like that, and you will wish you had the savings to leave a toxic home life earlier.

    Get off the couch, ignore the naysayers and imaginary judgmental jury, and do what you want, knowing in every cell of your being that you are awesome (or fake it until you make it). Because you will regret giving up swimming out of body shyness, you will wish you hadn’t given up writing from listening to your mother tell you it’s useless, you will realize that nobody really thought you had no business in after-school Animation classes so you should’ve gone anyway. Live as you dream of living. You have great instincts but you need to listen to them instead of your doubts.

  • Martha Says:

    Enjoy the body you have now. It only goes downhill from here.
    Thanks for the giveaway!

  • Gabrielle Charles Says:

    skip the shots!

  • Rachel Says:

    Accept compliments. Never accept them boastfully, but always graciously.

  • Victoria Says:

    If you’re worried and stressed about something you cannot change, you’re probably NOT taking the initiative on something you can.

  • elif Says:

    Remember to say “eff it” more often and enjoy yourself.

  • Laura Brown Says:

    Remember you deserve it all.

  • Meg Says:

    Learn how to roll the kayak.

  • stephanie Says:

    Dear Younger Self:

    Raise your hand in class more often and stand up straighter. Speak up. You have much to say.

  • Rebecca Says:

    It turns out you DO like beer. Keystone is not beer. Also, don’t take yourself so seriously. The brooding thing won’t go away, but the ability to share it humorously will make all the difference.

  • Caitlin Says:

    Dear Me
    – stop dating that loser
    – don’t be afraid to be your own person
    – do what you love – you’re going to end up doing it anyway, so why waste time?

  • Rebecca Says:

    You will eventually date someone and he will be awesome and you will have an amazing little boy together. Enjoy the friendships that you do have and stop obsessing about not having a boyfriend.

  • Lisa Says:

    Dearest little Lisa,
    We are blessed with two ears and one mouth for a reason. Listen more than you talk.

  • Vickimae Says:

    Dear HS self,
    Quit looking down your nose at those “sluts”- you’ll be less miserable if you date/ get some before you are 20.
    Your Sexually Older & Wiser Self

  • Kris Says:

    The only to figure out what’s best for you is to block out every other voice – recognise that and don’t feel bad about it.

  • Celina Wyss Says:

    Dear younger me,
    Don’t get back together with him. It will always end up the same, yes even the third or forth time…

  • Erica Says:

    Dear self,

    Stop trying so hard. You are awesome as is. Also, drink less and change your major. You may not know it now but you actually really love science and helping people and years later you will wish you’d identified these interests earlier.


  • Emily Says:

    You know, just stop. Slow down. Take time. Enjoy life. It will (on reflection) just rush on by, it doesn’t need your help. Stop worrying. It’ll all happen eventually, and if it doesn’t, well pffft, it clearly wasn’t meant to. Embrace everything (with the exception of a few icky individuals). Keep an open mind. Take every opportunity given to you. Say “Thank you” and “I love you” more often. See you real real soon….

  • Torry Says:

    Don’t worry so much!

  • Maren Says:

    Learn how to take care of your hair — it’s gorgeous and curly and you’re going to lose most of it thanks to birth control. Don’t be a vegetarian for eight years if you’re not going to learn to like salad, because a pasta diet will do you no favors.

    Realize that your parents are as clueless as you are and get some outside advice when it comes to higher education. Guess what: STUDENT LOANS EXIST! You don’t have to pay all by yourself or get a scholarship! Really!

    Please stop painting yourself into the last available corner when it comes to making life choices. I know the endless opportunities that being a reasonably intelligent, middle class white American grants you are overwhelming, and that fear of failure is what makes you do it, but honestly you just can’t undo some of the choices you will make after being forced into them at the last minute thanks to your own self-handicapping.

    Oh, and speaking of last minute choices, fuck that law school noise. It’s the worst possible place for you, and the debt is no joke.

  • Amy Ferguson Says:

    I’m loving reading everyone else’s. Mine is, you are not fat. wear the slutty dress, you look great.

  • Courtney Says:

    Dear me 15 years ago – stop giving a shit what anyone else thinks of you!

  • Michelle Says:

    Don’t stop running. Your joints will decide they like the inactivity, and you’ll have to give it up for good.

  • Karen Says:

    Everyone will love you no matter what you do. It’s just severe anxiety. You should talk to someone about that, and then talk to Mom and convince her to get help too, because she’s been trying to live with it for much longer than you.

  • Gemma Says:

    Keep those purple corduroy pants.

  • Momo Says:

    Take your time. Take everything less seriously, especially yourself.

  • Jenna Says:

    Dear Me,
    Making out does not equal marriage.
    Move on and stop talking about him, your friends are tired of hearing about it!
    Love Me.

  • Cynthia Says:

    Stand up straighter, please! Other than your terrible posture, you’re doing great – and anyone who tells you otherwise is a dirty liar. Realize this sooner, rather than later!

  • Tony Says:

    Dear Younger Me,
    Relax, stop taking everything so seriously, especially relationships with totally inappropriate women. It’ll work out, or it won’t, and it’s not a big deal.

  • Rebekah Says:

    Don’t major in journalism!

  • Eryn Bagby Says:

    It’s okay to leave your religion. You haven’t believed for 20 years, you aren’t going to for the next 20 either. Just leave and start going to therapy now! It will save a lot of time, energy, sadness, and perhaps one divorce later.

  • Jenni Says:

    Dear Young Me,

    Go ahead and take risks. The adventure is always worth it (so far).

  • Hilary Says:

    Oh, younger self… do not drink so much July 4, 2010. But you should still break up with him.

  • Melanie Hanly Says:

    Set rules and expectations with your family now. Know who you are dealing with and deal with them accordingly.

  • Carrie Says:

    Don’t make yourself unhappy aspiring to be someone you’re not. It seems cliche but it couldn’t be more important.

  • Su Says:

    Dear young self,

    Enough with the wishing and the wanting, stick with the doing. The rest will happen, I promise.



  • Deidre Says:

    Dear self, remember that moment in 5th grade where you knew you were choosing between two sets of friends? You chose the wrong ones…

  • Adrienne Says:

    Never regret. You will love yourself more by learning from mistakes. Remember, regrets only lead to sadness.

  • Tasha Haley Says:

    Dear younger Tasha –
    Keep drawing and put aside doubts that you’re not as good as that other person. You have a unique style, and it’s ok to draw the grass pink. Don’t worry about taking those classes you think you’re supposed to – take the art classes you love!

  • lois Says:

    No matter how jealous you are at the “normal” ones, soon they will be jealous of your life. It gets better darling. Love yourself first.

  • Melissa L. Says:

    Don’t panic. You’re still young.

  • Amanda Says:

    Dear younger self-
    Don’t be such an asshole. I guarantee, more people will like you.

  • Brooke Says:

    Don’t be afraid to do things you’re not good at. You will never be any good at them if you don’t try.

  • Alana Says:

    Dear self,

    Breathe in and breathe out. It doesn’t need to be more complicated than that.

  • Amanda Says:

    Leave your hair alone. If you were meant to be blond, you’d have been born blond.

  • Janice Says:

    Dear Young Ingenue Janice,

    It will all work out okay so please stop fretting.

    Love and kisses,

    Your older, wiser and even more fabulous self

  • misstraceynolan Says:

    That stick? The one that’s up your butt? Take it out.

  • Katrin Says:

    Dear young Katrin,
    you look hot now. Quit worrying about that. Also: your dad is not as bad as you think.
    older Katrin

  • Joyce Rimmele Says:

    Dear Younger Self,

    Be the most interesting person you know. Being skinny is not the most important thing in the world. You look great! Stop obsessing and start living!

    Your Older (& happier) Self

  • Meg Says:

    Invest in leather. It lasts!

  • Tiffany D Says:

    Use sunscreen – all the time

  • Sarah Says:

    Don’t rush to graduate college a year early to save the tuition. This is the only time you have to study abroad or take classes in topics just for fun without other life demands. In the long run an extra year of school is trivial. And it was in-state tuition, for crying out loud!

  • Kara Says:

    Dear younger self,

    You don’t have to go to art school to practice art. Don’t give up on photography and graphic art just because you didn’t get into RISD!

  • Laura Says:

    Dear Self,
    Don’t be so hard on yourself. Appreciate your beauty and feel good enough to take some risks. Throw yourself out there!

  • Melanie Says:

    stop spending all your energy on your boyfriend. Your girlfriens will be around WAY longer and are WAY more fun!

  • amandaC Says:

    dear teenage-self,

    don’t worry so much. and you will be able to have a child of your own, and she is totally awesome.

    29yo self

  • cora Says:

    love yourself and be true to your ambitions.

  • Coraniaid Says:

    Go to a psychiatrist now & keep going for as long as you need. If you don’t like the one you initially see go to a different one! Your depression will never just go away on its own like you hope.

  • RubyDu Says:

    Dear Younger Self,
    Be good to yourself. Trust your gut. Mom and Dad are right. Do not marry HIM. Trust me on this one.

  • Jenna Says:

    To my younger self I would say to heck with the boys, focus on your career. Back then I used all my brain cells to worry Where is my Mr Right? I used none at all for my career. As a result I settled down as fast as possible with an OK guy (who turned out to be a cheater), AND I’m way far behind in my career. Doh!

  • Kristina Stonehill Says:

    Be brave. It’s okay to make mistakes, honey; you won’t let anyone down.

  • Amber F Says:

    Dear younger self. don’t worry so much about what others think…just live.

  • ame Says:

    Dear Younger Me –
    Hi Darlin’! Pay attention to that intuitive heart of yours and ignore harsh judgments from other people – let it be okay to be sensitive, and treat honest criticisms from others as dessert plants know the wind – those bustling winds will allow your roots to grow stronger under ground and in the end you’ll stand with firmer feet to the Earth. And finally, please remember, Sweet Thang, it will all be okay in the end. If it’s not okay, then it’s not the end.
    Much love and gratitude to you my sister, my self,

  • Sherry Says:

    Dear Younger Self;
    Girl, you are beautiful. Please don’t settle. Don’t be in a rush, everything will work out if you are patient and trust yourself. Have some FUN.

  • elainepill Says:

    trust yourself. your positive attitude will carry you through bad times. it’s okay to be a little sad sometimes, but then you need to get on with it. life will work out the way you want it, you just have to be patient.

  • jenG Says:

    Dear little me, age 16-22–
    There’s a reason you two always come back to each other. One day, it’ll stick, and it will be even better than when you first fell in love.

    Big me

    P.S. Start a savings account and learn proper budgeting, please.

  • Milissa Says:

    Don’t schedule 8am classes in college. You won’t go. Schedule your classes at a more reasonable hour so it won’t take you 7 years to finish school and graduate.

  • Sarah Says:

    Be willing to accept compliments. And love.

  • Leslie Says:

    Dear Younger Leslie:

    Smiling at people immediately makes you less awkward, so start now. Except don’t smile AND stare because that’s just creepy. Good luck.

  • birdgal Says:

    Dear younger self: learning to like being alone with yourself is the key to happiness.

    Older self

  • Emily Says:

    Dear little Emily-

    Relax. It is ok to not be so serious. You have more fun when you laugh.
    Also, please don’t cut your hair AND get a perm at the same time. That really isn’t a good look on a young person.

    Love you…

  • Amy Says:

    Just wear it, there is nothing wrong with you!

  • Sarah O Says:

    Just get started– a tiny first step is better than not taking a step at all.

  • Dana Says:

    Stop drinking.

  • Tammie Says:

    Love your body. Go naked more.

  • Meagan Says:

    Dear me: Yes, adolescence can be rough. It sucks for everyone at some point. Just know that you’ll come out of it standing tall and proud to be eye-to-eye with most men. That, and don’t worry: tweezers can do amazing things!

  • Amy Beth Says:

    Dear Amy,

    Just tell your mother about the tattoo for crying out loud. She already knew, and you wore shorts over cute bathing suits for about a million years for no reason! Now after 2 kids there is a reason, we lost out on precious butt-bearing time….
    love, amy

  • Jessica Says:

    Dear Younger Self:
    Don’t stop dancing – it is joy and exercise in one glorious package.

    PS When they offer you those credit cards, remember that you can’t afford it and say no!!

  • amelia Says:

    Life is soooo much better after high school.

  • WaywardGoddess Says:

    Dear self:

    Things seem hard right now and you don’t know how you’re going to get through it, but keep moving forward. There is never an end to stress and worry, but you will always make it through to the next thing

  • Jasmine Says:

    Don’t stress so much about the future! It’s going fine so far!

  • Em Says:

    Dear Younger Self,
    Even though they’re not your favorite, suck it up and take more accounting and finance classes, they will come in handy in the future!

  • Michelle Bowman Says:

    Dear younger Michelle,
    Stick with college. I know you’re working full time and its a tough load but believe me you will appreciate it later. Its easier now than when you have a job & family in the future.

  • Sara Says:

    Dear Young Sara, He really DOESN’T care about you at all….you are not going to convince him otherwise. Save yourself many years of anger and heartbreak….TRUST ME!!

  • Emily Says:

    Dear Younger Self,

    Don’t think you can save that guy you think is going to become a famous musician. He’s is going to become a drug addict no matter how much you love him.

  • Bridie Says:

    Boy, oh boy. One piece of advice?

    Here it is: Acknowledge your impulsivity and learn now how to take a step back from it in order to make better choices.

  • Jill Says:

    Dear young Jill,

    It’s okay not to be good at everything. Try more stuff, and have fun doing it. Try. :-)

  • Kristine Says:

    Dear Young Kristine,

    See that dog out there in the backyard? The one with the brown eyes and the pointy ears? That dog is going to show you your passion. Pay attention. Otherwise you’re not going to figure it out until it’s much harder to follow.

  • Laura Jennings Says:

    Be slow to judge others. There is almost always something deeper going on beneath the surface of peoples actions & reactions.

  • Rachel Says:

    Don’t freaking worry so much. A lot of what you obsess over will never happen.

  • KD Says:

    Dear Younger KD-
    Loosen up a bit while you are in college. Everything is going to work out. Don’t stress, have a little bit more fun. Oh, and sleep with a few more guys but make sure they suit up.

  • Amy Says:

    Don’t sweat those life decisions because everything turns out juuuuuust fiiiiiine! How can I regret choices that put me in Japan and London for most of my 20’s? The career and romance stuff all works out eventually anyway.

  • Laura Says:

    Dear me,

    Just do that thing, whatever it is, that you’re thinking about doing. Take the trip, kiss the boy, say the words, whatever. Because you’ll look back and wonder why you were always so hesitant, especially when the risks you did take turned out so wonderfully. So do it, whateer it is.


  • Darcy Says:

    Pay more attention in college. The opportunnity to learn new things all day is short lived.

  • tasha Says:

    Dear younger me,

    You know how you want to spend a semester abroad but worry it would derail your “plans”…please, stop planning. Go to Spain.

  • Jess Says:

    It will only matter as much as you let it…good or bad.

  • Sarah Says:

    Dear Younger Sarah,

    Don’t go home with that one… he will just cause years of misery. But the sex was good. Damn, I would make the same mistake all over again.


    Take 2

    Dear Even Younger Sarah,

    Spend a semester abroad. You won’t miss anything back in the dorms. It would have been so worth it.


  • Meegan Says:

    Oh for the love of Pete, QUIT SMOKING!

  • Krista J Says:

    Don’t ever pick up that first cigarette!

  • Sara Says:

    Dear Self,

    Get in trouble once in a while. Eventually you’ll figure out that trouble with a little “t” is actually an opportunity to stretch your legs and have a some fun. Start earlier, the stakes are lower.

  • Tawny Says:

    Dear younger self, that tat on the back of your neck might seem like a brilliant idea but when you are thirty but you will always wear your hair down to hide it. Now how fun is that?


    Your older self

  • Nicole Says:

    Talk to people who you think you don’t like (but haven’t actually talked to). Soooo basically–don’t be such a snob!

  • Jodi Says:

    Dear Younger Self– Lad y up and live a little– learn to flirt, attempt to pick up that random guy in line at the movies. That way when you find yourself divorced for 10-years you will have some FREAKIN’ clue how to be ‘out there”- sheesh!

    And remember, your hair looks best chin length. Love ya’! Your Older Self (who may now be bordering on becoming a crazy old cat lady, sigh)

  • Dawn Says:

    Dear crazy over extended younger self,

    Stop and take a breath every once in a while. It is good for the soul. And for all that is good in this world stop being so hard on yourself. You are doing amazing things with your life and you will continue to and stop calling yourself fat!

    Love, your older self who looks at pictures and wonders how I ever thought I was fat

  • Jen Says:

    Dear younger self:

    Yes he’s amazing and yes he will make you the happiest woman in the world. But you’ll spend the rest of your life with him – so use THIS time to travel. Spread your wings and allow yourself to experience all that the world has to offer!

    Oh – and please don’t stop running. You’ll save yourself a lot of pain when you try to start up again!!

  • Nikki Says:

    Dear Younger Self,

    Get that work abroad visa and stay in England for a while. And go to law school before you have kids.

  • Meg Says:

    Dear Younger Self,

    Stop worrying so much about maintaining an impeccable reputation. Get into some trouble. It’s fun.


  • Megan Says:

    Don’t be so hard on yourself and don’t care so much what other people think of you, you are cool just being yourself.

  • Sally Says:

    When Eric puts his hand on your kneecap, do not crack up and roll off the couch.

  • elizabeth anderson Says:

    You are beautiful. Outside but especially on the inside. Seriously.

  • Charlene Says:

    Don’t worry so much. You look perfect in that two-piece swim suit. Don’t take the job that you couldn’t sleep on it to see if you wanted it. Things will work themselves out—trust yourself.

  • Celia Says:

    Dear Younger Celia – DO IT!! Go for your Plan A, practical is not always better!

  • Annie Says:

    Dear Younger Self:

    Don’t listen to college freshman year pressure and kiss the dirty hippy boy who introduces you to Eddie Izzard and phish. Do it. Everything will be better if you do.

  • Matilda Says:

    Don’t be afraid to follow a passion and to take a windy road through life. Go travel, go live in another country. Spend less time worrying that your parents will get cancer and that you’ll have to take care of them. Leave your family. You need less than you know.

  • Alex Says:

    Dear Awkward Alex,

    Everyone wears a bra. Just because your boobs are small doesn’t mean you shouldn’t talk to Mom and get a “real” one. Rock those spaghetti straps and belly tops, sweetie.

    Big Al.

    PS: A perm? Really?

  • Melody Says:

    Dear Younger,

    Be flexible, not just with your body, but with your life. It’s not going to look like what you thought. It’s going to be even more beautiful.


  • Emily Says:

    Hey Younger Em –
    Don’t go there. Just don’t. It’s not that cool of a party. Oh, and stop being so damn naieve.

    Older Em

  • Amy Says:

    Just hold on for a few more years because the very track you’re on right now has some dark and muddy parts but it leads you to an amazing place eventually.

  • Amy B. Says:

    Start doing yoga now, and don’t ever stop.

  • nap Says:

    Relax! Everything will be fine. Keep doing yoga and appreciate your body for what it can do!

  • Shem Says:

    Younger self, a few small things….
    Chill out, there really is no need to worry so much
    Follow your instincts about your career
    Look after him, he’s a keeper
    If you want it, go for it
    Love, Older self

  • Sarahd Says:

    How about: You’re doing a pretty good job, hon, keep it up!

  • SK Says:

    It gets better, it really does (just like Tim Gunn says!)

  • Laura Says:

    I could probably write paragraphs but I will just sum it up with: Oh, sweet young Laura, not everything is about you. In fact? Most things are not. Learn it. Love it. Live it.

  • Sara C Says:

    I would tell my younger self that she is so much cooler than she thinks she is or than how some people make her feel sometimes. On the other hand, I think slowly becoming more comfortable in your own skin is probably the most lovely part of getting older.

  • Mimi Says:

    Get off the couch and get to work on your art!

  • felicia Says:

    remember to be nice to your mother. she means well.

  • Jet Harrington Says:

    Trust your gut. You can count on the decisions you make from there. Overthinking can be paralyzing – you already know what I mean, don’t you?

  • wendy h Says:

    Be nicer to that Greg guy. He’s a diamond in the rough. and Mike? just don’t go there. walk away. walk away.

  • Nancy M Says:

    Relax, it’ll be fine.

  • Maggie Says:

    Don’t fear what others think of you. It’s not worth it and you’ll be much happier living without all those annoying voices in your head.

  • liz Says:

    Dear younger self,
    Don’t be such a prude! At the very least you should do more makin’ out.

  • Laurel Says:

    Dear Younger Self – Walk a little taller, and worry a little less about what they think.

  • Meagan Says:

    Dear Younger-self,

    It’s better to be alone than unhappy. Also, you can too wear purple and it actually looks nice on you. Oh! And invest in tailored pants that fit. It’s worth the extra money.

  • Kelly H. in SC Says:

    Just go ahead and do it. Don’t wait for the right time and place — just go for it!

  • Peggy Says:

    Dear Younger Self,
    Stop wasting so much time wishing you had a boyfriend and go have adventure by yourself.

    PS – you’ll save yourself a lot of heartache if you focus more on whether he is right for you than if you are right for him.

  • Sneh Says:

    Dear 22 year old Sneh,
    You deserve happiness as much as the people you are trying to bring happiness to.
    30 year old Sneh

  • alexis Says:

    date around more, don’t be afraid you won’t get married and take that trip to Colorado on a whim with the cute boy!

  • Sherri Says:

    Dear ‘Lil me:
    Sometimes people will be just plain MEAN to you for absoulutely no reason; remember that YOU are awesome and that it is always a direct reflection of them and has NOTHING to do with you. You will always be AWESOME – you must believe it!

  • Alison Says:

    Oh goodness. I’m at a point where I wouldn’t want to change anything in my past, but I could really use some advice to my current self from my older self. I guess I’ll go with “exercise on purpose”.

  • Ali Says:

    You look just great. Enjoy it.

  • Zeynep Says:

    Stop caring so much what other people want you to do and figure and then do what YOU want to do. For gods-sake!

  • Saoirse Says:

    Dear Younger Self,
    Stop trying to think ten steps ahead. You’re missing how amazing each moment can be.

  • Jill E. Says:

    It’s okay to tell him to f-off. Sure you can be kind about it, but still. Just tell him to f-off. The relationship will end with more self-respect.

  • heather Says:

    dear self:
    don’t be afraid of trying. don’t wait until you’re 36 to figure out what you want.

  • Michelle Says:

    The only thing you will regret is not standing up for yourself.

  • Wendi Says:

    Have more self esteem. Don’t be afraid to be yourself in high school because you are a pretty cool girl.
    P. S. Don’t move to Tyler with your best friend after high school. Go to austin.

  • amber Says:

    You’re going to want to be able to stay home with your two beautiful daughters, so make sure the decisions you make in life are tailored to that. Live so that you aren’t absolutely dependent on a second income.

  • Becky Says:

    Dear High School/Early College Self,
    Stop being so paranoid. People like you and would like you more if you would let go a little and let someone in.

  • Meghan Says:

    Stay away from the Diet Coke. Stay far, far away.

  • Jenny Says:

    Dear self, don’t think that studying for a year abroad is something that other people do.

  • Nicole Says:

    Dear me: You’ll always regreat NOT doing something much more than you regret DOING something. Just do it.

  • Can I be anonymous for this? Says:

    Please don’t drink for the first time ever and then proceed to tell that after-the-play party full of “cool” kids that you’re in love with the quarterback of the football team.

  • Nina Says:

    Dear young me,
    Keep the VW bus!

  • sarah Says:

    Dear young me,

    You are more beautiful and intelligent and capable than you know. Break up with that stupid boy, go to Europe, get that tatoo and learn how to juggle. Stop waiting for someday- do it now.

  • Heather Mead Kim Says:

    Don’t hold back!

  • Jenny Says:

    respect yourself- you are loved

  • Lisa K Says:

    Take time off and figure out what you really want. It’s ok not to be on the same timeline as everyone else.

  • Sarah Says:

    Dear younger self,

    Please, please, PLEASE do something irresponsible for once in your life. Don’t over-think it. Sneak out. Get your nose pierced. Break a rule or two. They’ll love you anyway…I promise.

    You in ten years

  • Amy Says:

    Don’t be so afraid…you won’t end up as a bag lady living on the street. Relax. You’ll be fine.

  • Julie Says:

    Do not be embarrassed to be wrong. No one knows everything.

  • Tamera Says:

    Remember how you thought you were one of those people that can take time off of college and then will go back after one semester off? Sweetie, you aren’t one of those people. Get it done while you are young so that you aren’t forever in debt. PS: You will be an awesome teacher!

  • Ceci Says:

    Dear younger Ceci,
    For god’s sake, move your ass to New York City! You want to be a writer–go be where the writers and magazines are! Don’t be afraid to leave your boyfriend behind–if he’s cool, he’ll come along. If not, it wasn’t meant to be. And p.s., your hair is so lush and beautiful–grow it out!

  • Cait Says:

    Dear Younger Self-

    Stop tearing apart your body and your heart. Dance is bad for your self image, yoga is great and will make you stronger in ways you couldn’t imagine. Have more compassion for yourself. You are beautiful and strong and you never give yourself credit for your triumphs. Take a breath. Take more pictures. Stop hanging out with those guys- they will eventually depress you enough that you just start over with new friends. I love you, though you don’t know it yet.

  • aubriane Says:

    Dear 15:
    When he makes you cry, it is on purpose. When he does not reciprocate (yoouuu knooowww), it is because he is selfish. Go! Enjoy!


  • Anna Says:

    You are not your parents, and sometimes, they don’t have the answers. Find a good sports bra. Don’t be afraid to let your real feelings show. Don’t play games. Revel in your single-ness!

  • I.D. Says:

    Dear younger self: Don’t let your friends define who you are.. You also don’t need to be with a man to be happy. Spend some time alone and get to know who you are.

  • jana Says:

    Dear younger self: Your parents are wrong: God loves everybody. Your mom is wrong: you look fine, and you aren’t fat.

  • Jaye Says:

    Dear 19,
    Enjoy having that nice body! Four babies will be worth giving it up, but you’ll still miss it.

  • Emily D. Says:

    Yes, you’re living in a freezing cold house in Michigan with four women, studying and working into the wee hours each night. But in a few years you’ll be married, living in LA, and having a ball. Thanks, younger me. Don’t lose heart.

  • Tara Says:

    Slow down. Everything doesn’t have to be done right now. Also, enjoy being you.

  • Melis Says:

    Dear younger Melissa: don’t let fear or embarrassment about your disability stop you from learning the joys of being physical active – not only will your body love it, but your brain will too. Start swimming. Not only will you like it, but you will be good at it despite your leg. Also, since you have to walk with a cane for the rest of your life, ditch the orthopaedic drugstore version and cultivate a collection of interesting ones.

  • Sarah Says:

    Finish your degree, don’t use that credit card and hey-relax, you got this.

  • meg Says:

    Dear Meg-from-15-years-ago,

    Stay single. Longer. Date casually & more.

  • Missy Says:

    If something hurts, stop and pay attention.

  • Stacey Says:

    Take a few more risks, most of this stuff really isn’t as big of a deal, TRUST ME.
    Spend more time with your mother.
    Make out alot more, date around, you won’t be a slut for it.

  • jillyj Says:

    Dear younger self,
    You CAN do it. Don’t forget. Give it your all so you don’t regret it later.

  • Maura Says:

    Be bolder in what you wear. You can totally pull it off. Also? You are awesome and worth respecting, don’t put up with losers who treat you badly. Even only sometimes.

  • Brenda Mc Says:

    Sweetie, If a man tells you he isn’t good enough for you, he speaks the truth. Also, you are HOT, enjoy it. One more thing, it’ll get better. I promise.

  • Leigh Says:

    Don’t be so anxious to settle down! Live in a faraway city, have some adventures, and for goodness sake wear a bikini while you still can.

  • Eilis Says:

    Dear 20-year old self: Stay true to yourself. You’ll be so happy you did.

  • Alissa Says:

    My advice to my younger me would be to write it all down in the moment. I’ve had so much fun over the years but I’m afraid I don’t remember it all.

  • Erica Says:

    Dear Former Self,

    That haircut… oh boy. Are you sure that’s going to look okay? Let’s reconsider.

    Current Self

  • val Says:

    Dear Younger V.

    He’ll never change. No matter how much you cry and beg and scream and fight. Leave while you still have time.

    Older V.

  • Sarah Beth Says:

    high school Sarah- they really don’t have a permanent record to keep track. But keep those grades up at the beginning of college- they help out with getting into vet school when you stopped caring so much by senior year….
    And you’re gonna have some excellent adventures in your 20s. Do it all again!

  • Laura Says:

    Dear younger bow-headed self –

    Do the semester abroad – loser boyfriend won’t last anyway and you missed lots of great opportunities.

    Don’t swing too far to the opposite end of the spectrum after something goes wrong.

    Avoiding conflict in relationships often leads to distance that can’t be repaired.

    But holy crap, we have had some fabulous times and we are awesome!

    older, wiser Laura

  • wintor Says:

    Dear Younger W,

    You really do have something important to say and others really do want to hear it so speak up! And, you are loved more than you realize – trust me.

    Older W

  • Sue Says:

    Ugh! don’t waste money on a liberal arts private education!!!

  • Laura Rehbehn Says:

    Relax a whole lot – don’t try to maintain perfection and control…life is a lot more fun when you go with the flow…maybe break some rules too and take some risks!

  • Brittney Says:

    Dear Younger-Self,

    Listen to your little voice. It will take a long time to learn to trust it, but it’s always right.

    Love, Older-Self

  • yotko Says:

    Dear 21 year old Ali:

    When you meet that guy in the bar on Valentine’s Day in 1996, RUN AWAY as fast as your stubby legs will carry you!!!! That is FIVE YEAR you’ll never get back!

    That is all,

    Your older (and hopefully wiser) self

  • Lora Says:

    Dear younger self: for the love of all that is holy, get your eyebrows professionally shaped and learn how to fill them. It’s all your future self can look at in photos. SADFACE.

  • Sara Says:

    One more game of solitaire will not make it easier to write that paper, darling. You know that.

  • Kate L. Says:

    Finish grad school before you have children :)

  • Patricia Says:

    Dear younger me: The worst he can say is no. No doesn’t kill. Silence you’ll regret for a very long time.

  • Jen Says:

    Hang in there, he is the one, it just takes a year or two to get there.

  • Stephanie Says:

    Don’t be afraid to say no. It’ll be worth it, I promise.

  • Anne Says:

    Listen to your gut, especially when it comes to love. The gut – – is never ever wrong.

  • Flora Says:

    Be bolder! It will pay off tenfold.

  • Brooke Says:

    Son’t be so hard on yourself. You are fine just the way you are!…but do call your grandparents more, they won’t be around forever…

  • Jennie Says:

    Get those cavities filled. right. away.

  • ana maria Says:

    Honey, please, please, please have more fun, do not settle so early for somebody and travel as much as you can!!! Love, You.

  • Ella AD Says:

    Dear Ella of Nine Months Ago,

    Keep your shit together; you’re a better person than you’re being.

    With love,
    Ella of Nine Months Later

  • bene Says:

    I’d tell my 20 year old self that the current boy isn’t worth the drama, the next one isn’t either, and that finding a personal trainer is what you really should be doing — not drinking every night.

  • Erin Says:

    Dear younger self:

    Go ahead and sleep with that guy. Seriously.

  • Jennifer Says:

    Hey Self,

    You know how school is pretty easy for you, but you’re just not really into it? GO TO COLLEGE. Also, you know how you really want to live in New York, London, Paris, and Tokyo? DO THAT.

    Self, 20 years later

  • Tonya Says:

    Dear me,

    Have more fun, would ya? Actually, that’s still advice you need to hear. Learn this lesson early.

  • Erica Says:

    Dear Younger Me:
    Relax. It’s all going to be okay. Enjoy your life; it’s ever-changing, and each phase is different, imperfect, and wonderful.
    Love, Older Me

  • jodie Says:

    Play harder and work less.

  • Ann Sumanth Says:

    Stay OFF the pill…and especially DON’T take it for close to 6 years in a row…

  • Missy Says:

    Don’t float through college, taking whatever classes that sound interesting. Commit to something you love, but make sure you finish!

  • Cassidy Says:

    Dear Younger Cassidy:

    Stand up for yourself now so it’s easier when you’re nearly 30!

  • Marisa Says:

    Dear college freshman,

    You don’t have to get with him, go to class instead. There are plenty more who will like you. For now, you are just as weird as you think you are, but you’ll lose that if you get too wrapped up in the wrong person. And that’ll be a shame.


  • Rachel Says:

    You’re right. Twenty *is* plenty.

    Don’t be so concerned with when you and your boyfriend are going to get married. Just keep having fun. Start working on the really big things on your to-do list. Then go bigger!

  • Nora Says:

    Although I don’t necessarily feel wiser than I was when I was twenty (I’ve just turned twenty-seven), I think I would tell my younger self that your life is about you, the decisions you make are to please yourself. It’s taken me a long time to be brave enough to make decisions that are working towards what I really want.

  • Margaret Says:

    Early twenties self:
    There is no prize for drinking the most vodka tonics at the bar.

  • amybee Says:

    Do the study abroad semester, even if it is your spring semester senior year.

  • Kelly Says:

    It’s ok if you don’t know what you want to be when you grow up. It makes life more interesting!

  • Amanda Says:

    Leave your hair color alone. Seriously. Put that store bought color back on the shelf – you’re going to pay more than $15 to fix the mess you’re about to make.

  • Liz Says:

    Don’t waste that money on a northwest university: you hate being in constant overcast. Plus, you’ll be 31, have a husband and baby and still be paying off student loans for that English degree.

  • Sarah Says:

    Oh, honey. It’s OK.

  • Jo-Anne Says:

    Don’t get the all black-work tattoos! Go for full colour right at the start and you won’t have to spend all that extra money getting them covered up with full colour later! Oh, and love yourself, you’re worth it!

  • Sarah Says:

    Just be yourself and life in a cubicle is not worth the paycheck

  • Jen C Says:

    Don’t take everything so seriously.

  • Robin Says:

    Dear Younger Self,

    Write more. Worry less. Trust your gut. Get back to nature. Take more pictures. Don’t use the credit card. And above all else, get out of your own way.


  • Liz Says:

    Dear Past Liz:

    Be confident – you really are as beautiful on the outside as you feel on the inside.

    Future Liz

  • gunter Says:

    Dear Kerri,
    Please don’t get a credit card. Also, your mother is right: that guy your sister likes is a jerk, you do not need to find out for yourself.

  • houpley Says:

    dear youngme,
    you are not fat.
    love oldfatme

  • ViolaSaint Says:

    Dear Little ViolaSaint,

    Quit it with the low self-esteem, already! You’re a pretty great person.


    2010 ViolaSaint

    (can this somehow get sent to 2010 ViolaSaint, too?)

  • Michelle Says:

    Learn to relax and have more fun!!!

  • Maude Says:

    Just because you have the skill and eye to paint an excellent likeness does not make your paintings cheesy. You really do have the sense of composition and color to transcend that, but you also don’t have to be limited to that way of working just because you are good at it. Please don’t be afraid to play and get a little looser and goofier. Go ahead and use your intuition, it really is good. Take some risks, you are intelligent enough to make them work. Mostly, stop being embarrassed of the way you paint and paint!


  • Jeannine Says:

    Dear 20-something Jeannine,
    Student loans are cement bricks around your neck for life. Work your way through school, you’ll be much happer.
    40-something Jeannine
    P.S. Dump the Loser, he too is made of cement.

  • Danialle Foy Says:

    Don’t go to college immediately. Use the money to TRAVEL THE WORLD and save for college to attend a year or two later. Much love, younger self.

    P.S. Your biological father is just some dude your mom screwed on accident. Not your judge and self worth determiner. Don’t forget this, but forget him.

  • Deanna Says:

    Pay at least a tiny bit of attention in high school, because you are going to feel like an idiot later when you publicly confuse jerrymandering with filibustering.

  • Mareshia Says:

    Listen honey, don’t spend years convincing yourself that sketchy guys are sketchy and not misunderstood. That assessment you made during the first date, love, is the right assessment. Go with your gut.

  • Roseanna Says:

    Try harder to make friends when you are young.

  • Renee' Says:

    Whatever happens just remember that everything happens for a reason :)

  • Sarah Says:

    Dear Younger Sarah,

    Go ahead and sleep around a little in college. It’ll be our little secret.

    Older Sarah

  • Joey Says:

    Don’t accelerate so quickly when it’s raining. Literally and figuratively.

  • Meredith Says:

    Oh dear sweet innocent younger me,
    Pregnancy is not a license to eat what ever you want and blame cravings later. Your body will never be the same, and neither will you.
    (even younger self, girl, wash your hair and get some moose. That frizz ball could be beautiful curls!
    and remember to love your self.
    Tomorrow is a new day.

  • AppleTree Says:

    Get rid of those glasses. Your [much more fashion-conscience] nieces will find them in ten years and call you Harry Potter.

  • carrie Says:

    you aren’t going to remember a lot of the things that keep you awake a night worrying.

  • Sarah Says:

    You are not fat.

  • Morgan Says:

    Dear Young Me,

    1. Give that selfish boy the boot.
    2. You can go anywhere in the world. Take a chance.
    3. You are unique.
    4. Don’t worry so much.
    5. Swim naked more often.
    6. You are not fat.
    7. Love your family. They won’t be around forever.

  • Katie K Says:

    Dear College-aged me,

    You do not need to finish in three years. The working world will be there when you finish.

    Love, your slightly older, and still working self.

  • Gennie Says:

    Dear younger self, you look great! Now keep biking / skiing / moving, damnit.

  • Janet Says:

    Those stretchy velvet pants? Do not look good.

  • Kristy Says:

    Dear younger junior-high self,
    I know you feel like a total geek now, but do your best to rally through – you’ll see that the braces/headgear/palatal expander will be worth it in the end.

  • Erin Says:

    Dear younger me,

    It’s really okay if you’d rather study than party. Only you can find your bliss.


    Older Self

  • Mia S Says:

    Dear self,

    Call your mom more often. You have no idea how much you will miss when she is gone. Tape record one conversation, one where you two are laughing.

  • Amber H. Says:

    Dear younger self: That credit card purchase you’re about to make? Unless it’s for travel, do not do it! You do not want to be paying for those jeans four years from now.

  • Mary Beth Says:

    Dear younger self, Don’t try so hard to please everyone else. And do stay for grad school, as your professor suggested. I know you are keen to get out there, but really, SF will wait for you. Get the darned MFA and then work as a waitress; you be glad you did!

  • Yvonne Says:

    Work harder than you think is possible. It’s a great habit to get into.

  • andrea w Says:

    If I could go back and tell myself anything, it would be that I don’t have to change myself to find true love. Someone will love me just the way I am.

  • elizabetht Says:

    My 20 year old self should know that she should trust her gut feelings about people when those gut feelings are telling her she should surround herself with people who don’t treat her like a doormat.

  • Maggie Says:

    Dear little Maggie Magoo,
    Bangs are not cool….especially when you have curly hair.
    Love, significantly taller Maggie

  • E Says:

    Dear self,
    Enjoy the purple hair while it lasts.

  • sophie Says:

    Dear younger self,

    Stop being afraid all the time. You’re wasting a lot of time you’re going to want back later.

    Also, hide those combat boots you love so much. Your mom’s going to throw them away once you leave for college.

    Older You

  • Kelly Says:

    Don’t fight the tight.

  • Kat Says:

    Dear younger self:

    It passes. Things go on. Also, you already know what you’re doing, so stop second guessing yourself.

  • Meghan Says:

    Dear Younger Self,

    Enjoy your thighs, they will get bigger.
    And stop worrying so much.

    Your nearly 34 year-old self

  • Lauren Says:

    Don’t worry so much!

  • mando Says:

    Listen to mom. She knows what she’s talking about.

    Also, stop biting your nails. They’ll end up looking awful.

  • LisaB Says:

    Dear younger self: don’t be so judgemental.

  • LauraJ Says:

    Dear younger self: Don’t spend so much time and energy in crushes and relationships with guys that only treat you so-so. There is a MUCH better guy waiting for you!

  • Sheila Says:

    Don’t start drinking too early and don’t wait too long to stop.

  • heatherfeather Says:

    Dear Heather, No one is going to write genius songs 100% of the time, and what you did write was pretty darn good. Please don’t give up. It’s harder to start again, even though you will have had this epiphany. (ps – REALLY don’t throw away your tapes that were your recordings of those songs)

  • Christa Says:

    You’re right about the guitar player. He IS the one and it is AWESOME.

  • Jaime Says:

    Mom is always right!

  • April G. Says:

    Don’t marry that guy!

  • Kate Says:

    Try not to be so hard on yourself.

  • mp Says:

    Dear College MP,
    You think that trip to Europe seems expensive? Look at the bigger picture here. What’s a few thousand dollars? Take the plunge honey and get on the airplane.
    Mom MP

  • Jes Says:

    Dear Younger Self,

    You rock. Period. Live accordingly.

    Older Self

  • Addie Says:

    Worry less. So much less.

  • Lucia Says:

    Travel more, travel light.

  • Nadia Says:

    Register for Fiestaware! You’ll hate the other stuff soon.

  • Rocki Says:


  • Jessica Says:

    Dear younger Self,

    Aim higher; you can do it. Your biggest limit is yourself.

  • LAM Says:

    Learn to pack light and sleep heavy.

  • sizzle Says:

    Even if it’s hard and you are mad, be with your Dad as he is dying.

  • Cecilia Says:

    Don’t take it all so seriously. Relax and have fun!

  • Amanda Says:

    Younger self: Take a year off after high school and before college. Oh, and if he seems like the kind to cheat, he actually is.

  • monica Says:

    Advice: Let go!

  • Margie Says:

    Go give your dad a hug!

  • Michelle Says:

    Dear younger self,

    it’s okay that you aren’t ready for sex at 14, 16, or even 18+ish. That part will bloom later and it will be awesome…but trush your instinct and don’t rush it. It’s okay.

    Also, your thighs are just fine. Really. I know you don’t believe me, but they are.

  • Beks Says:

    don’t worry so much. mostly it turns out much, much better than you expected.

  • Gillian James Says:

    Dear me,

    Don’t be scared. Do it. Do it all! … except maybe that one thing… you know what i’m talkin’ about…

  • ms13 Says:

    dont feel so awkward…it will go away sometime soon, i promise

  • Auntie Yolanda Says:

    To twentysomething Yolanda,

    When Tom dies don’t drown your sorrow, get to a therapist sooner. Save more money for retirement especially if you are going to be self employed or work for a non-profit. Move to Sweden, it’s better than marrying Fred.

    Love 60 year old Yolanda

  • Sarah Collins Says:

    Skip more classes; worry less about your grades; be more willing to make mistakes; and try really hard to listen to yourself, even when your inner voice is very quiet.

  • Amanda Mae Says:

    I would ask myself not to be so boy-crazy. It didn’t need to be the focus of your young life, little-me. You’re plenty awesome on your own, don’t be scared of that.

  • Chelsea Says:

    Dear Younger Self:

    Don’t feel so bad about crying over that guy. Older you learned a lot from what you’re going through now, and older you doesn’t cry over boys anymore. She’s a lot stronger thanks to you. As far as your heartbreak right now goes? Enjoy it, embrace it, discard it.

    Also, good job dying your hair pink and purple. TOTALLY worth it.

    – Chelsea

  • Elaine Says:

    Not everyone needs to like you.

  • verdemama Says:

    You’re smart, pretty, funny, and goshdarnit, people like you. And if they don’t, that’s their loss.

  • LauraSt Says:

    Dear me,

    Less woe, more go!

    And stop worrying, you’ll find him.



  • Kim Says:

    He broke up with you twice…he will again. Choose the other guy!

  • Mauryn Says:

    Don’t sweat the small stuff.

  • Erin B Says:

    Don’t date your professor!

  • Jenn N Says:

    Find someone to talk to, don’t let the secrets weigh you down and hold you back.

  • Hannah Says:

    All the drama going on in your life right now is just that, drama. Don’t feed into it and you will find happiness and peace soon.

  • sarah Says:

    Study abroad! Drinking with your friends in dive bars will still be there when you get back. (for a lot longer than you think it will, too)

  • Corley Says:

    Dear 19-year-old Corley,
    Let the first break up with him stick. If you stay with him nothing will change, he will drag you down and consume another three years of your life. Good news is, if you fall for it and stay, the man of your dreams is waiting for you on the other side!

  • LizB Says:

    Dear High School Liz,
    Be nicer to your mother for goodness sake.

  • Deb Says:

    younger me.

    You are doing some amazing things. Be proud and think even bigger. You should not be self-conscious. Your hair looks great!

    Stay late. IT will pay off.

    older me.

  • Courtney Says:

    Dear (younger) me: As frustrating as it was when people said this to you, things will work out. You will get a job (even with a BA in History), you will get your own place, you will become a (fun) adult. I promise. Those little things you’re choosing to do now – get that summer job, visit those friends in Baltimore – will come back in a big way later.

  • ginger Says:

    dear ginger,

    do not second-guess that decision to have the baby. you are so right, and your life is about to change in wonderful ways, soon and forever. get ready for more love and joy than you can imagine (yet).

    the mama of your 14-yr old daughter

  • Leah Says:

    dear Leah,

    you don’t have to stay just to make other people happy. It’s alright to say No. If something makes you uncomfortable, just. say. no. It’s okay. Really, I promise.


    the Leah who usually knows when to say no even if she has to cry about it a little first

  • Maggie S Says:

    Dear young me,

    It is ok to fail. It is ok to be challenged. Don’t leave that really good school because things were more difficult than you were used to. You are capable of a lot.



  • Kaitlin Says:

    some people are like cancer, cut them out of your life.

    it gets better. i promise.

    be nicer to your mother, she is the best person you will ever meet.

  • melissa Says:

    Dear Younger Me,
    Nothing is going to turn out the way you planned, but you’re in for a beautiful ride. Try not to worry so much – just enjoy yourself!

  • Jessica Says:

    Dear Self,

    It gets easier and it gets harder. You are capable of so much more than you thought. Don’t waste so much time feeling inadaquate. Value the relationships you have and be open to new ones.

  • Lindsey Says:

    dear younger lindsey,

    recognize what you want and go for it.

    try city living.

    love yourself a little more.

    it will all work out the way it is supposed to.

  • elz Says:

    Stop trying so hard. You are a good person, you make the right decisions. Stop and breathe. Oh, and don’t cut your hair short. Trust me, it is not a good look.

  • Holly B Says:

    Dear little Holly:

    Things won’t work out as you planned but that’s okay.


  • Elizabeth M. Says:

    Dear 20 year old liz: Don’t hold back. Don’t forget to do what is in your heart. Don’t try on other people’s suggestions to see how they fit. Just go. and do. AND HAVE MORE FUN.

  • Katie Says:

    Dear Me,

    Don’t worry so much what other people think it isn’t really as important as you make it. Also, being sympathetic to other is good – putting their feelings above your own – NOT SO MUCH!!

    P.S. Start dying your hair sooner!! You won’t be able to once you have to get a job.

  • Rebecca Says:

    You were raised in a nurturing, loving but very protective and sheltered bubble. Let this knowledge salt your speech – (most) other people did not grow up in such an environment

  • lorie Says:

    Love yourself now instead of waiting for better years to come. Quit skipping classes.

  • K8 Says:

    You’re not fat. No, really.

  • Samantha Says:

    Go to that Bar Mitzvah!

  • Amy Says:

    You’ll never have it all figured out and that’s okay. Just have fun, make good choices and enjoy where that gets you. Throw some bold choices in there as well. The best things come from those.

  • Rin Says:

    Force yourself to do it. If you don’t come out with a win, you’ll at least come out with the stories to get you through a few cocktail/holiday parties.

  • Knighton Says:

    Dear Younger Jennifer,

    Lighten up already. You’re way too young to be this damn serious. It’s ok, even necessary, to have more fun.

    Love you, Older Jennifer

  • kathy Says:

    That little voice that says you should be paying more attention to what you’re spending on and not spending with such free abandon? It is right; please listen to it.

  • Danielle Says:

    Dear younger me,

    You are sexier than you are giving yourself credit for. Live a little, be a little more bold, have some fun.

  • Sharon Allen Says:

    I would tell my younger self to not start smoking.

  • pam Says:

    be bold and daring. you are young and hot and cute and you don’t need to settle. so stop it!

  • Tara Says:

    I would tell my younger self to learn more about college before GOING to college (as the first in the family). I had little guidance about career options and there are so many things i wish i’d studied.

  • Katie Says:

    I would tell my younger self to never settle – it’s just not worth it. You know what you want. Choose that and nothing less.

  • Becky Says:

    Two pieces of advice for my younger self: one (like the previous poster) is to wear a bikini; it’s never going to better than now. The other is that the best way to get the love you want is to have self respect and limits, not by letting those go.

  • Karyn Says:

    You are a smart girl, please wear sunscreen.

  • Meg Says:

    Dear Younger Self,
    He IS going to break your heart. And when he says he doesn’t want to date, he really means he doesn’t want to day you. Don’t settle for him. Something better comes along, I promise.
    Older Self

  • Kristen Says:

    Dear Self,

    It gets better. Hang in.

    P.S. You’re pale. Sorry. Wear the sunscreen.

  • Amanda Says:

    Dear Self,
    Be proud of your body and confident in your brain. Dream bigger!! Dont use that credit card. Talk to your mom more. Dont be so judgmental. Relax, be yourself. I love you.

  • Priscilla Says:

    Dear Younger Self,

    Listen to your parents. They mean well and love you so much!!!

    P.S. Don’t follow every trend.

  • Stephanie Says:

    Dear younger self,

    Don’t go for the guy that looks like a vamp,

    He wants only one thing and its not your blood!

    P.S. Clean your room more often!

  • mjb Says:

    Get out there! Have fun! Make friends!

  • Susan Says:

    advice to my younger self – show your confidence. don’t be afraid to be who you are. have fun more often.

  • Wehaf Says:

    Don’t worry so much about being perfect. Mistakes are okay. Almost anything that goes wrong can be fixed; almost nothing that goes wrong will ruin your life.

  • April Moore Skelton Says:

    Dear Younger Self, be nicer to people, especially in middle school. Stand up for those who don’t have friends. Include people. You will value this tremendously when you are older.

  • Joanne Says:

    If you think he’s not right for you he probably isn’t – and no he’s never going to change

  • Erin Says:


    I know you’re crazy about him. But think for a minute about what kind of husband he would make–even what kind of roommate for that matter! You love how he is spontaneous and wakes you up in the middle of the night and surprises you–but once you guys are grown-ups, sleeping at night might be nice. Also, even though it seems silly now, eventually you will want someone who will occasionally help you do something (care for offspring, wash a dish, cut the grass) instead of sleeping all day.

    Still have his baby. You love that little guy and he’s totally worth it. But don’t get married. Divorce in SC is kind of a bitch. You’d probably be happier if you didn’t even live with him, honey.

  • sara Says:

    dear me,
    spend more time dreaming about who you want to be and then chase those dreams. drop the guy.
    love you,

  • schmutzie Says:

    RELAX, young lady. It gets so much better that you’re going to want to stick this one out.

  • Cait Says:

    Dearest, darlingest Cait: It’s not that you are stupid, it’s that you are dyslexic. Don’t beat yourself up because your brain works differently.

  • Elaina Says:

    Listen to the wisdom someone kindly imparts, but make up your own mind about what you want to do or which direction you want your life to take.

  • MSimone Says:

    Never take school too seriously. Especially if you end up sending 8 years there.

  • leeshka Says:

    Don’t get married so young. Seriously. You need to do more traveling. He might not even be the right one for you. Just sayin’.

  • Jemia Says:

    Do an internship while you’re still in school. Grades aren’t the most important thing.

  • Tera Stephens Says:

    Love your body today because it isn’t getting any younger and won’t look like this tomorrow!

  • Christina M Says:

    Dear Christina,

    That fellow who told you not too smile so much was an idiot. Who cares what he thinks. Don’t be afraid to show your Happy to the world. It’s good.


  • Hannah Says:

    Hey babe,
    I know ice cream for breakfast seems like a good idea – it’s not.

    (Well, at least not more than once.)


  • Paco Says:

    Yeah, you probably don’t need 3 computers & 3 monitors at this point in your life.

  • elsimom Says:

    You’ve got a rockin’ bod – show it off now – you’ll wish you had!

  • Sarah Mags Says:

    Dear Younger Sarah,

    Don’t wait until you are 30 to realize that it doesn’t really matter what other people think. Just be yourself and relish the freedom.


    Your Older and Wiser Self

  • Andree Close Says:

    To my younger self,

    Just keep running. Give it all you’ve got! You are faster then you think! Trust me!

  • Jenny Says:

    Dear Younger Self,

    Travel more.


  • Panduh Says:

    Don’t be dumb.

  • Faetra Says:

    Don’t waste your time on the ones who don’t love you back.

  • shoba Says:

    Don’t be afraid to be yourself.

  • Dawn Says:

    Listen to that little voice in your head. The one that tells you that the young man who never raised so much as his voice to you, will eventually hit someone.

  • wo of the west Says:

    be yourself

  • Sarah Says:

    See those dreams? Don’t let go of them. Most are just within your reach, even if you don’t realize it.

  • Ally Says:

    Younger self, please stop using so much hair gel. The crunchy look is not fashion-forward. It is tragic.

  • rach Says:

    Have faith in yourself, and in the future.

    I still need reminding of this!

  • Tricia Says:

    Live in the here and now. The worst regret is looking back and thinking, “You didn’t know how good you had it then.”

  • ricer Says:

    stop worrying about everything.

  • Erin Says:

    Dear college me,
    Have sex with a select few more people. Seriously, it’s OK.

    Love, married with kid you.

  • Emily Says:

    Let your sense of humor shine through in all that you do.

  • Susan Says:

    Dear 19-year-old me,

    No, do not get that credit card.


  • amy Says:

    Dear Younger Me,
    Stop taking yourself so seriously. Have more fun. Kiss Dave & try out a summer fling.
    Older & supposedly wiser me

  • Katie Says:

    Worry less. It’s not worth the years you’re taking off your life.

  • Meg Says:

    don’t buy jeans a size smaller as motivation- it will only make you feel fat and then you will eat chocolate yo feel better.

  • Jill Says:

    Good lord, I still berate myself for this one: HEY! YOUNGER SELF—do your senior year abroad in Spain. Missing your last year of high school with your friends is nothing compared to what could have been.

  • Judi Says:

    Dump him. you can, and will, do so much better. Be single and enjoy it for a while.

  • Amber Says:

    Just relax. Seriously. You’ve been 30 since you were 15. When you’re over 30…you’ll wish you had time to be 15 again!

  • Annika Says:

    Stay away from him. You will never forgive him.

  • vanessa Says:

    Dear Younger Self — you can afford that house in Irvington! Buy!

  • Holly Says:

    Learn how to take a compliment before the hubs stops giving them.

  • Jen Says:

    It is okay to feel that hard stuff. You don’t have to try and worry it away, or run to help everybody else when it hurts. You and I have a lot to offer ourselves — my strength comes from your sorrows.

  • Kim Says:

    A good fuck is not love!

  • nic Says:

    Be nice to your family.

    Quit throwing up.

  • Kate in the Shade Says:

    Quit caring so much about what everyone thinks.

  • monica Says:

    you’re allowed to drink a little in college. it’s college, after all…

  • Gabi Says:

    Major in English — when you get to where you’re going, you’ll understand why.

  • Sarah Says:

    Dear lil girl,
    It turned out ok, but it didn’t have to be that hard. Make the right decisions, have faith in yourself, you are loved and worthwhile. Go. Be. Do.

  • Paula Says:

    dear younger self,

    Sleep with him, you’ll regret it for your life that you didn’t

    Study abroad in Italy for a semester!

    older wiser and sad I missed out self

  • Kat C Says:

    Get a bra that really fits.

  • Adrianna Says:

    Dear younger self,

    Quit the “tortured genius” act. You are neither of those things, and you’re just making life worse for yourself and everyone around you.

    And keep up the interest in redheaded guys. It pays off big time.

    Your older self

  • Leanne Says:

    The things you’re worrying about aren’t going to end up being as important as they feel right now. Also, you’re doing a great job. Don’t be so hard on yourself.

  • Julie S. Says:

    Pride is so much easier to hang on to when you give up on getting in the last word.

  • Amy Says:

    Dear younger me,
    Don’t give your heart away to every boy you date. Someday you will marry an incredible man and much of the heartache could have been avoided. Also, travel more in college. Every chance you get. Live on your own a little longer. Listen to your fiancé when he says october is a better month to get married than in the heat of July. Don’t use credit. Don’t buy that car new.

    Love you anyway, older me

  • Sif Says:

    Memo to younger self:
    Enjoy the moment and don’t worry so much about what’s around the corner. It is all good!
    Big kiss xxx

  • Michelle Says:

    Enjoy your child-free freedom to the FULLEST.

  • Caitlin Says:

    Get more sleep.

  • Erika Says:

    Before having a family live as much as you can because everything you know before you have kids becomes something you can teach them.

  • Ailidh Says:

    Dear younger me: you are okay. Really, just fine. Relax. Also, it is worth noting, the new isn’t always better. And, don’t sleep with Will Hutchinson. It’s a big mistake.

  • Louise Says:

    Don’t stop doing sports because you think you aren’t “good at sports” – it doesn’t matter if you are or not! Just play!

  • Nicole Says:

    Stay cool.

  • laura N. Says:

    Dear younger me: You don’t always have to say something, you don’t always have to fill the silence. Keep your mouth shut sometimes and see what happens!
    -Now me

  • Michelle Says:

    Don’t take things so seriously. It’s not the end of the world

  • ~Heather Says:

    Take an extra chance or two, turn off the tv, you found some fantastic friends.

  • Meredith Says:

    Dear Self –
    Relax. You’ll figure it out.
    Spread love where ever you go.
    Good things happen to good people.

  • Susan H. Says:

    Dear Self:

    Take that trip to Europe. Your career will still be there in a year.

  • Abby S. Says:

    The future is good, so stop worrying about it and enjoy the now.

  • Jaclyn Says:

    Advice to my younger self: Break more rules while you can still get away with it.

  • Quin Says:

    Oh, 21-year-old self: Moving to Scotland with that boy is Such a Bad Idea. There will come a day when you’ll regret it.

    Do it anyhow. (The regret won’t last as long as the fantastic memories.)

  • amelia Says:

    Younger Self,

    let’s not make out with him, or him…you can skip that guy and that other guy as well, hmmkay?

  • Dorice Says:

    Don’t be afraid of making mistakes or looking like a fool in front of others!

  • Regina Says:

    Dear younger self,
    You are beautiful and awesome, but please stop being such a melodramatic little fool about That One Guy. He is a tool and so not worth it. Also, stop reading so much Hermann Hesse and go for a bike ride already. I know you won’t but I love you anyway.
    Older Self.

  • Heather C. Says:

    Quit your job. It’s not worth it and you will find something that you actually enjoy.

  • Jenn Says:

    Dear 8 year old self…please don’t ride down the biggest hill in the neighborhood on a bike with no brakes! You just might crash and break your front tooth, have to get a root canal and a crown, leaving you permanently afraid of dentists for life!

  • Jenn Says:

    That feeling you have that all this drama won’t be very important soon? It’s correct. Go with it.

  • Brittany Says:

    That guy with the beard? He’s the one. Make lots of babies with him soon because early menopause is a b*tch.


    Don’t put off things you could do today because you are waiting for the perfect moment.

  • sarah Says:

    dear younger self:
    don’t use a credit card for things you cannot afford

  • Victoria Says:

    Dear Younger Me,
    Worry less & enjoy more.

  • Christy Says:

    Dear Younger Self,
    Don’t worry so much about that chipped, front tooth. No one else is thinking about it. Stay true to yourself and don’t worry about the snaggle. It’ll be fixed up soon enough.

  • kelli Says:

    Buy the chairs. Just buy them. They’re on clearance and you’ll never see them again. Don’t let this be something that you regret. (Too late!)