Comments on: In Front of the Children http://mightygirl.com/2009/07/31/in-front-of-the-children/ Famous Among Dozens Thu, 09 Feb 2012 00:09:26 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Trish http://mightygirl.com/2009/07/31/in-front-of-the-children/comment-page-1/#comment-1195798 Trish Thu, 06 Aug 2009 17:19:30 +0000 http://mightygirl.cm.fmpub.net/?p=4531#comment-1195798 We've always had a fairly nekkid policy around here. And by "we", I mean the kids and me. My husband grew up button-up so nudity has always been less comfortable for him. As the kids have gotten older, I've tried to cover up more. However, like many of the other commenters have stated, the kids still barge in when I'm showering, dressing, or "going." They know there's a good chance I'll be undressed, but they obviously haven't yet reached the point where they're embarrassed or they'd start knocking. My son, who's 9,has started requesting his privacy which we are happy to respect since more times than not, he dresses in the living room in front of our huge picture window. We’ve always had a fairly nekkid policy around here. And by “we”, I mean the kids and me. My husband grew up button-up so nudity has always been less comfortable for him. As the kids have gotten older, I’ve tried to cover up more. However, like many of the other commenters have stated, the kids still barge in when I’m showering, dressing, or “going.” They know there’s a good chance I’ll be undressed, but they obviously haven’t yet reached the point where they’re embarrassed or they’d start knocking. My son, who’s 9,has started requesting his privacy which we are happy to respect since more times than not, he dresses in the living room in front of our huge picture window.

]]> By: Megan http://mightygirl.com/2009/07/31/in-front-of-the-children/comment-page-1/#comment-1195763 Megan Wed, 05 Aug 2009 05:24:21 +0000 http://mightygirl.cm.fmpub.net/?p=4531#comment-1195763 My naked parents pushed me into having a cover-it-up attitude: No nude swimming (among non-sexual partners)! No showering in the backyard with the solar camping shower! But, I am pretty comfortable with my body, and I can go to the all-girl naked spa and deal. Something about my mom's gardening in a string bikini must have sunk in as a positive thing. My naked parents pushed me into having a cover-it-up attitude: No nude swimming (among non-sexual partners)! No showering in the backyard with the solar camping shower!

But, I am pretty comfortable with my body, and I can go to the all-girl naked spa and deal. Something about my mom’s gardening in a string bikini must have sunk in as a positive thing.

]]> By: teneisha http://mightygirl.com/2009/07/31/in-front-of-the-children/comment-page-1/#comment-1195748 teneisha Tue, 04 Aug 2009 18:21:01 +0000 http://mightygirl.cm.fmpub.net/?p=4531#comment-1195748 This was a fantastic Momversation. I snarfed a bit of my spaghetti when I heard "my dad's franks and beans". This was a fantastic Momversation. I snarfed a bit of my spaghetti when I heard “my dad’s franks and beans”.

]]> By: Megan http://mightygirl.com/2009/07/31/in-front-of-the-children/comment-page-1/#comment-1195736 Megan Tue, 04 Aug 2009 07:00:13 +0000 http://mightygirl.cm.fmpub.net/?p=4531#comment-1195736 Um. I had a completely uptight household as a kid. After I asked once - the first and last time - what that thing was my brother had, I never took a bath with him again. There was NO nudity, no accidental parental sex surprises. No-thing. I think that's connected to the fact that my first course at CAL was a feminism and porn class, I later taught a sex-ed class there to other uptight kids, did my Anthro film on SM women in the Bay Area and generally ran around causing trouble for four years once I'd left home. I now live in Germany, married to a totally naked-at-home guy. His parents run around in their underwear when we visit. And you know what? I am still learning to be ok with it all. The uptight feeling remains in the background. First two years of going to the co-ed neekid sauna and I was still strategizing how to best get from shower to towel to sauna and back with the least exposure. I say let it all hang out at home and help encourage your kids to grow up with fewer hangups. We pick up enough along the way anyway. MY goal is not to pass this trait down the family line any further. Um. I had a completely uptight household as a kid. After I asked once – the first and last time – what that thing was my brother had, I never took a bath with him again. There was NO nudity, no accidental parental sex surprises. No-thing.

I think that’s connected to the fact that my first course at CAL was a feminism and porn class, I later taught a sex-ed class there to other uptight kids, did my Anthro film on SM women in the Bay Area and generally ran around causing trouble for four years once I’d left home.

I now live in Germany, married to a totally naked-at-home guy. His parents run around in their underwear when we visit.

And you know what? I am still learning to be ok with it all. The uptight feeling remains in the background. First two years of going to the co-ed neekid sauna and I was still strategizing how to best get from shower to towel to sauna and back with the least exposure.

I say let it all hang out at home and help encourage your kids to grow up with fewer hangups. We pick up enough along the way anyway. MY goal is not to pass this trait down the family line any further.

]]> By: cee http://mightygirl.com/2009/07/31/in-front-of-the-children/comment-page-1/#comment-1195695 cee Mon, 03 Aug 2009 18:53:56 +0000 http://mightygirl.cm.fmpub.net/?p=4531#comment-1195695 I'm in my twenties and I still see my mom naked. I’m in my twenties and I still see my mom naked.

]]> By: Alissa http://mightygirl.com/2009/07/31/in-front-of-the-children/comment-page-1/#comment-1195694 Alissa Mon, 03 Aug 2009 15:08:36 +0000 http://mightygirl.cm.fmpub.net/?p=4531#comment-1195694 We're a naked house too. Your song is great, at our house we sing (in a very sing-songy way): I see your hiney, it's white and shiny it makes me giggle to see it wiggle We’re a naked house too. Your song is great, at our house we sing (in a very sing-songy way):

I see your hiney, it’s white and shiny
it makes me giggle to see it wiggle

]]> By: nursery bedding http://mightygirl.com/2009/07/31/in-front-of-the-children/comment-page-1/#comment-1195693 nursery bedding Mon, 03 Aug 2009 13:52:58 +0000 http://mightygirl.cm.fmpub.net/?p=4531#comment-1195693 Totally agree what dgm said. Boys won't tell you when they're uncomfortable seeing you naked. It's a fact...so you'd better put your clothes on :) Totally agree what dgm said. Boys won’t tell you when they’re uncomfortable seeing you naked. It’s a fact…so you’d better put your clothes on :)

]]> By: dgm http://mightygirl.com/2009/07/31/in-front-of-the-children/comment-page-1/#comment-1195690 dgm Mon, 03 Aug 2009 13:05:31 +0000 http://mightygirl.cm.fmpub.net/?p=4531#comment-1195690 I had always assumed that my kids would "let me know" when it was times to stop with the nakedness. Sure enough, my daughter did--when she was about 7 or 8, she suddenly turned very modest about being naked around us or seeing us naked. When I went to a mother-daughter class with her on puberty and sex, the instructor (who was very progressive and open-minded) said, several times, "Mothers, do not be naked in front of your sons after toddlerhood. You will screw up their healthy sexuality." Boys, she said, will not let you know when they are uncomfortable seeing you naked BECAUSE THEY WON'T BE. They come into sexual feelings early, and they don't understand them, and from a very young age they are visual creatures who enjoy seeing women naked, plain and simple. That turned it around for me. I had always assumed that my kids would “let me know” when it was times to stop with the nakedness. Sure enough, my daughter did–when she was about 7 or 8, she suddenly turned very modest about being naked around us or seeing us naked. When I went to a mother-daughter class with her on puberty and sex, the instructor (who was very progressive and open-minded) said, several times, “Mothers, do not be naked in front of your sons after toddlerhood. You will screw up their healthy sexuality.” Boys, she said, will not let you know when they are uncomfortable seeing you naked BECAUSE THEY WON’T BE. They come into sexual feelings early, and they don’t understand them, and from a very young age they are visual creatures who enjoy seeing women naked, plain and simple.

That turned it around for me.

]]> By: Kelly http://mightygirl.com/2009/07/31/in-front-of-the-children/comment-page-1/#comment-1195689 Kelly Mon, 03 Aug 2009 06:16:33 +0000 http://mightygirl.cm.fmpub.net/?p=4531#comment-1195689 HA! Love this Momversation. And that's saying quite a lot, since a)I'm not a mom and b)I don't plan to be. Nevertheless, every girl needs a little momversation, right? The Nakey Song is totally stuck in my head now, though. HA! Love this Momversation. And that’s saying quite a lot, since a)I’m not a mom and b)I don’t plan to be. Nevertheless, every girl needs a little momversation, right?

The Nakey Song is totally stuck in my head now, though.

]]> By: misstraceynolan http://mightygirl.com/2009/07/31/in-front-of-the-children/comment-page-1/#comment-1195685 misstraceynolan Sun, 02 Aug 2009 19:06:36 +0000 http://mightygirl.cm.fmpub.net/?p=4531#comment-1195685 PS - gotta say, liking the little added production values on this episode of Momversation. PS – gotta say, liking the little added production values on this episode of Momversation.

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