Comments on: What if your kid is gay? http://mightygirl.com/2009/08/05/what-if-your-kid-is-gay/ Famous Among Dozens Tue, 21 May 2013 15:53:19 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.4.1 By: Auntie Yolanda http://mightygirl.com/2009/08/05/what-if-your-kid-is-gay/#comment-1195937 Auntie Yolanda Tue, 11 Aug 2009 23:41:01 +0000 http://mightygirl.com/?p=4585#comment-1195937 My best friend was gay. He was godfather to my sons. I would like to think that not only did he model good fashion sense, but introduced them to the concept that men could do anything women can with a few exceptions. Today my sons cook, change diapers, do laundry, discuss parenting tips and go to work. If either one is holding out on "coming out" I wish they would cut loose and let it all hang out. Carpe diem! My best friend was gay. He was godfather to my sons. I would like to think that not only did he model good fashion sense, but introduced them to the concept that men could do anything women can with a few exceptions. Today my sons cook, change diapers, do laundry, discuss parenting tips and go to work.
If either one is holding out on “coming out” I wish they would cut loose and let it all hang out. Carpe diem!

]]> By: Jessica http://mightygirl.com/2009/08/05/what-if-your-kid-is-gay/#comment-1195876 Jessica Mon, 10 Aug 2009 02:56:00 +0000 http://mightygirl.com/?p=4585#comment-1195876 My husband and I would absolutely be supportive, but I would have great concerns regarding my extended family. Most of my family is made of ultra-conservative Catholics and upon learning that my youngest sister is a lesbian and a cousin is gay, they openly discussed the "perversion that has infiltrated our family" at a BBQ. It was horrifying; not even my father stepped in to defend his daughter. I can understand why so many children have to wait until their college years or beyond to come out. My husband and I would absolutely be supportive, but I would have great concerns regarding my extended family.

Most of my family is made of ultra-conservative Catholics and upon learning that my youngest sister is a lesbian and a cousin is gay, they openly discussed the “perversion that has infiltrated our family” at a BBQ. It was horrifying; not even my father stepped in to defend his daughter.

I can understand why so many children have to wait until their college years or beyond to come out.

]]> By: Me http://mightygirl.com/2009/08/05/what-if-your-kid-is-gay/#comment-1195874 Me Mon, 10 Aug 2009 01:41:34 +0000 http://mightygirl.com/?p=4585#comment-1195874 PS: I live in Toronto Canada. Absolutely no big deal. Love is love. As long as she finds what I have, which I would want no matter the gender of her partner! PS: I live in Toronto Canada. Absolutely no big deal. Love is love. As long as she finds what I have, which I would want no matter the gender of her partner!

]]> By: Me http://mightygirl.com/2009/08/05/what-if-your-kid-is-gay/#comment-1195873 Me Mon, 10 Aug 2009 01:39:12 +0000 http://mightygirl.com/?p=4585#comment-1195873 I love it: the deep south or THE SUBURBS (don don don donnnnnnn) And loved the baby crawling off the couch behind one of the moms. And killer earings. I love it: the deep south or THE SUBURBS (don don don donnnnnnn)

And loved the baby crawling off the couch behind one of the moms.

And killer earings.

]]> By: Betsy http://mightygirl.com/2009/08/05/what-if-your-kid-is-gay/#comment-1195864 Betsy Sat, 08 Aug 2009 21:47:00 +0000 http://mightygirl.com/?p=4585#comment-1195864 Well, 'theambershow' we are sorry you are bored. (nice blog by the way) I will say I am 'very right leaning' but can discuss this topic. I have had to consider what my reaction would be because my college-age son has not started dating or interacting at all with opposite sex.(to my knowledge) So, of course, I've had to consider, and have been for years, how will I feel if he comes home and says... And I can honestly say. I love my son, support him and want his happiness. That's what I've always wanted, so it wouldn't stop in this instance either. I simply want him to be happy and fulfilled. On another note, it seems beyond ridiculous that a commentary intended to open doors to rid prejudice /stereotypes would then include the same in regard to the South and those who dwell there... Really? Ironic isn't it? Additional note, a close friend from from here (north) moved there (south) - Florida with her long time female partner and is not encountering an undue amount of bias. In fact, they are more welcomed where they are located now, than in the community they originally settled in San Jose, CA. Not a statement of anti-California Bias, just an instance of a friend doing okay in the South. And of course I'm speaking of adults and I know the discussion is about adolescents...who grow up to be adults, ideally. Well, ‘theambershow’ we are sorry you are bored. (nice blog by the way) I will say I am ‘very right leaning’ but can discuss this topic. I have had to consider what my reaction would be because my college-age son has not started dating or interacting at all with opposite sex.(to my knowledge) So, of course, I’ve had to consider, and have been for years, how will I feel if he comes home and says… And I can honestly say. I love my son, support him and want his happiness. That’s what I’ve always wanted, so it wouldn’t stop in this instance either. I simply want him to be happy and fulfilled.
On another note, it seems beyond ridiculous that a commentary intended to open doors to rid prejudice /stereotypes would then include the same in regard to the South and those who dwell there… Really?
Ironic isn’t it?
Additional note, a close friend from from here (north) moved there (south) – Florida with her long time female partner and is not encountering an undue amount of bias. In fact, they are more welcomed where they are located now, than in the community they originally settled in San Jose, CA. Not a statement of anti-California Bias, just an instance of a friend doing okay in the South. And of course I’m speaking of adults and I know the discussion is about adolescents…who grow up to be adults, ideally.

]]> By: Leah http://mightygirl.com/2009/08/05/what-if-your-kid-is-gay/#comment-1195846 Leah Fri, 07 Aug 2009 21:28:33 +0000 http://mightygirl.com/?p=4585#comment-1195846 Stephanie, A child I used to babysit for recently decided that she was a boy, wanted her hair cut short and wanted to wear boy's clothes. She was 6 years old. Her parents weren't quite sure what to make of it, but they went ahead and got her hair cut and gave her boys clothes to wear. They just did it matter-of-factly, and decided "not to worry about it until it was time to buy her a training bra." The girl is 9 years old now, and while she was a "boy" for around two years, she just stopped caring, and started being herself. She has stopped trying to define whether she is a girl or a boy, and stopped caring if people used feminine pronouns. I think she is not bothering to keep her hair short either. So, in my opinion, let kids be. If her parents had tried to restrict her who knows what would have happened, how unhappy she would have been, or how strongly she would have rebelled or resented them. I think that by the time she reaches high school, though, she will without a doubt be aware of her own sexuality and gender identity- or at least aware enough to question it (or not), and at that age, she should be allowed to make her own decisions and develop into the person she wants to be. High schoolers are a great deal more aware than we give them credit for. Allowing them to figure out "themselves" is an important part of their development and should definitely not be suppressed! Stephanie,
A child I used to babysit for recently decided that she was a boy, wanted her hair cut short and wanted to wear boy’s clothes. She was 6 years old.

Her parents weren’t quite sure what to make of it, but they went ahead and got her hair cut and gave her boys clothes to wear. They just did it matter-of-factly, and decided “not to worry about it until it was time to buy her a training bra.”

The girl is 9 years old now, and while she was a “boy” for around two years, she just stopped caring, and started being herself. She has stopped trying to define whether she is a girl or a boy, and stopped caring if people used feminine pronouns. I think she is not bothering to keep her hair short either.

So, in my opinion, let kids be. If her parents had tried to restrict her who knows what would have happened, how unhappy she would have been, or how strongly she would have rebelled or resented them.

I think that by the time she reaches high school, though, she will without a doubt be aware of her own sexuality and gender identity- or at least aware enough to question it (or not), and at that age, she should be allowed to make her own decisions and develop into the person she wants to be.

High schoolers are a great deal more aware than we give them credit for. Allowing them to figure out “themselves” is an important part of their development and should definitely not be suppressed!

]]> By: Em http://mightygirl.com/2009/08/05/what-if-your-kid-is-gay/#comment-1195825 Em Fri, 07 Aug 2009 16:38:58 +0000 http://mightygirl.com/?p=4585#comment-1195825 FYI, Step, not all gay men want to wear dresses. None of the gay men I know make it a regular practice. My child will have a gay grandfather and a lot of gay friends and aunts and uncles. That is just the way their world will be so if they are lucky enough to be gay as well than I think it will be a very supportive loving world he or she grows up in. The happier we make their universe, the less of a "hard time" kids will have, gay or straight. FYI, Step, not all gay men want to wear dresses. None of the gay men I know make it a regular practice.

My child will have a gay grandfather and a lot of gay friends and aunts and uncles. That is just the way their world will be so if they are lucky enough to be gay as well than I think it will be a very supportive loving world he or she grows up in. The happier we make their universe, the less of a “hard time” kids will have, gay or straight.

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