Mighty Life List
Mar 10 2009

Pity the Fool, a Quotation

From a A Cup of Joe:

“I must learn to love the fool in me–the one who feels too much, talks too much, takes too many chances, wins sometimes and loses often, lacks self-control, loves and hates, hurts and gets hurt, promises and breaks promises, laughs and cries. It alone protects me against that utterly self-controlled, masterful tyrant whom I also harbor and who would rob me of human aliveness, humility, and dignity but for my fool.” — Theodore I. Rubin, MD

10 Responses to “Pity the Fool, a Quotation”

  • allison Says:

    My counselor just gave this to me a few weeks ago on a bookmark. I read it and said, “Yes!” Counselors are like cups of joe, right?

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  • Betsey Says:

    This is awesome. I was thinking earlier about my grandfather who passed away at age 92, at his own doing, who died on his own terms. He ‘acted the fool’ and had an amazing time doing it. By doing so, he brought a light, humor, and joviality into lives that otherwise wouldn’t have existed. And that folks, is why I do not begrudge him his suicide. At age 92, he deserved to leave the world on his terms. 2 years ago I wouldn’t have said this, but now I do. Thanks Maggie.

  • darcy Says:

    But boy oh boy is it hard to embrace that fool. Last year I was on a really horrible reality tv show (I survived a japanese game show) and I underperformed, missed my kids terribly and was basically just an utter fool, at the time I was horrified at my craziness, now I am kind of proud. I am sure I will act like an ass again soon, but I am going to save this quote, so I can refer to it.
    thanks maggie

  • poptart Says:

    Fantastic! I can relate to that so very much. I feel like I am stumbling through life somedays, promising this, running from that, wanting less, wanting more. This is true for so many of us! Thanks for sharing!

  • M.a. Says:

    I emailed myself this quote from Jo’s website just a few days ago…I love it! Thanks for reminding me. :)

  • Jessica Says:

    That really touched me today. And I really needed to hear it before I kicked my own ass to a bloody pulp. Thank you for sharing. I heart you.

  • It Alone Protects Me « InsideOutHappy Says:

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  • Elli Says:

    wow…punch to the gut. I love this. thank you.