Tags: advice, college, kids
Coming from a mom of a 15 year old girl.
It is hard for me to envision me “making her” do ANYTHING. I can’t even get the kid to clean her room half the time.
I do love the momversations. Thanks Maggie.
i’ll encourage them both to go to college, and i’ll assume that they will, but i’ve never been able to make them do much of anything! my daughter was accepted to college this month (she’s deferring a year to travel in india), and due to the fact that 1)we’re broke and 2)she’s a smarty pants, she’s scoring tons of financial aid. if we had saved anything for her college, it would only count against us in the financial aid tally-up.
Way too close to home! No we haven’t saved nearly enough although grandparents have come through. Son is off to college next year although he did say that he just wants to do what ever he wants and not go to college. He is an artist. After much discussion, he’s giving it a shot for a year or two.
Maggie your right, college can help make the path easier but it’s not the only way.
Parents should be more concerned about whether they let their kids fail and pick themselves up. You can be there for the major blow ups, but they have to start driving their life by the time they’re done with high school. If they can articulate a plan great, otherwise college can help to polish those ideas.
Turns out our son while he doesn’t tell us everything is taking ownership of his future more than we thought. What you do with what you know is what matters in life.
Hmmm. I do not/will not have kids, but I can say this from my own personal experience — not only did I not go to college of any sort, but I am also a high school dropout. Not because I was a poor student, but because I was a very good student who was extremely upset with the American educational system. I spent my sophomore year of high school in Geneva, Switzerland, saw that school could actually be about learning things instead of just passing meaningless tests, and dropped out almost immediately upon my return. I have been working and supporting myself since just before I turned 17 (I moved out of my parents’ house shortly after dropping out, for a variety of reasons). I have never even bothered to get my GED (though I’ve always lied about that on job applications).
Did all of this make my life harder than it might otherwise have been? Without question. Do I regret any of it? Absolutely not.
Now I’m 29, I’ve been the office administrator for a small company for nearly 5 years — a job I stay at because I adore the people I work for and they provide me with stellar health benefits (and since I have had a chronic illness since the age of 22, and currently average about $10,000 in monthly medical expenses, pre-insurance, this is kind of important).
Would I consider going to some sort of college now/in the future? Honestly, until the educational system turns into something that doesn’t make me really angry, then probably not.
I understand the feeling that a college education will open a lot of employment doors and what-have-you, but honestly, if that’s the only thing you’re getting out of it — if you spend four years of your life studying things you don’t care about very much at all, just so you can make more money later — is it really worth it? I don’t know, maybe it is for some people, or even most people…but it certainly was not/is not for me.